Xithras
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Mon Nov-21-11 02:04 PM
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| Simple question: You have two married friends. One starts cheating. Do you tell the other? |
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This popped up last weekend and has me torn. I have two friends who have been married about 10 years and have two young daughters. My wife and I have been friends with them for about four years now. Without getting into the gory details, something happened this weekend that revealed that the wife is not only having a full-on sexual relationship with a guy who isn't her husband, but that it may have been going on for quite a while.
Would you tell the husband? I know him pretty well, and he's not the kind of guy who would be OK with this or look the other way, so I assume that he's in the dark about it.
If you were married and your spouse was cheating, would you want your friends to tell you if they found out?
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| -Simple question: You have two married friends. One starts cheating. Do you tell the other? |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 02:04 PM |
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when they start doing these things they never think what a position they put their |
rurallib |
Nov-21-11 02:22 PM |
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It's not simple and don't be so sure about your friend... |
Phentex |
Nov-21-11 02:24 PM |
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I doubt that. |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 02:48 PM |
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I would want to know. |
dawg |
Nov-21-11 02:27 PM |
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ugh |
Kali |
Nov-21-11 02:30 PM |
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No, I absolutely don't want to do that. |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 02:56 PM |
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People don't really know the reality of a marriage unless they're in it |
EFerrari |
Nov-21-11 02:37 PM |
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if you're ok with losing both your friends. i mean it might still be worth it to you |
La Lioness Priyanka |
Nov-21-11 02:52 PM |
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The valient thing to do is inform your pal. That way you are still the pal. |
RedCloud |
Nov-21-11 02:57 PM |
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True, but... |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 03:06 PM |
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When my wife was cheating on me... |
RedCloud |
Nov-21-11 03:39 PM |
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Just tell him you've heard some rumors. |
dawg |
Nov-21-11 03:08 PM |
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No WAY would I get up in that--in ANY way shape or form. |
davsand |
Nov-21-11 03:10 PM |
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That last bit would be pretty tough. |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 03:46 PM |
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I called a friend at work and told her to go home immediately where the cheating was in progress. |
AtomicKitten |
Nov-21-11 03:10 PM |
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No, keep out of it. |
elleng |
Nov-21-11 03:12 PM |
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Ditto. n/t |
RebelOne |
Nov-21-11 03:29 PM |
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If you know FOR SURE.... |
BrendaBrick |
Nov-21-11 03:23 PM |
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0% doubt.. (cheaters shouldn't take cellphone photos). |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 04:15 PM |
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I don't know much about pics and videos on phones but wouldn't the cheater see that your wife |
seaglass |
Nov-22-11 01:58 PM |
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Depends on whether they are both your friends, or just one is your friend. |
jobycom |
Nov-21-11 03:31 PM |
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I wouldn't call either my "best friend". |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 04:27 PM |
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After reading the above explanation... |
jobycom |
Nov-21-11 06:18 PM |
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Yes. |
Lance_Boyle |
Nov-21-11 03:42 PM |
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that is a pretty sordid tale |
suninvited |
Nov-21-11 04:31 PM |
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Lol, yeah. I gave her a bit of a hard time about that. And I need to learn to summarize. |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 04:48 PM |
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Yes. She's exposing him to diseases if nothing else, that isn't fair. |
riderinthestorm |
Nov-21-11 04:38 PM |
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No, it's their business |
bigwillq |
Nov-21-11 04:41 PM |
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I think the best approach is to talk her into telling him |
Major Nikon |
Nov-21-11 04:43 PM |
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I'm agreeing with this more and more. |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 04:59 PM |
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I agree with the first part |
PRETZEL |
Nov-22-11 09:37 AM |
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Um... |
City of Mills |
Nov-21-11 04:55 PM |
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Does it bother you that your wife |
Ptah |
Nov-21-11 05:02 PM |
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Yes. |
Xithras |
Nov-21-11 05:16 PM |
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NO NO NO NO NO ! Been there, done that. |
trof |
Nov-21-11 05:30 PM |
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Butt out. It's really not your business, no matter how hard you try to justify it. |
Bunny |
Nov-21-11 05:42 PM |
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BAM! TRUE. |
trof |
Nov-21-11 06:42 PM |
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Thank YOU, trof! |
Bunny |
Nov-21-11 06:58 PM |
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Two questions. Friend is appropriate gender? Knows what revenge sex is? n/t |
dimbear |
Nov-21-11 07:07 PM |
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Do everybody a favor and stay out. |
pa28 |
Nov-21-11 07:25 PM |
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How would you feel if you later found out the husband got AIDS? |
DebJ |
Nov-21-11 07:36 PM |
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I know right. I can't believe that's not even a consideration for so many on this thread. |
riderinthestorm |
Nov-21-11 07:44 PM |
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How would you feel if you later found out the husband got AIDS? |
DebJ |
Nov-21-11 07:36 PM |
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I did. |
JNelson6563 |
Nov-22-11 08:28 AM |
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You have two married friends. One starts cheating. |
snooper2 |
Nov-22-11 09:42 AM |
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Once the friend asked your wife to lie, she involved her in the affair. |
VenusRising |
Nov-22-11 10:35 AM |
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yep |
Kali |
Nov-22-11 01:40 PM |
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I print the photos as 8x10 glossys... |
Chan790 |
Nov-22-11 01:51 PM |
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This, for me, is 'I'm outta here' territory: it's that never-never world where somebody |
struggle4progress |
Nov-22-11 01:57 PM |
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