OmahaBlueDog
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Sat Sep-18-10 12:47 AM
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Never, ever, ever again get into a motorized vehicle with a drunk. It will get you dead.
Never drive drunk.
Leave. Your soon-to-be-former SO will plead; he will apologize; he will blame the booze; he will say he deserves one more chance; he will say this will never,ever, ever, ever happen again; he will say he's sorry a lot....all of this is BS. Respect and love yourself and move on. Wish him well, urge him to seek counseling, and get a restraining order --not in that order.
You asked for advice. That's mine.
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| -Okay, so my drunk fiance smacked me a good one tonite... |
blueamy66 |
Sep-17-10 10:29 PM |
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Keep packing and leave. |
flvegan |
Sep-17-10 10:31 PM |
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+1 |
chrisa |
Sep-18-10 10:38 PM |
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Here's what I know . . . |
Lex |
Sep-17-10 10:35 PM |
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Really? And he's still your fiance? |
Flaxbee |
Sep-17-10 10:36 PM |
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He's never behaved like this...ever... |
blueamy66 |
Sep-17-10 10:48 PM |
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Sounds to me as though he has a problem with alcohol. |
CaliforniaPeggy |
Sep-17-10 10:51 PM |
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Spot-on, Peggy. Sounds like he is a reactionary, mean drunk. |
A HERETIC I AM |
Sep-17-10 11:24 PM |
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Yes you do. Harsh answer. But it is the truth from an unbiased person |
Shell Beau |
Sep-17-10 11:00 PM |
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If he's blaming you for the fact that he hit you, that's a true sign of an abuser. |
Aristus |
Sep-17-10 11:01 PM |
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+1 |
MorningGlow |
Sep-18-10 10:13 AM |
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Drop him like the sack of shit he showed himself to be. |
Common Sense Party |
Sep-18-10 12:08 AM |
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It WILL happen again |
MajorChode |
Sep-18-10 08:00 AM |
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Reread your own post carefully. |
Brickbat |
Sep-18-10 10:27 AM |
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Did you try to convince him not to drive? |
Kaleva |
Sep-17-10 10:55 PM |
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Get out while the getting is good. |
Shell Beau |
Sep-17-10 10:57 PM |
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everything in this post from drunk driving, to grabbing wheel to him hitting you and coming after |
seabeyond |
Sep-17-10 11:05 PM |
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Please get out. |
LiberalAndProud |
Sep-17-10 11:08 PM |
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This time it's a bruise, next time |
auntAgonist |
Sep-17-10 11:11 PM |
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Advice... |
Dystopian |
Sep-17-10 11:12 PM |
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Thank you. |
blueamy66 |
Sep-18-10 06:07 AM |
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honey, you will never bring him up -- but he will surely drag you down |
elehhhhna |
Sep-19-10 12:15 PM |
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1. Leave. 2. Get support and help. 3. Never, never let anyone treat you badly. |
nolabear |
Sep-18-10 03:44 PM |
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driving while drunk? |
grasswire |
Sep-17-10 11:22 PM |
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don't be stupid |
Kali |
Sep-17-10 11:23 PM |
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wow get safe then aa or alanon (from someone who did similar stupid when young) |
pitohui |
Sep-18-10 12:17 AM |
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Excellent advice. |
Kaleva |
Sep-18-10 12:24 AM |
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thx for the reality check |
blueamy66 |
Sep-18-10 06:05 AM |
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Money???? |
blueamy66 |
Sep-18-10 06:10 AM |
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He's not a good guy. |
Brickbat |
Sep-18-10 10:30 AM |
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Your fiance is less than a man. |
cherokeeprogressive |
Sep-18-10 12:23 AM |
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Good On You! |
Biker13 |
Sep-18-10 06:34 PM |
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This guy says DUMP HIS ASS! |
Odin2005 |
Sep-18-10 12:39 AM |
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hitting while drunk is still hitting |
CreekDog |
Sep-18-10 12:44 AM |
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Blueamy |
OmahaBlueDog |
Sep-18-10 12:47 AM |
