| 42. Not what I had in mind, but if it pleases you, so be it |
| -21st Century Etiquette Breaches. Your Favorites? |
MineralMan |
Aug-06-11 07:08 PM |
#0 |
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Use of first name by cashiers/customer service reps/sales people who have no previous relationship |
REP |
Aug-06-11 08:26 PM |
#1 |
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Yes, but retailers who force their clerks to wear name badges |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 08:00 AM |
#8 |
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Not what I had in mind, but if it pleases you, so be it |
REP |
Aug-07-11 03:04 PM |
#42 |
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I posted a thread about the stupid bank... |
Phentex |
Aug-07-11 08:37 AM |
#12 |
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I worked in a bank |
tabbycat31 |
Aug-07-11 09:28 PM |
#59 |
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I never really minded when they just looked at my deposit slip or something... |
Phentex |
Aug-08-11 08:50 AM |
#97 |
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It was the worst when you had to use their names and could not look at them |
tabbycat31 |
Aug-08-11 10:08 AM |
#106 |
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I work in a bank... |
Chan790 |
Aug-08-11 07:52 PM |
#138 |
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Hate it. Hate it. Hate it. |
Iggo |
Aug-07-11 11:58 AM |
#29 |
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At the Safeway |
XemaSab |
Aug-07-11 11:40 PM |
#74 |
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Ha! Burn! |
Iggo |
Aug-08-11 12:35 AM |
#83 |
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If my guy uses my shopper card, the cashier calls him |
blueamy66 |
Aug-08-11 10:11 AM |
#108 |
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That was the Bible of Hucksterism, "How To Win Friends And Influence People". |
Ikonoklast |
Aug-07-11 02:57 PM |
#40 |
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Your dad - I mean Mr Dad - rocks. |
REP |
Aug-07-11 03:03 PM |
#41 |
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Another reason I love the South. They understand courtesy , down here. |
dixiegrrrrl |
Aug-07-11 03:57 PM |
#46 |
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In the South, even those who know you well |
csziggy |
Aug-07-11 10:24 PM |
#68 |
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the usage of "sir" and "ma'am" is very different up here in Minnesota than in the South. |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:25 AM |
#80 |
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Where here my Alabama raised mother taught me to always use |
csziggy |
Aug-08-11 09:55 AM |
#104 |
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We were taught to call close family friends as Aunt or Uncle and |
blueamy66 |
Aug-08-11 10:15 AM |
#109 |
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Mom insisted only relatives were Aunt or Uncle |
csziggy |
Aug-08-11 10:50 AM |
#114 |
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My Dad worked for American Airlines for over 40 years |
blueamy66 |
Aug-08-11 10:54 AM |
#115 |
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In parts of New England... |
Chan790 |
Aug-08-11 08:02 PM |
#139 |
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I don't like being called Ma'am makes me feel old |
cherish44 |
Aug-10-11 04:21 PM |
#180 |
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Back when I was in business selling mineral specimens to |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 06:58 PM |
#57 |
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Usually ratting people out to their bosses is not cool |
XemaSab |
Aug-07-11 11:46 PM |
#75 |
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Yes. I could not believe the teller did that. |
MineralMan |
Aug-08-11 07:54 AM |
#92 |
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Exactly. It's like a Spanish speaker improperly using "tu" instead of "usted" |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:17 AM |
#78 |
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Or the French speaker.... |
zanana1 |
Aug-09-11 05:19 AM |
#149 |
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Really, I only want the clerks to use my name if they know me. |
Nailzberg |
Aug-09-11 01:51 AM |
#144 |
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And telemarketers who say "Hi, Ken, how are you?" |
trof |
Aug-09-11 05:46 PM |
#159 |
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When a salesperson asks me for my name, on the phone or in person, I say "Mr. xxx" |
gristy |
Aug-09-11 11:57 PM |
#168 |
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Delivering an unsolicited and undesired neck rub to the German Prime Minister ... |
11 Bravo |
Aug-06-11 08:31 PM |
#2 |
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ROFL! |
Xipe Totec |
Aug-07-11 11:31 AM |
#24 |
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And a tug on the Japanese President's jacket! |
WinkyDink |
Aug-07-11 06:32 PM |
#53 |
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I love that photo |
