Reply #9: Sometimes forgiveness comes easily, but more often it's extremely difficult

[solara]

Over the years I have discovered that I don't have to actually interact with someone or get their apology or feel their remorse to forgive them; and often, with some work, I find I can eventually let go of whatever emotional pain or hurt feelings I may have. I have learned that there is no profit in holding on to the bad stuff, since there is already so much of it trying to take hold from too many directions as it is.

Letting go may not be the same as forgiveness, but it can eventually turn into forgiveness, if I put a little thought into it and take some responsibility. It's a much better feeling than hanging on to angry, vengeful feelings, just not as easy.