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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-29-11 05:53 AM
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16. i'm all about the yes, sir or no mamn, please, thank you, mr, ms, or mrs.
i know few people well enough to do away with that kind of formality.

and i prefer to be addressed the same way by children or adults.
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  -Does it seem like children used to be more formal in their correspondence with adults? bluestateguy  Jan-28-11 10:41 PM   #0 
  - We were raised to say Yes sir and yes mamn, manners in general.  texanwitch   Jan-28-11 10:45 PM   #1 
  - I always preferred demmikid's friends to address me by my informal name...  demmiblue   Jan-28-11 11:04 PM   #2 
  - I was in a checkout line and I heard a young boy tell his mother to go and fuck herself.  Kaleva   Jan-28-11 11:09 PM   #3 
  - I told my mom to "fuck off" once  petronius   Jan-28-11 11:12 PM   #4 
  - I can imagine the beating you may have got.  Kaleva   Jan-28-11 11:24 PM   #5 
  - Wow... I am sorry that you had to deal with that abuse.  demmiblue   Jan-28-11 11:39 PM   #6 
     - I never thought of it as abuse. For me and my friends, it was normal behaviour.  Kaleva   Jan-28-11 11:50 PM   #9 
        - I guess that is the difference between teaching fear vs. respect.  demmiblue   Jan-29-11 12:10 AM   #11 
  - I THINK I just told MiddleFingerMomMom (in the heat of anger) something like...  MiddleFingerMom   Jan-30-11 11:21 PM   #53 
  - I said "Crap" in front of my mother once  csziggy   Jan-29-11 02:20 AM   #13 
  - Dupe  csziggy   Jan-29-11 02:20 AM   #14 
  - If I used such foul language in front of my mom  meow2u3   Jan-31-11 07:49 AM   #58 
  - Kids these days do seem to tend to see themselves on the same social level as adults.  GreenPartyVoter   Jan-28-11 11:45 PM   #7 
  - Some kids even think they're socially superior to adults  meow2u3   Jan-31-11 07:58 AM   #59 
  - When I'm addresses as "Sir" or "Mr._____"  Mopar151   Jan-28-11 11:48 PM   #8 
  - i have never liked the sir and mamn and do not teach children to use it. mr., mrs.... yes  seabeyond   Jan-29-11 12:02 AM   #10 
  - In our area...  Dappleganger   Jan-29-11 12:46 AM   #12 
  - My boss told me recently that I was the most courteous, respectful employee she had ever known...  MiddleFingerMom   Jan-29-11 05:46 AM   #15 
  - i'm all about the yes, sir or no mamn, please, thank you, mr, ms, or mrs.  xchrom   Jan-29-11 05:53 AM   #16 
  - I agree. Ah..Sir.  BlueJazz   Jan-29-11 06:43 AM   #17 
     - i'm not picky -- you can mamn me too. nt  xchrom   Jan-29-11 06:44 AM   #19 
  - What correspondence?  juajen   Jan-29-11 06:44 AM   #18 
  - My kids' friends call me by my first name, and that is the way I like it.  Arugula Latte   Jan-29-11 12:17 PM   #20 
  - My kids friends never called me Mrs. A few of them used my first name, but  Arkansas Granny   Jan-31-11 10:15 AM   #66 
     - That's sweet. They must have felt very comfortable with/close to you.  Arugula Latte   Jan-31-11 10:27 AM   #68 
  - too true...  Maine-ah   Jan-29-11 12:22 PM   #21 
  - My kids are raised the exact same way I was. They use those terms  ScreamingMeemie   Jan-29-11 12:25 PM   #22 
  - Being "Formal" is just training them for submission to authority  Taitertots   Jan-29-11 12:35 PM   #23 
  - I agree.  Odin2005   Jan-29-11 05:35 PM   #30 
  - So, you have a decided lack of respect for people, in general?  Joe Fields   Jan-30-11 12:11 AM   #42 
     - Respect isn't calling people sir or ma'am  Taitertots   Jan-30-11 03:03 PM   #47 
     - As someone trying to psychologically break free of childhood abuse  Nikia   Jan-30-11 05:30 PM   #48 
     - I do. I think many humans flat out suck.  Forkboy   Jan-30-11 11:43 PM   #55 
        - good for you. I was taught to have manners and show respect.  Joe Fields   Jan-31-11 09:37 PM   #77 
  - In nearly 40 decades I think I've heard a child address a man as "sir" only once  Orrex   Jan-29-11 12:38 PM   #24 
  - 40 decades?  Kaleva   Jan-29-11 04:10 PM   #28 
