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quakerboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-04-10 07:58 PM
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99. Ha
Did you ever find out more about your parents than you *ever* wanted to know? Putting it mildly, this folk wisdom does not seem to hold true in my family.
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  -Would you get a divorce if you were in a sexless marriage? NickB79  Dec-02-10 10:16 AM   #0 
  - The marriage definitely needs help if one partner is unhappy with the situation.  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-02-10 10:19 AM   #1 
  - I'm 51 and I would rather sleep than have sex.  PassingFair   Dec-02-10 10:20 AM   #2 
  - This! nt  LaurenG   Dec-02-10 01:09 PM   #21 
  - 51 also,  PRETZEL   Dec-03-10 09:49 AM   #75 
  - Almost 51 and still a sex-over-sleep gal  K8-EEE   Dec-03-10 11:10 AM   #83 
  - I am just over half your age  DeadEyeDyck   Dec-04-10 10:51 PM   #105 
     - Hey people are different!  K8-EEE   Dec-05-10 03:03 AM   #111 
  - Oh, no...  begin_within   Dec-03-10 10:35 AM   #78 
  - I guess that would depend on the definition of sexless.  EOTE   Dec-02-10 10:25 AM   #3 
  - There's actually a legal definition of "sexless"?  semillama   Dec-03-10 10:59 AM   #82 
     - I was a bit surprised by that as well, but yes.  EOTE   Dec-03-10 03:52 PM   #90 
  - Yes, and I did  WilmywoodNCparalegal   Dec-02-10 10:41 AM   #4 
  - Yes.  mcollins   Dec-02-10 10:55 AM   #5 
  - No. In fact HELL NO!  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 10:56 AM   #6 
  - Our vows were the statutory minimum...  Deep13   Dec-02-10 11:14 AM   #10 
  - This is a trickier area than it might seem.  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-02-10 11:57 AM   #11 
  - We agree on counseling then.  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 12:32 PM   #14 
     - Your analogy is lacking  NickB79   Dec-02-10 12:52 PM   #18 
     - Now we have moved out of the bedroom.  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 01:10 PM   #22 
     - Your analogy is off base because it is about...  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-02-10 03:49 PM   #43 
     - If your partner called you a disgusting worthless pig every day, would you even want to have sex?  BurtWorm   Dec-02-10 02:52 PM   #35 
     - and the marriage problem really wouldnt be about sex at all....  seabeyond   Dec-02-10 02:58 PM   #36 
     - It would kind of get me hot...  Chan790   Dec-02-10 09:48 PM   #62 
        - Sniveling worm works for me.  BurtWorm   Dec-03-10 10:29 AM   #77 
     - Not good. This is abuse and your partner should adore you  LaurenG   Dec-03-10 07:02 AM   #71 
     - I didn't get from the OP that we were talking about an inability to have sex.  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-02-10 03:47 PM   #42 
     - You'll likely think I'm a terrible person for this but...  Chan790   Dec-02-10 09:45 PM   #61 
  - Outstanding answer  MrCoffee   Dec-02-10 12:41 PM   #15 
  - Thanks  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 01:18 PM   #23 
     - Trust me...  Dr Morbius   Dec-02-10 09:58 PM   #64 
  - And if the sexually apathetic partner refuses therapy?  NickB79   Dec-02-10 12:49 PM   #17 
  - If that is the case...  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 01:01 PM   #19 
  - The right to end a bad marriage is fundamental...  Deep13   Dec-02-10 01:19 PM   #24 
  - Fine.  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 01:35 PM   #25 
  - Yes, we agree on that. And my own answer to the OP was "no." nt  Deep13   Dec-02-10 01:54 PM   #27 