geardaddy |
Aug-10-11 02:58 PM |
#177 |
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Posting anything on DU |
Vanje |
Aug-06-11 08:36 PM |
#3 |
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issues around formal (and not so formal) invitations |
Kali |
Aug-06-11 08:36 PM |
#4 |
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One rule of thumb about throwing a party... |
begin_within |
Aug-07-11 11:22 AM |
#23 |
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My grandmother always used to tell the story of Queen victoria at a state dinner with |
applegrove |
Aug-06-11 08:40 PM |
#5 |
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I've always liked that story. Thanks for reminding me of it. |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 08:02 AM |
#9 |
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Being walked in to by some moron |
hifiguy |
Aug-06-11 08:42 PM |
#6 |
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There will be lots of cell phone and smart phone stuff |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 08:03 AM |
#10 |
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That happens to me alot at the thrift store I work at. |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:30 AM |
#81 |
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I love my smartphone, but I treat it like driving. Gotta use it, pull over. |
Nailzberg |
Aug-09-11 02:00 AM |
#145 |
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Bingo. |
geardaddy |
Aug-10-11 03:00 PM |
#178 |
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When people don't put a subject line on an email. |
distantearlywarning |
Aug-06-11 09:22 PM |
#7 |
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Good one. Email etiquette gets an entire chapter. |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 08:04 AM |
#11 |
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FW: FW: FW: RE: FW: FW: RE: RE: FW: Delete this if you don't agree! |
Liberal Veteran |
Aug-07-11 06:23 PM |
#52 |
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When you get something that's been forwarded about 50 times "Send All" |
alphafemale |
Aug-07-11 10:41 PM |
#71 |
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Thank you! I had a big argument with some colleagues once about this one |
petronius |
Aug-07-11 10:02 PM |
#63 |
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Also when they add you to their email list without asking, then you start getting everything. |
begin_within |
Aug-07-11 10:21 PM |
#67 |
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I hate when I get emails from some person in a group |
csziggy |
Aug-07-11 10:31 PM |
#69 |
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That drives me nuts! |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:31 AM |
#82 |
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oh I am SO guilty of that |
Kali |
Aug-08-11 01:10 PM |
#130 |
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You will disagree but I think it's rude... |
Phentex |
Aug-07-11 08:40 AM |
#13 |
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Or on teabagger's protest signs? |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 09:02 AM |
#14 |
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Are zippers based on current technology?... |
Phentex |
Aug-07-11 09:15 AM |
#15 |
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Only part of the book will be based on technology. |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 09:23 AM |
#16 |
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That's the thing...etiquette books aren't usually read by those who need them... |
Phentex |
Aug-07-11 09:30 AM |
#17 |
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But if a person continually misspells or misuses a word, then |
kick-ass-bob |
Aug-08-11 08:20 AM |
#94 |
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That's someone you know... |
Phentex |
Aug-08-11 08:58 AM |
#99 |
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but if they sent you 7 letters miswriting the word 'losing' as 'loosing' |
kick-ass-bob |
Aug-08-11 10:04 AM |
#105 |
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because I would be thrilled to get so many letters!... |
Phentex |
Aug-08-11 11:50 AM |
#121 |
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I am speachless. |
kick-ass-bob |
Aug-08-11 01:44 PM |
#131 |
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What precisely is rude about it? |
LanternWaste |
Aug-10-11 02:24 PM |
#176 |
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Shopping While Yacking - ESPECIALLY with one of those cyborg ear things. |
HopeHoops |
Aug-07-11 09:35 AM |
#18 |
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Good one. Bluetooth talkers always seem to be oblivious |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 10:09 AM |
#19 |
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Very young kids who demand their parents' attention... |
zanana1 |
Aug-09-11 05:24 AM |
#150 |
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Sing one long mid-range note at the approximate volume they're talking at. |
Iggo |
Aug-07-11 11:45 AM |
#27 |