     - Why, yes.  Orrex   Jan-29-11 06:04 PM   #35 
        - I'm surprised to learn that the children of the Pilgrims didn't have proper manners.  Kaleva   Jan-29-11 07:55 PM   #38 
           - Foul-mouthed little brutes, every last one of them  Orrex   Jan-29-11 10:34 PM   #39 
              - LOL!!  Kaleva   Jan-29-11 11:08 PM   #41 
  - I think the excessive "sir/maam" stuff is creepy  WildEyedLiberal   Jan-29-11 02:49 PM   #25 
  - Same here. I agree completely. nt  frogmarch   Jan-31-11 07:49 AM   #57 
  - We didn't do the "sir" and "ma'am" stuff in our house...  InvisibleTouch   Jan-29-11 03:12 PM   #26 
  - My nephews still say no sir and yes ma'am  lukasahero   Jan-29-11 03:37 PM   #27 
  - I find it creepy and authoritarian.  Odin2005   Jan-29-11 05:35 PM   #29 
  - real life isn't the fucking army  datasuspect   Jan-29-11 05:43 PM   #32 
  - "Please" and "Thank you" is respectful. calling people you know "sir" or "ma'am" is creepy.  Odin2005   Jan-29-11 05:53 PM   #33 
  - why do you hate common courtesy?  datasuspect   Jan-29-11 06:24 PM   #37 
  - I'm 52 and I call people older then I that.  Kaleva   Jan-29-11 10:42 PM   #40 
  - I am very polite and respectful but dislike hearing kids say yes sir/no sir.  snagglepuss   Jan-30-11 12:15 AM   #43 
  - The other 99% of us prepare ourselves just fine  Taitertots   Jan-29-11 06:11 PM   #36 
  - I don't think I've ever seen you address anyone on DU as "sir" or "ma'am"  Orrex   Jan-30-11 11:14 PM   #52 
  - Yep, I find it creepy, too.  Pithlet   Jan-30-11 05:39 PM   #49 
  - dupe  Pithlet   Jan-30-11 05:39 PM   #50 
  - .  Pithlet   Jan-30-11 05:39 PM   #51 
  - I've never used those phrases.  bigwillq   Jan-29-11 05:40 PM   #31 
  - I'm not the biggest fan of "sir" & "ma'am," but  last_texas_dem   Jan-29-11 06:03 PM   #34 
  - I am 54, and I still call strangers, no matter what their age, sir or maam.  Joe Fields   Jan-30-11 12:16 AM   #44 
  - I do it with strangers too, simply because I don't know their name, but it's creepy when used...  Odin2005   Jan-30-11 12:28 AM   #45 
  - When I was growing up, we kids called adults by Mr. or Mrs., not by first names  Kat45   Jan-30-11 01:12 AM   #46 
  - Same here  meow2u3   Jan-31-11 08:11 AM   #61 
  - When I was a kid, we called our friends' parents "Miss Jane" and "Mr. John."  raccoon   Jan-31-11 08:44 AM   #62 
  - I always called my friends' parents Mr. or Mrs., but I am not keeping that going for myself.  Arugula Latte   Jan-31-11 10:51 AM   #70 
  - It took me FOREVER to remember who said this and, as fucked up as he was about a LOT...  MiddleFingerMom   Jan-30-11 11:36 PM   #54 
  - Without reading any answers...  blueamy66   Jan-31-11 12:39 AM   #56 
  - Yes.  Heidi   Jan-31-11 08:02 AM   #60 
  - I avoid titles as much as possible and only use names.  RadiationTherapy   Jan-31-11 09:11 AM   #63 
  - Some of the kindest, gentlest , most soft-spoken and courteous men I have known...  MiddleFingerMom   Jan-31-11 10:08 AM   #64 
     - I don't feel threatened or a need to project when it comes to submitting.  RadiationTherapy   Jan-31-11 10:58 AM   #71 
     - See Post #54. n/t  MiddleFingerMom   Jan-31-11 11:05 AM   #72 
        - Meh. Ego lubricants for the ageists.  RadiationTherapy   Jan-31-11 12:50 PM   #74 
           - !!!!  MiddleFingerMom   Jan-31-11 12:59 PM   #75 
              - That's right, sucka!  RadiationTherapy   Jan-31-11 02:31 PM   #76 
     - Thank you for that. I have witnessed the same in my life, and practice it.  Joe Fields   Jan-31-11 09:39 PM   #78 
  - My parents didn't insist on us kids using "sir" and "ma'm", but they did insist  Arkansas Granny   Jan-31-11 10:11 AM   #65 
  - What do you call a country where children respect their elders?  raccoon   Jan-31-11 10:16 AM   #67 
  - I agree with the posters who say the "Yes, Sir / Yes, Ma'am" stuff is creepy.  Arugula Latte   Jan-31-11 10:37 AM   #69 
  - "maam" or "ma'am" but I never give a "mamn" to a lady.  Bucky   Jan-31-11 11:57 AM   #73 

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