     - Just curious...  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 02:30 PM   #32 
        - I think the ability of women in particular to escape from abuse...  Deep13   Dec-02-10 03:07 PM   #37 
        - I do think men and women can have differing sexual needs as time goes on  tigereye   Dec-02-10 04:12 PM   #46 
        - Thanks for taking the time to answer my question. nt  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 06:49 PM   #55 
        - speaking only for myself, I must say that both my divorces most definitely  Tuesday Afternoon   Dec-04-10 09:01 PM   #102 
  - What an excellent answer.  Bunny   Dec-02-10 03:56 PM   #44 
  - strongly agreed.  La Lioness Priyanka   Dec-02-10 06:10 PM   #53 
  - Damn right! And if a wife is being hit and burned with cigarettes, she outta remember her vows, too!  Rabrrrrrr   Dec-04-10 07:04 PM   #97 
  - Now that is just crazy talk.  The Midway Rebel   Dec-04-10 09:57 PM   #104 
  - but --- did they say:  Tuesday Afternoon   Dec-04-10 08:57 PM   #101 
  - that's a deal breaker for me. nt  xchrom   Dec-02-10 10:58 AM   #7 
  - Depends  JoDog   Dec-02-10 11:06 AM   #8 
  - No.  Deep13   Dec-02-10 11:10 AM   #9 
  - My past-wife divorced Me for that very reason.  kentauros   Dec-02-10 12:22 PM   #12 
  - I did indeed.  bluedigger   Dec-02-10 12:28 PM   #13 
  - Yes.  Xithras   Dec-02-10 12:42 PM   #16 
  - Yes  Celeborn Skywalker   Dec-02-10 01:07 PM   #20 
  - I'd try to fix the problem first, and if that doesn't help, then I'd divorce.  Lucian   Dec-02-10 01:52 PM   #26 
  - Get out now.  msanthrope   Dec-02-10 02:04 PM   #28 
  - Sex shouldn't matter at all.  dawg   Dec-02-10 02:11 PM   #29 
  - Why shouldn't it matter?  Deep13   Dec-02-10 03:08 PM   #38 
     - Yep, I think they are two separate things.  dawg   Dec-02-10 03:29 PM   #41 
        - maybe not for you, but it would be a huge deal for me. nt  La Lioness Priyanka   Dec-02-10 09:39 PM   #59 
           - Don't get me wrong ...  dawg   Dec-03-10 10:45 AM   #79 
              - i would after trying. i have a right to my life and if my partners wants a sexless marriage  La Lioness Priyanka   Dec-03-10 11:18 AM   #84 
  - Havn't Yet  One_Life_To_Give   Dec-02-10 02:12 PM   #30 
  - Sad.  dawg   Dec-02-10 02:22 PM   #31 
     - this may be the problem  Kali   Dec-02-10 10:11 PM   #66 
        - You're right - it isn't the norm.  dawg   Dec-03-10 10:53 AM   #80 
           - what i do appreciate is hearing  seabeyond   Dec-03-10 01:37 PM   #87 
  - Yep  dropkickpa   Dec-02-10 02:36 PM   #33 
  - interesting posts thru out thread. i couldnt imagine sexless marriage.  seabeyond   Dec-02-10 02:48 PM   #34 
  - I can't say for sure but I don't think it is an unreasonable response.  seaglass   Dec-02-10 03:26 PM   #39 
  - Not if that were the only reason.  jobycom   Dec-02-10 03:26 PM   #40 
  - best answer so far, I think  tigereye   Dec-02-10 04:17 PM   #47 
  - I'm not comfortable with some of the phrasing in this thread.  noamnety   Dec-02-10 04:05 PM   #45 
  - True.  Celeborn Skywalker   Dec-02-10 04:35 PM   #48 
  - I understand what you are saying and cannot disagree with...  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-02-10 06:00 PM   #51 
  - Nobody has the right to coerce sex, but both parties have the right to their own expectations.  Xithras   Dec-03-10 01:32 PM   #86 
  - It comes down to sovereignty over one's own body.  noamnety   Dec-03-10 03:54 PM   #91 
     - I disagree. We have the right to set expectations for others. We just can't enforce them on others.  Xithras   Dec-03-10 04:10 PM   #92 
