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grasswire Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-11-11 11:28 AM
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30. he objected to you having children?
Why?
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  -Would like opinions on this - personal family stuff kimi  Apr-11-11 03:30 AM   #0 
  - Wow  blueamy66   Apr-11-11 03:36 AM   #1 
  - There's no way to know  ChoralScholar   Apr-11-11 03:54 AM   #2 
  - As a purely abstract matter, I think I'd try to make the call: I'd figure  struggle4progress   Apr-11-11 04:00 AM   #3 
  - I'm really trying to find a reason to make the call  kimi   Apr-11-11 04:47 AM   #7 
  - I agree with this reasoning too  RT Atlanta   Apr-12-11 12:23 PM   #49 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Apr-11-11 04:34 AM   #4 
  - "vengeful twit"?  kimi   Apr-11-11 04:42 AM   #5 
  - It's not an arguement about your humanity  Riftaxe   Apr-11-11 04:47 AM   #6 
  - "Increment of humanity"  kimi   Apr-11-11 04:51 AM   #8 
  - What a vile thing to say to you. (DUs ignore function is a godsend.)  snagglepuss   Apr-11-11 05:03 AM   #10 
  - What insufferable insensitivity. Welcome to ignore.  snagglepuss   Apr-11-11 05:05 AM   #11 
  - ya. people do have choices. ugly, or not. nt  seabeyond   Apr-11-11 06:13 AM   #14 
  - Actually, in an abusive family, "acknowledging existence" can cost a person quite a bit. Hearing a  Brickbat   Apr-11-11 07:08 AM   #17 
     - +1.  AngryOldDem   Apr-11-11 07:29 AM   #21 
  - I'm curious  Skittles   Apr-11-11 04:54 AM   #9 
  - Hope this helps you...  Ineeda   Apr-11-11 05:20 AM   #12 
  - I think this is good advice.  Brickbat   Apr-11-11 07:09 AM   #18 
  - excellent advice here..  gimama   Apr-13-11 08:14 PM   #68 
  - I think you already know what you're going to do  blogslut   Apr-11-11 05:35 AM   #13 
  - i don't know kimi.  seabeyond   Apr-11-11 06:18 AM   #15 
  - my life circumstances are different than yours  MrsBrady   Apr-11-11 06:22 AM   #16 
  - I totally agree with MrsBrady,  Grey   Apr-11-11 10:40 AM   #27 
  - YOUR #3 strategy saved my Life  gimama   Apr-13-11 08:30 PM   #69 
  - I would not go nor would I call...  Phentex   Apr-11-11 07:17 AM   #19 
  - I empathize completely.  AngryOldDem   Apr-11-11 07:27 AM   #20 
  - If there is to be any attempt at reconciliation, or even acknowledgement, it has to come from your  Bunny   Apr-11-11 07:39 AM   #22 
  - My 2 pennies  NV Whino   Apr-11-11 09:53 AM   #23 
  - didn't read replies yet but my gut  Kali   Apr-11-11 10:10 AM   #24 
  - You may not agree  Dyedinthewoolliberal   Apr-11-11 10:13 AM   #25 
  - I disagree.  kwassa   Apr-11-11 10:50 AM   #28 
  - that is what would be hard, and fake, which i dont do. say you care, and you dont  seabeyond   Apr-11-11 12:41 PM   #36 
  - There is a spiritual principle  Dyedinthewoolliberal   Apr-11-11 01:59 PM   #39 
  - No, there isn't , particularly if you can't explain it.  kwassa   Apr-12-11 08:56 PM   #50 
     - I didn't say that.  Dyedinthewoolliberal   Apr-13-11 12:50 PM   #60 
        - That *is* stepping back into abuse.  Bunny   Apr-13-11 01:09 PM   #61 
           - Judge not  Dyedinthewoolliberal   Apr-13-11 04:06 PM   #62 
              - Well, thanks for the lecture on judging, but honestly, it's pretty condescending.  Bunny   Apr-13-11 05:05 PM   #63 
                 - How is what I said a lecture?  Dyedinthewoolliberal   Apr-13-11 05:27 PM   #64 
