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46. Like it or not, there's more than a grain of truth here.
My BFF is the nicest guy in the world; contrary to stereotype he's also quite attractive, and good in bed. All my friends adore him. But that extra "sizzle" just isn't there. I wish it was. For years I've been making questionable romantic choices, and know very well that I'd be so much better off if I could just stick with him. And it's certainly not that I "can't stand" him - quite the opposite, there's a lot of affection between us, and I really want him to remain part of my life. It's just that I've never been able to picture him as a primary romantic partner. The guys I get all obsessive over, though ... oh yeah, there's more than a slight element of "bad boy" to them. :/
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  -12 Reasons Women Cant Stand Nice Guys The Straight Story  Mar-29-11 09:58 AM   #0 
  - Just going to sit back and read for awhile  Angry Dragon   Mar-29-11 10:00 AM   #1 
  - Nom nom nom. Nummy popcorn. Nom nom.  Dash87   Mar-29-11 10:56 AM   #55 
  - I figured out a long time ago,  Le Taz Hot   Mar-29-11 10:01 AM   #2 
  - Hey!  GKirk   Mar-29-11 10:06 AM   #10 
  - +1. nt  blondeatlast   Mar-29-11 10:25 AM   #37 
  - Similarly, you play with  VWolf   Mar-29-11 10:39 AM   #48 
  - If you're really lucky you get one that's nice and hot!  Bake   Mar-29-11 06:01 PM   #109 
  - Hey, I'm hot and nice.  blueamy66   Mar-29-11 06:23 PM   #114 
  - I wish my nieces would understand this.  blueamy66   Mar-29-11 06:23 PM   #113 
  - I see we're back to this sad, tired argument.  Bunny   Mar-29-11 10:02 AM   #3 
  - Oh dear.  JVS   Mar-29-11 10:02 AM   #4 
  - The comments are the best part of that...I don't know, musing?  aSpeckofDust   Mar-29-11 10:03 AM   #5 
  - Oh what a surprise - sexist drivel posted at DU... nt  DURHAM D   Mar-29-11 10:03 AM   #6 
  - Wow, what is this the dark ages? Every time I read one of these articles I shudder.  jtown1123   Mar-29-11 10:04 AM   #7 
  - Agreed. It's all the woman's fault!  freshwest   Mar-29-11 08:28 PM   #121 
  - Gosh, I just love gender stereotypes. nt  bemildred   Mar-29-11 10:05 AM   #8 
  - couldnt even get thru all of, too nice. too anything, not good. but it is easy being nice  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 10:05 AM   #9 
  - "Waaah I am nice and that's why super models won't have sex with me"-Nice Guy  jtown1123   Mar-29-11 10:09 AM   #13 
     - post 17...  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 10:12 AM   #18 
     - Are super models nice?  L0oniX   Mar-29-11 10:14 AM   #23 
     - Who knows? They wouldn't go out with me because I'm nice.  MineralMan   Mar-29-11 11:16 AM   #57 
        - lol. ya. nt  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 11:23 AM   #60 
     - You nailed it.  geardaddy   Mar-29-11 11:53 AM   #76 
  - "Nice" in these cases means "unattractive"  jpgray   Mar-29-11 10:07 AM   #11 
  - my oldest son bought into the nice guys dont get girl, bs a couple years ago.  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 10:11 AM   #17 
  - "Nice" also implies immaturity.  Deep13   Mar-29-11 10:08 AM   #12 
  - respectful = juvenile? i dont know that i am getting that.  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 10:13 AM   #22 
  - Can't agree with any of what you just wrote.  Common Sense Party   Mar-29-11 12:30 PM   #80 
  - Wow, really?  Arugula Latte   Mar-29-11 10:09 AM   #14 
  - It works for me - but it's authentic. Above all else, be who you are.  Edweird   Mar-29-11 10:10 AM   #15 
  - My wife and girlfriend are gonna love this!  Zanzoobar   Mar-29-11 10:10 AM   #16 
  - I dumped a nice guy once  undeterred   Mar-29-11 10:12 AM   #19 
  - Article Is Mysogynist  zorahopkins   Mar-29-11 10:12 AM   #20 
  - Questionable assessment IMO.  Chan790   Mar-29-11 08:46 PM   #123 
  - That link attempted to download a malware program to my  MineralMan   Mar-29-11 10:13 AM   #21 
  - Notice they don't call it "femalware".  undeterred   Mar-29-11 10:14 AM   #25 
     - ah ha. you are funny. nt  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 10:15 AM   #27 
     - LOL!  MineralMan   Mar-29-11 10:17 AM   #29 
     - LOL! And yet, it isn't "nice...." nt  blondeatlast   Mar-29-11 10:27 AM   #41 
  - Ya - it worked in High school - after that Not so Much  FreakinDJ   Mar-29-11 10:14 AM   #24 