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Great idea, but I can't carry a tune in a bucket! |
Pool Hall Ace |
Aug-09-11 12:30 AM |
#142 |
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I say Go For It. |
Iggo |
Aug-09-11 07:16 AM |
#154 |
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I worked in a department store in 1999. |
Manifestor_of_Light |
Aug-07-11 03:43 PM |
#45 |
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One of my favorite signs |
MountainLaurel |
Aug-08-11 02:41 PM |
#136 |
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I was looking for this one! |
blueamy66 |
Aug-08-11 10:19 AM |
#110 |
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My favorite was a chick about a month ago.... |
HopeHoops |
Aug-08-11 10:59 AM |
#116 |
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I would have had to say something. |
blueamy66 |
Aug-08-11 11:08 AM |
#118 |
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Smart-ass clerks in the cell phone stores who don't want to deal with "older" shoppers. |
femmocrat |
Aug-07-11 11:02 AM |
#20 |
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I hear you on the cell phone store thing. |
Iggo |
Aug-07-11 11:49 AM |
#28 |
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Is that where that type of clerk went? They used to sell computers |
csziggy |
Aug-07-11 10:37 PM |
#70 |
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An older shopper myself, I had a real good experience with a Verizon salesperson. |
raccoon |
Aug-08-11 08:17 AM |
#93 |
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I have a similar problem when I take my car into be worked on. I had one |
madmom |
Aug-10-11 08:38 AM |
#173 |
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Hard to think of 21st century etiquette breaches when etiquette is such a 19th century concept |
Shagbark Hickory |
Aug-07-11 11:09 AM |
#21 |
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Oddly enough, etiquette really only became a widespread |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 11:36 AM |
#25 |
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People just don't know how to behave in public any more. |
begin_within |
Aug-07-11 11:15 AM |
#22 |
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That's the reason for this book. I doubt it will change things much, |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 11:39 AM |
#26 |
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See post 21. ;-) |
WinkyDink |
Aug-07-11 06:35 PM |
#54 |
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when did crude become acceptable? |
bookworm65t |
Aug-07-11 12:05 PM |
#30 |
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Yup. It's a trend that has expanded too far, I agree. |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 12:12 PM |
#31 |
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What the fuck are you talking about??? People fucking swear on the fucking internets all the time!! |
madinmaryland |
Aug-07-11 02:52 PM |
#39 |
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What's okay on the Internets doesn't always work IRL |
FloridaJudy |
Aug-09-11 03:21 AM |
#147 |
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Working class people have always swore like drunken sailors. |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:36 AM |
#84 |
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The past tense is "sworn". Or "have sworn". |
Manifestor_of_Light |
Aug-08-11 12:43 AM |
#87 |
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heh, up here we say "have boughten" and "have caughten", LOL! |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:52 AM |
#90 |
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Bathroom humor has become way too acceptable IMO. nt |
raccoon |
Aug-08-11 12:03 PM |
#123 |
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I have a friend with an iPhone and an addiction to texting & Facebook |
Rob H. |
Aug-07-11 01:13 PM |
#32 |
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Yes. Very annoying, indeed. You should text the person and |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 01:40 PM |
#37 |
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Worst breach of etiquette in the last few years |
7wo7rees |
Aug-09-11 11:01 PM |
#167 |
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How about those on FB who constantly post where they are? |
blueamy66 |
Aug-08-11 10:21 AM |
#111 |
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He does that, too! |
Rob H. |
Aug-08-11 08:34 PM |
#140 |
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Exactly. |
blueamy66 |
Aug-09-11 05:52 AM |
#151 |
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To me the underlying theme is a subtle, but profound, lack of concern for others. |
begin_within |
Aug-07-11 01:16 PM |
#33 |
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Yes. That's at the core of it, I think. And that's the general theme |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 01:35 PM |
#35 |
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I agree with all of you have written, accept about the check writing thing. |
blueamy66 |
Aug-08-11 10:23 AM |
