Reply #9: i held off on joining DU for a year

[miss_kitty]

too many rules. but i have spent a year on a free forum site doing admin work and being trolled by strangers and now being trolled by my ex-best internet friend who is also a guest admin at the site

one thing i have learned is that on-line fights are not worth it.
the webmaster there is wise beyond his years and a small very educational part of his FAQ reads:

"I don't like your site /views. What do I do?

If you're stupid enough to take everything literally and get all worked up over it, go to another site. It's very, very easy...Writing to say that I'm a racist, insensitive, that I hate women /this /that is not gonna help, so save yourself a few minutes. I know what I am and what I'm not, so what you think I am, it's not that high on my "things to lose sleep over" list. If you disagree and got opinions, feel more than free to say what you got to say by posting a comment."

i still slip into the emotional thing, but i am much better at 'reigning it in' and using my self-edit chip.

when you have a site that is as huge as this one is, i guess some rules need to be set out, since we weren't all raised in a house where manners and decorum were an important part of life.

if you're still changing, it's proof you are still alive.