  - I want a guy who makes me laugh.  CrispyQ   Mar-29-11 10:15 AM   #26 
  - A priest, a minister, and a rabbi walk into a bar, and the bartender says...  Zanzoobar   Mar-29-11 10:32 AM   #44 
     - ~smile  CrispyQ   Mar-29-11 01:29 PM   #87 
  - So, why does this suck?  EstimatedProphet   Mar-29-11 10:16 AM   #28 
  - She's an ass.  Bunny   Mar-29-11 10:20 AM   #34 
     - Yeah, pretty much...  EstimatedProphet   Mar-29-11 10:32 AM   #45 
  - From her bio. the authors' main qualification appears to be that she's dated for over  Rowdyboy   Mar-29-11 10:18 AM   #30 
  - Most men I've known who complain about "Nice Guy Syndrome"..  JackDragna   Mar-29-11 10:19 AM   #31 
  - Your last sentence is so true.  Bunny   Mar-29-11 10:23 AM   #35 
  - I have a cousin who is on number 5.  CrispyQ   Mar-29-11 01:24 PM   #85 
  - This nails it in a nutshell. Ladies, beware the "nice guys." They are bad news.  jtown1123   Mar-29-11 10:25 AM   #38 
  - because of the bad rap and garbage behind "nice guy" i knew nothing about, i have changed to good  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 10:26 AM   #40 
  - Why does it seem that everytime they interview the neighbors of a newly-discovered  Ikonoklast   Mar-29-11 10:52 AM   #54 
  - Absolutely. nt  blondeatlast   Mar-29-11 10:29 AM   #43 
  - RRRigghht, because women or men who do a 180 or become abusive on you are completely innocent.  HughBeaumont   Mar-29-11 10:46 AM   #49 
  - If you've had more than a few of these experiences..  JackDragna   Mar-29-11 05:14 PM   #105 
     - I've only had one abuser, but several cheaters.  HughBeaumont   Mar-29-11 05:53 PM   #106 
  - Have you seen 'Megamind'? The subplot of the nerd-turned-hero, Titan is a perfect metaphor  RadiationTherapy   Mar-29-11 11:22 AM   #59 
  - so very true  La Lioness Priyanka   Mar-29-11 12:03 PM   #77 
  - Last part of your statement --  kimi   Mar-29-11 06:45 PM   #117 
  - Tripe, Drivel, and Balderdash.  MineralMan   Mar-29-11 10:19 AM   #32 
  - "bad boys keep it real"...  Javaman   Mar-29-11 10:20 AM   #33 
  - "We don't want nice, we don't want dickhead, we don't want middle-of-the-road" . . .  HughBeaumont   Mar-29-11 10:28 AM   #42 
  - Most are posers. Real bad boys end up in the clink or running from the man.  Zanzoobar   Mar-29-11 10:47 AM   #50 
  - btw. the opposite of nice is... mean. a bad boy can be nice. but  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 10:23 AM   #36 
  - I like nice guys.  IrishEyes   Mar-29-11 10:25 AM   #39 
  - Like it or not, there's more than a grain of truth here.  InvisibleTouch   Mar-29-11 10:33 AM   #46 
  - OJ, Jessie James Charlie Sheen, Newt etc... never have trouble getting a date  Johonny   Mar-29-11 10:50 AM   #53 
  - and the men that chose a woman that is likely to cheat on him and use him  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 11:26 AM   #61 
  - Very true  Taverner   Mar-29-11 11:33 AM   #67 
  - Shitty, divisive writing at the link, but...  RadiationTherapy   Mar-29-11 10:34 AM   #47 
  - This is a whacked article  LaurenG   Mar-29-11 10:48 AM   #51 
  - immaturity and low self esteem  DemocratAholic   Mar-29-11 10:48 AM   #52 
  - woman who truly respects herself (thus expecting the same from others).  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 11:28 AM   #63 
  - I deserve EVERY woman out there! Agghhhh!!!  Dash87   Mar-29-11 10:57 AM   #56 
  - I agree with the article, in a way.  Lucian   Mar-29-11 11:20 AM   #58 
  - I hesitate to describe myself as nice, but I think I am.  MineralMan   Mar-29-11 11:27 AM   #62 
  - Not me, bro. I'm an obnoxious asshole  Taverner   Mar-29-11 11:30 AM   #65 
  - 100% Correct  Taverner   Mar-29-11 11:29 AM   #64 
  - wow. ignore ALL the women that say otherwise and tell us who we are  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 11:31 AM   #66 
     - Look, you might SAY you want a nice guy  Taverner   Mar-29-11 11:34 AM   #69 
        - maybe your issue is you equate nice with doormat. or nice with boring. or nice with not  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 11:37 AM   #70 
           - describe your "good guys"  Taverner   Mar-29-11 11:39 AM   #72 
              - i will have to think of someone. i dont watch a whole lot of tv or watch movies, lol  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 11:42 AM   #73 
              - Spencer Tracy in "To Kill a Mockingbird"  MineralMan   Mar-29-11 11:51 AM   #75 
