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noamnety Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-19-08 12:22 PM
Response to Reply #94
96. The expenses when a child is at the other parents house
Edited on Wed Mar-19-08 12:39 PM by lwfern
are ALREADY addressed through abatement of support during that time. If they aren't, that parent needs to go back and get the agreement renegotiated.

The issue is that a noncustodial parent doesn't and should have unilateral authority to decide to replace support payments - which cover real financial needs that transcend whose house a child is at - with gifts. There's a reason there are controls in place, and that reason is that when the controls aren't there, they get abused.

So a parent will take the child out to a fancy restaurant dinner, or buy them toys, when their obligation to cover BASIC needs haven't been met. It's human nature - we see it often in adult relationships as well, often we try to "buy" affection through gifts. I'm not saying that always happens, but the controls are in place to ensure that it doesn't.

Meet the basic needs, and the rest can be paid however you want.

Arrearages are there because when you aren't paying support, in effect you are taking an interest free loan from the other parent without their consent.
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