#112 |
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Lost art of counting change (maybe?) |
targetpractice |
Aug-07-11 01:24 PM |
#34 |
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I hate that, too, but there's no way that's going to change. |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 01:39 PM |
#36 |
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I worked retail in a past life... |
targetpractice |
Aug-07-11 01:49 PM |
#38 |
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I am *really* going to date myself with this one, but... |
Ikonoklast |
Aug-07-11 03:31 PM |
#44 |
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One of the mysteries of life that may never be solved. |
gristy |
Aug-10-11 12:38 AM |
#172 |
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You Count Back Change |
RobinA |
Aug-07-11 09:44 PM |
#60 |
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Considering the way cash registers are designed now, where they actually tell |
madinmaryland |
Aug-07-11 03:07 PM |
#43 |
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Have you seen the one that requires no thought at all? |
jmowreader |
Aug-07-11 07:37 PM |
#58 |
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Are you serious? |
petronius |
Aug-07-11 10:06 PM |
#64 |
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Sadly, I am not suprised. |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:49 AM |
#89 |
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Wow, I haven't seen anyone do that in maybe 30 years... |
begin_within |
Aug-07-11 03:58 PM |
#47 |
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OMG, isn't that the truth |
WolverineDG |
Aug-07-11 04:08 PM |
#49 |
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That doesn't have anything to do with doing math in her head. |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:47 AM |
#88 |
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why would you have to void it? |
kick-ass-bob |
Aug-08-11 08:28 AM |
#95 |
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I know that, but it's store policy. I know it's dumb. |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 08:57 AM |
#98 |
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That is pretty dumb. And not very efficient management. |
kick-ass-bob |
Aug-08-11 10:08 AM |
#107 |
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I just think it's because my boss assumes everyone sucks at math. |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 10:48 AM |
#113 |
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Wow, that is a dumb policy. |
Pool Hall Ace |
Aug-09-11 12:39 AM |
#143 |
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Why do you have to void the transaction? |
WolverineDG |
Aug-08-11 09:18 AM |
#100 |
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+1,000,000,000,000,000,000 |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:40 AM |
#85 |
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Yes, most of time today, they just hand it to you without a word. |
sinkingfeeling |
Aug-08-11 11:35 AM |
#120 |
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I have to disagree |
dana_b |
Aug-08-11 09:02 PM |
#141 |
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Answering your phone while on a date! |
begin_within |
Aug-07-11 04:03 PM |
#48 |
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Absolutely. That's one's definitely on my list. |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 06:47 PM |
#55 |
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Agree With This One |
RobinA |
Aug-07-11 09:49 PM |
#61 |
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Sure, if there was a known issue like that, that would be acceptable. |
begin_within |
Aug-07-11 10:14 PM |
#65 |
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+1000000000 |
Blue_Tires |
Aug-08-11 01:58 PM |
#132 |
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People who don't keep their dogs leashed when out and about and ... |
NNN0LHI |
Aug-07-11 04:38 PM |
#50 |
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Good ones! Both involve safety issues, and that's |
MineralMan |
Aug-07-11 06:48 PM |
#56 |
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The dog thing is a big peeve for me. |
begin_within |
Aug-07-11 10:17 PM |
#66 |
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Don't get me started on unleashed dogs |
barb162 |
Aug-07-11 11:25 PM |
#72 |
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how about people who leave the car running while pumping gas? |
kick-ass-bob |
Aug-08-11 08:30 AM |
#96 |
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People who bring their dogs where dogs don't belong |
tabbycat31 |
Aug-08-11 02:18 PM |
#133 |
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Putting on makeup in public.... |
Darth_Kitten |
Aug-07-11 06:01 PM |
#51 |
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When I was first online I was played hearts. I knew none of the lingo. I cracked a joke |
applegrove |
Aug-07-11 09:57 PM |
#62 |
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Giving a present and never getting a thank you |
barb162 |
