Reply #79: no math suggestion!

[dlcloum31]

Your not actually giving us a math suggestion, that is exactly how it works. My husband brings home 35% of his gross income a month, so those children are well taken care of, at least I think so. As for the other mommies living in cardboard boxes, I hardly think so. First of all, one of the mothers works and makes a little more than my husband does and she has been on three vacations with her kids so far this summer. We haven't been able to afford to take our kids anywhere since they were born except for two trips to the zoo. Besides, we get along very well with this mother.

The mother in the other case that my husband has three children with, well that's a different story. We hope she would be taken good care of his kids, but she don't get any of the child support he pays because she has been living off of welfare for 18 years. That is where I feel my husband is "getting screwed" by the state. The state adds on fees upon fees upon fees because she refuses to get off her ass and get a damn job like the rest of us. If my husband can't afford to pay what they want him to, they just add it to arrears and then they add interest ever January and July.

Now I don't know if you know anything about welfare, but when I needed help once, I had to go through a "Work First" program. Until I found a job, I had to go to a program at Michigan Works for 40 hours a week to get help from the state. This "other mother" has no physical problems and has been collecting tax payers money and putting us in debt for 18 years. I hardly say that's fair.

One last thing. If you have ever been in love you would know that you can't chose not to love someone because of their past. So why should I have to live my life with no children because the man I love already had four from before me. That's not fair to me. And by the way, I do make a living to help support my family, it may not be alot, but at least I am not collecting welfare.