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TahitiNut Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-02-09 12:18 AM
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8. It's that and more.
Thanks. That's generous of you to say. She never regained consciousness since last night (Friday? I've lost track) and the last words I said to her then and the night before were that I loved her ... with words of support and encouragement (keeping the stiff upper lip and all). I didn't want my last memories to be painted with more of her (I'd infer) suffering and pending demise. I saw into the ICU unit in which she was lying and saw enough as it was. My step-sister (a 'good Catholic' (really)) did me the favor of staying there while I went outside and waited. Once they removed the ventilation tube, it was relatively quick and painless, she said.

My father, who wasn't around for half of my 'broken home' growing up, died about 30 years ago. He had a massive coronary while leaning off a bar stool in the VFW to light a gal's cigarette. The medical folks at the hospital said he was probably dead before he hit the floor. They asked if I wanted to see his body ... but I demurred. It's not something I do unless I can't avoid it.

I think I made the best choices I was capable of making. I'll hopefully not have regrets in the future for not doing the "right thing" -- which is my "Death Of The Hired Man" litmus test.

It's tough living in 'her' house with 'her' stuff all around ... and being alone after 6.5 years of being constantly conscious of her well-being (listening to hear if she falls, etc.). That's what's going to be rough, I guess.

At some point, I guess I'll start having daily cries/weepings for a while ... which experience tells me is my 'way' ... but at this point I'm so tired, stressed, and whacked out it's hard to even climb stairs or pour myself a lemonade. I have LOTS of 'housekeeping' to do ... lots. I'm not good at facing such depressing solitary tasks, either. Oh well.
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  -Detroit area DU meet-up Friday, August 21 SharonRB  Jul-31-09 11:23 AM   #0 
  - We're in!  PassingFair   Jul-31-09 07:37 PM   #1 
  - will miss it by 2 days  handmade34   Aug-01-09 02:59 AM   #2 
  - Crap...  PassingFair   Aug-01-09 01:50 PM   #4 
  - Mark me as a tentative attendee.  TahitiNut   Aug-01-09 10:39 AM   #3 
  - I might be able to convice Mrs.G to show up if YOU'RE there....  PassingFair   Aug-01-09 01:51 PM   #5 
     - That'd sure light a fire under my lazy butt, too.  TahitiNut   Aug-01-09 08:36 PM   #6 
     - Crap.  PassingFair   Aug-01-09 10:59 PM   #7 
     - It's that and more.  TahitiNut   Aug-02-09 12:18 AM   #8 
        - I remember sitting around in my bathrobe, playing  PassingFair   Aug-02-09 12:27 AM   #9 
        - After almost a year and a half  SharonRB   Aug-02-09 09:32 AM   #13 
        - TahitiNut, so very sorry for your loss. You did well and made a difference in her life.  Mnemosyne    Aug-03-09 12:24 PM   #19 
           - Thank you.  TahitiNut   Aug-03-09 02:45 PM   #20 
              - Hang in there, it will ease.  Mnemosyne    Aug-04-09 03:25 PM   #24 
     - Good job.  Festivito   Aug-02-09 07:29 AM   #10 
     - That's a facet I'm vaguely seeing.  TahitiNut   Aug-02-09 10:40 AM   #15 
        - Pneumonia, the old person's friend.  Festivito   Aug-02-09 11:41 PM   #18 
     - I'm so sorry, Tahiti  SharonRB   Aug-02-09 09:29 AM   #12 
     - Yes, I remember that well ... and "sat shiva" in my heart for you, then.  TahitiNut   Aug-02-09 10:22 AM   #14 
        - I'm hoping MrScorpio can come  SharonRB   Aug-02-09 11:29 AM   #16 
     - Please allow me to offer my condolences. My Mother  auntAgonist   Aug-02-09 02:25 PM   #17 
     - I appreciate it.  TahitiNut   Aug-03-09 02:49 PM   #21 
        - I am so very sorry.  ScreamingMeemie   Aug-03-09 05:09 PM   #22 
     - I am sorry for your loss  michreject   Aug-04-09 08:36 PM   #25 
     - Tahiti, I am so very sorry for your loss. Take care.  livvy   Aug-05-09 08:26 PM   #28 
        - Thanks! I sure could use some boovie kisses these days.  TahitiNut   Aug-06-09 01:56 AM   #31 
           - I'm sure no apology is necessary.  livvy   Aug-06-09 10:12 AM   #33 
           - Don't worry about it, Tahiti  SharonRB   Aug-06-09 01:46 PM   #35 
              - There's 'Tavern on the Main' in Clawson.  TahitiNut   Aug-06-09 03:05 PM   #37 
                 - I'm guessing 15-20 people  SharonRB   Aug-06-09 03:14 PM   #38 
     - Great  SharonRB   Aug-02-09 08:58 AM   #11 
  - Would love to attend but have family coming in from out of state  1gobluedem   Aug-03-09 07:24 PM   #23 
  - I might be able to make it. n/t  auntAgonist   Aug-04-09 08:44 PM   #26 
  - That would be great.  SharonRB   Aug-04-09 08:45 PM   #27 
  - Sounds like fun!  livvy   Aug-05-09 08:31 PM   #29 
  - I expect you to attend.  SharonRB   Aug-05-09 08:36 PM   #30 
     - WooHooo! Well I guess I'll just have to be there, then.  livvy   Aug-06-09 09:56 AM   #32 
  - let me know where  kpominville   Aug-06-09 12:08 PM   #34 
  - It would be great to see you.  SharonRB   Aug-06-09 01:46 PM   #36 
  - Sadly, or happily for some of you, we will only be in town for the 16th  ScreamingMeemie   Aug-08-09 04:03 PM   #39 
     - Oh Laura! I was so hoping it would work out for you to be there.  auntAgonist   Aug-08-09 08:33 PM   #40 

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