Aug-07-11 11:27 PM |
#73 |
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That's one of my main peeves. |
frogmarch |
Aug-08-11 12:30 PM |
#124 |
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Two that have come up: |
XemaSab |
Aug-08-11 12:08 AM |
#76 |
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I suppose another way to phrase it is |
XemaSab |
Aug-08-11 12:17 AM |
#79 |
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Don't text while at the dinner table. |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:15 AM |
#77 |
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agreed, and don't do either in a movie theater |
Skittles |
Aug-08-11 12:42 AM |
#86 |
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I was at a movie a few weeks ago and the person in front of me kept texting... |
driver8 |
Aug-08-11 09:33 AM |
#101 |
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because of my eyesight I prefer sitting in the back |
Skittles |
Aug-08-11 06:03 PM |
#137 |
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Spitting in public, on the sidewalk, very ostentatiously, as if |
Lydia Leftcoast |
Aug-08-11 07:32 AM |
#91 |
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Oh gosh, I loathe the spitting. |
MerryBlooms |
Aug-08-11 09:45 AM |
#103 |
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Oh my GOD do I hate this. |
Withywindle |
Aug-08-11 02:33 PM |
#135 |
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A few - |
MerryBlooms |
Aug-08-11 09:42 AM |
#102 |
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speaking of leaving grocery carts -- leaving them in the parking spot |
fishwax |
Aug-08-11 12:54 PM |
#126 |
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Grrr... yep, that too. |
MerryBlooms |
Aug-08-11 01:00 PM |
#127 |
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Grrr... yep, that too. |
MerryBlooms |
Aug-08-11 01:00 PM |
#128 |
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The ones that leave carts in DISABLED parking spots deserve to go straight to Hell. |
Odin2005 |
Aug-09-11 09:58 PM |
#162 |
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When you're driving, SIGNAL before you make your turn. Not only is it good manners, it's the law.nt |
raccoon |
Aug-08-11 11:04 AM |
#117 |
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Yep. |
Iggo |
Aug-08-11 11:54 AM |
#122 |
| -
And don't switch 2 lanes at once! |
Odin2005 |
Aug-08-11 12:42 PM |
#125 |
| -
I had a run-in just last Friday after a related incident. |
KansDem |
Aug-09-11 06:11 AM |
#152 |
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People playing with the gadgets instead of tending to the children's questions and needs. |
sinkingfeeling |
Aug-08-11 11:29 AM |
#119 |
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People who leave voicemail messages |
AngryAmish |
Aug-08-11 01:01 PM |
#129 |
| -
And if they insist on leaving voicemail messages... |
Rob H. |
Aug-09-11 05:57 PM |
#161 |
| -
Happened today: Some 20 year old in scrubs called my |
Flying Dream Blues |
Aug-08-11 02:22 PM |
#134 |
| -
Cell phone conversations in the loo. |
Nailzberg |
Aug-09-11 02:12 AM |
#146 |
| -
There's definitely a need for blog etiquette |
XemaSab |
Aug-09-11 03:48 AM |
#148 |
| -
Taking your smelly shoes off at the movie theater |
kedrys |
Aug-09-11 06:36 AM |
#153 |
| -
Fucking gross! |
Iggo |
Aug-09-11 09:42 AM |
#157 |
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Don't "stop over" my house if you are not invited. Don't leave a vmail that you are on your way over |
seaglass |
Aug-09-11 08:25 AM |
#155 |
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Call before you come over. |
Iggo |
Aug-09-11 09:41 AM |
#156 |
| -
Where to start |
Philippine expat |
Aug-09-11 05:40 PM |
#158 |
| -
The standard tip these days is 15% - 20%. |
The Velveteen Ocelot |
Aug-09-11 05:48 PM |
#160 |
| -
About the tipping |
tabbycat31 |
Aug-09-11 10:05 PM |
#163 |
| -
I never tip less than 20%, except for really bad service. |
kwassa |
Aug-09-11 10:17 PM |
#164 |
| -
A twentysomething store clerk or server callling me "hon." |
Brigid |
Aug-09-11 10:33 PM |
#165 |
| -
A twentysomething store clerk or server callling me "hon." |
Brigid |
Aug-09-11 10:33 PM |
#166 |
| -
Not knowing to pass in hallways by staying to the right. |
southerncrone |
Aug-10-11 12:13 AM |
#169 |
| -
People rushing & jumping in front of you to go thru a door you have opened |
southerncrone |
Aug-10-11 12:16 AM |
#170 |
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And people getting on an elevator before those on it have a chance to get off! nt |
raccoon |
Aug-11-11 07:45 AM |
#181 |
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Asking strangers to help you write a self-published eBook. |
Blue-Jay |
Aug-10-11 12:23 AM |
#171 |
| -
Very loud & very offensive cell phone ringtones |
queenjane |
Aug-10-11 10:34 AM |
#174 |
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Well, not just 21st century, but it drives me nuts for people to say, "What?" |
raccoon |
Aug-10-11 02:02 PM |
#175 |
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How about "Huh?" |
geardaddy |
Aug-10-11 03:32 PM |
#179 |
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