              - Do you mean Gregory Peck?  pulledpork   Mar-29-11 04:05 PM   #99 
                 - Crap! Yes, of course. I'm old.  MineralMan   Mar-29-11 06:36 PM   #116 
              - a nice person is not into hurting others. bad boy doesnt care, or is into it  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 12:07 PM   #79 
                 - Even if you are a "nice guy" you still have to act a little aloof  Taverner   Mar-29-11 01:29 PM   #88 
                    - meh... the dating game. the same could be said about the woman, too  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 01:32 PM   #89 
                       - We probably agree on this more than you think...  Taverner   Mar-29-11 02:01 PM   #93 
                          - ha....  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 02:25 PM   #94 
  - Haha slightly off-topic, but look at her bio near the comments.  Dash87   Mar-29-11 11:33 AM   #68 
  - There's only one REAL reason women don't like nice guys...  pipi_k   Mar-29-11 11:39 AM   #71 
  - I don't think that's always true.  wickerwoman   Mar-29-11 06:26 PM   #115 
  - ya know, when a thread this long is moved, lose all the post already read,  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 11:45 AM   #74 
  - also the thousandth reason i am glad i am not straight  La Lioness Priyanka   Mar-29-11 12:05 PM   #78 
  - your response is so gay  NewJeffCT   Mar-29-11 12:37 PM   #82 
  - i know. lol  La Lioness Priyanka   Mar-29-11 01:52 PM   #92 
  - Hell, it's the thousandth reason I'm glad I'm staying single.  Forkboy   Mar-29-11 08:30 PM   #122 
  - I think when people are younger & more immature  NewJeffCT   Mar-29-11 12:36 PM   #81 
  - The premise here is that what women want is the same  CreekDog   Mar-29-11 12:38 PM   #83 
  - what is really telling, is how we are continually told that this is what we want  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 01:23 PM   #84 
     - well, there is a market for telling people  NewJeffCT   Mar-29-11 01:25 PM   #86 
        - I'm pretty sure that if you're complaining that women don't like you because you're "nice"  CreekDog   Mar-29-11 01:43 PM   #91 
  - Current world population is around 7 billion. Based on my experience, there are lots of nice people  struggle4progress   Mar-29-11 01:32 PM   #90 
  - Well, I'm certainly not a bad boy ...  dawg   Mar-29-11 02:59 PM   #95 
  - you tell 'em ... dawg. nt  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 03:58 PM   #97 
     - .  dawg   Mar-29-11 04:05 PM   #100 
  - I grew up with men who were sweethearts. To this day I really, really respect  applegrove   Mar-29-11 03:16 PM   #96 
  - "Women don't like nice guys!" = "Why don't gorgeous women date average looking blobs like me??"  WildEyedLiberal   Mar-29-11 04:03 PM   #98 
  - forced to agree  ReggieVeggie   Mar-29-11 04:06 PM   #101 
  - yet... you ignore all the women that say they only go for the nice guy  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 05:55 PM   #107 
  - which women say that?  ReggieVeggie   Mar-29-11 06:12 PM   #110 
     - that like nice guys? lol lol  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 06:19 PM   #111 
        - thanks  ReggieVeggie   Mar-29-11 06:46 PM   #118 
  - how "far" are you looking to get?  lukasahero   Mar-29-11 07:44 PM   #120 
     - thanks  ReggieVeggie   Mar-30-11 01:51 AM   #127 
  - What would Sandra Bullock do?  Fire Walk With Me   Mar-29-11 04:10 PM   #102 
  - Where's that picture? Oh.. here:  PassingFair   Mar-29-11 04:16 PM   #103 
  - tis true  ReggieVeggie   Mar-29-11 04:20 PM   #104 
  - lol  seabeyond   Mar-29-11 06:20 PM   #112 
  - Pretty much all that needs to be said on this subject.  cemaphonic   Mar-29-11 11:44 PM   #126 
  - Enough bullshit to fertilize 40 acres  liberaltrucker   Mar-29-11 06:00 PM   #108 
  - It goes both ways  JonLP24   Mar-29-11 07:05 PM   #119 
  - I think women are attracted to confidence, and many assholes come off as confident.  ZombieHorde   Mar-29-11 09:14 PM   #124 
  - A TRUE "nice guy" is nice to everyone, even people he's not trying to get into bed  Lydia Leftcoast   Mar-29-11 11:35 PM   #125 
  - Women don't reject me because I'm nice. They reject me because I'm an emotional wreck.  Paradoxical   Mar-30-11 01:57 AM   #128 
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  - Locking -  Moderator   Mar-30-11 03:29 AM   #130 

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