                    - Not contacting her father is not punishment or vengence.  kwassa   Apr-13-11 09:52 PM   #74 
                       - Thank you for judging me  Dyedinthewoolliberal   Apr-13-11 10:43 PM   #75 
                          - you miss the point.  kwassa   Apr-13-11 11:07 PM   #76 
  - +1  distantearlywarning   Apr-13-11 07:56 PM   #66 
  - I disagree also.  AngryOldDem   Apr-11-11 12:40 PM   #35 
  - Since he just had a heart attack...  Dappleganger   Apr-13-11 09:44 PM   #73 
  - Walk away.  Dogtown   Apr-11-11 10:19 AM   #26 
  - I have to say I agree with Mrs Brady. He was NOT your father in the real sense of the meaning, so  madmom   Apr-11-11 10:59 AM   #29 
  - he objected to you having children?  grasswire   Apr-11-11 11:28 AM   #30 
  - What's the worst that will happen if you do call?  rug   Apr-11-11 12:02 PM   #31 
  - You don't owe him BUPKUS. But think about this...  PassingFair   Apr-11-11 12:04 PM   #32 
  - It sounds like you don't want to call him. I would go with your gut.  Arugula Latte   Apr-11-11 12:27 PM   #33 
  - I'm so sweet I give people diabetes if they're in the same room with me,  hedgehog   Apr-11-11 12:37 PM   #34 
  - That's very personal and individual  ismnotwasm   Apr-11-11 12:46 PM   #37 
  - I would not contact him.  rurallib   Apr-11-11 01:02 PM   #38 
  - Your well meaning SIL doesn't know the depth of your feelings.  Lars39   Apr-11-11 02:05 PM   #40 
  - If you haven't spoken to him in 25 years, I don't think you will regret it  Arkansas Granny   Apr-11-11 02:15 PM   #41 
  - I would go. Just show him you are the better and now stronger person.  RedCloud   Apr-11-11 02:35 PM   #42 
  - Thanks, everyone.  kimi   Apr-11-11 07:18 PM   #43 
  - "that sounds awful", no I don't think it's awful.  stuntcat   Apr-11-11 07:24 PM   #44 
  - Is there something you might want to put in writing and send to him?  surrealAmerican   Apr-11-11 07:56 PM   #45 
  - well, my experience, for what it's worth....  BlancheSplanchnik   Apr-11-11 08:03 PM   #46 
  - Go with your instinct. You don't owe him a damn thing.  Withywindle   Apr-12-11 12:03 AM   #47 
  - Write him.  burrfoot   Apr-12-11 12:27 AM   #48 
  - You have no regrets  Generic Brad   Apr-12-11 09:04 PM   #51 
  - Dear Kimi  Old Troop   Apr-12-11 09:14 PM   #52 
  - I can only say what I would do in your shoes.  Bertha Venation   Apr-12-11 10:15 PM   #53 
  - He does not deserve you calling him.  Odin2005   Apr-12-11 10:17 PM   #54 
  - Again, thanks, everyone, for your support.  kimi   Apr-12-11 11:30 PM   #55 
  - I have a serious illness, and I say don't call. I really empathize with you. This is very tough...  anneboleyn   Apr-13-11 01:52 AM   #56 
  - been there. don't call.  Duppers   Apr-13-11 02:02 AM   #57 
  - Will it harm your relationship with the rest of your family if you don't call  csziggy   Apr-13-11 02:03 AM   #58 
  - I've only seen my biological dad a couple times since he left my mom and me  deutsey   Apr-13-11 09:21 AM   #59 
  - Dear Kimi...I am so sorry...  Demoiselle   Apr-13-11 05:28 PM   #65 
  - You will not regret it.....  Tikki   Apr-13-11 08:06 PM   #67 
  - Kimi, maybe it would be easier to think of this as between you and your other family members.  nolabear   Apr-13-11 09:03 PM   #70 
  - OK. My dad died in December. I had always been in touch with him  Flaxbee   Apr-13-11 09:26 PM   #71 
  - Hope this helps...  Dappleganger   Apr-13-11 09:41 PM   #72 
 

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