        - I was using your phrasing.  noamnety   Dec-03-10 06:33 PM   #94 
  - Deleted sub-thread  Name removed   Dec-04-10 08:03 AM   #95 
  - If you were 70, no  XemaSab   Dec-02-10 05:03 PM   #49 
  - No. I'd just engage in self abuse when needed.  Kaleva   Dec-02-10 05:14 PM   #50 
  - Sadly, most self-abuse goes unreported.  Deep13   Dec-03-10 09:52 AM   #76 
     - Good article. They talked about it on FOX NEWS the other day. . . n/t  lutefisk   Dec-04-10 06:32 PM   #96 
  - yes. If I have made efforts to work out why, and it couldnt be fixed  La Lioness Priyanka   Dec-02-10 06:07 PM   #52 
  - Less than what?  Inchworm   Dec-02-10 06:12 PM   #54 
  - There is no broad-brush answer IMHO  Sky Masterson   Dec-02-10 07:05 PM   #56 
  - No way  Generic Brad   Dec-02-10 09:21 PM   #57 
  - Don't know about that, but...  victoryparty   Dec-02-10 09:35 PM   #58 
  - An old folk saying about sex and marriage.  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 09:39 PM   #60 
  - I heard it was the first year of a marriage, not 5.  applegrove   Dec-02-10 09:57 PM   #63 
  - Yes.  The Midway Rebel   Dec-02-10 10:05 PM   #65 
  - My jar would have been emptied out.  dawg   Dec-03-10 10:57 AM   #81 
  - the trick is to marry a gal who LIKES sex  Skittles   Dec-04-10 09:17 PM   #103 
  - Most of the "ebbing" in our marriage was pregnancy related  K8-EEE   Dec-05-10 03:00 AM   #110 
  - Ha  quakerboy   Dec-04-10 07:58 PM   #99 
  - Yes  BlueJazz   Dec-02-10 10:21 PM   #67 
  - There's such thing as "an arrangement."  K8-EEE   Dec-03-10 12:25 AM   #68 
  - Take a lover!  girl_interrupted   Dec-03-10 02:04 AM   #69 
  - No, but I'd divorce anyone who started a thread like this  taterguy   Dec-03-10 06:37 AM   #70 
  - +1, not cool when the OP's profile goes to his FaceBook page  mentalsolstice   Dec-03-10 01:17 PM   #85 
     - ooosh, now it is just getting sad.  seabeyond   Dec-03-10 01:39 PM   #88 
        - Why does the fb page mention "married" AND a "girlfriend"  K8-EEE   Dec-04-10 11:18 PM   #107 
           - then maybe the quest posed should be... if i have a GF, should i divorce wife, lol. hm. nt  seabeyond   Dec-05-10 10:10 AM   #112 
  - Depends on the reasons for the lack.  alarimer   Dec-03-10 09:07 AM   #72 
  - Have they talked about the problem  MikeFoxtroters   Dec-03-10 09:20 AM   #73 
  - Only if it's making me unhappy. Sex isn't required in a marriage.  Brickbat   Dec-03-10 09:43 AM   #74 
  - Depends. If you want that intimacy from your partner, and they don't,  closeupready   Dec-03-10 01:42 PM   #89 
  - You need to get down to the real issues of why there is no sex.  cbdo2007   Dec-03-10 05:01 PM   #93 
  - withholding sex is a passive/aggressive technique.  Tuesday Afternoon   Dec-04-10 07:44 PM   #98 
  - There are many reasons why a woman w/ a baby would be less interested in sex  Nikia   Dec-04-10 08:46 PM   #100 
  - I am single and playing the field  DeadEyeDyck   Dec-04-10 11:12 PM   #106 
  - well my sweet loving guy and I just have hallway sex these days  cherish44   Dec-05-10 01:39 AM   #108 
  - I was just a smidge younger than that when my first marriage ended--  vixengrl   Dec-05-10 02:12 AM   #109 
  - There's too much I don't know to answer.  SOteric   Dec-13-10 10:26 PM   #113 
  - Sex is not the most important thing...  WiffenPoof   Dec-13-10 11:00 PM   #114 
  - It would depend on the situation.  Withywindle   Dec-13-10 11:56 PM   #115 
  - Yes and I did.  Manifestor_of_Light   Dec-14-10 12:41 AM   #116 
  - Yes, I did. n/t  ohheckyeah   Dec-14-10 12:45 AM   #117 
 

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