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Get the fuck outta dodge and don't look back... |
Jamastiene |
Sep-18-10 12:51 AM |
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What would you tell a good friend who came to you and asked this? |
Starry Messenger |
Sep-18-10 12:52 AM |
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I was where you are 17 years ago, I didn't leave him, I married him... |
mcctatas |
Sep-18-10 02:51 AM |
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Leave him before he kills you....nt |
old mark |
Sep-18-10 03:30 AM |
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Get the fuck out |
Sweet Charming Dem |
Sep-18-10 03:47 AM |
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What the hell was he drinkin' ? |
Inchworm |
Sep-18-10 04:22 AM |
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I'm sorry that happened. But why would you even allow him to drive if he was drunk? |
Drunken Irishman |
Sep-18-10 04:34 AM |
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And this coming from a professional drunk who NEVER drives drunk. |
Drunken Irishman |
Sep-18-10 04:35 AM |
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You're Blaming The Victim. Piss Off. (n/t) |
Paladin |
Sep-18-10 02:38 PM |
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Piss off yourself. |
Drunken Irishman |
Sep-18-10 06:16 PM |
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First off: Leave. |
proteus_lives |
Sep-18-10 04:52 AM |
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Yes, I was drunk |
blueamy66 |
Sep-18-10 06:16 AM |
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Well, then leave. |
proteus_lives |
Sep-18-10 11:36 AM |
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+1. nt |
seabeyond |
Sep-18-10 02:10 PM |
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IMO you were driving drunk, too, then. You grabbed the steering wheel while you were drunk. |
DevonRex |
Sep-19-10 04:23 PM |
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Agreed a thousand percent plus |
underseasurveyor |
Sep-19-10 07:06 PM |
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by not thinking highly enough of yourself |
TorchTheWitch |
Sep-19-10 05:03 PM |
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Thanks to all of your replies. |
blueamy66 |
Sep-18-10 06:02 AM |
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Have him read this thread, then examine how he reacts... |
MrMickeysMom |
Sep-18-10 11:10 PM |
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Run, run like the wind. |
sarge43 |
Sep-18-10 06:31 AM |
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Leave now, leave forever. |
BlueIris |
Sep-18-10 06:36 AM |
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Do what it takes to extricate yourself from this relationship |
LaurenG |
Sep-18-10 06:39 AM |
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Don't usually give advice |
Monique1 |
Sep-18-10 08:51 AM |
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wtf...driving drunk and you allowed it? |
Maine-ah |
Sep-18-10 08:57 AM |
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Wait, wait, wait.... |
peacefreak |
Sep-18-10 08:58 AM |
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I forgot your last sentence in your thread |
Monique1 |
Sep-18-10 09:12 AM |
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and if she's paying his way now |
musette_sf |
Sep-18-10 08:49 PM |
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I just want to thank everyone for their responses... |
blueamy66 |
Sep-18-10 09:09 AM |
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People who are coming across as harsh or mean |
Pool Hall Ace |
Sep-19-10 10:17 AM |
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No advice. It's clear you know what you must do |
Generic Brad |
Sep-18-10 09:16 AM |
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Get out now. |
Brickbat |
Sep-18-10 10:24 AM |
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Leave him |
m00nbeam |
Sep-18-10 10:44 AM |
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This is how all abusive behavior begins. With one smack |
lunatica |
Sep-18-10 11:31 AM |
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Sounds like a shortened version of my first marriage. |
zanana1 |
Sep-18-10 11:43 AM |
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Leave. Now. If you put it down to just being drunk then you're choosing to overlook |
Solly Mack |
Sep-18-10 11:46 AM |
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Leave and |
frogmarch |
Sep-18-10 12:06 PM |
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You're lucky to be alive...twice over. |
Iggo |
Sep-18-10 12:07 PM |
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Run, don't walk. n/t |
TroglodyteScholar |
Sep-18-10 12:23 PM |
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As Dan Savage would say - DTMFA |
GoneOffShore |
Sep-18-10 12:35 PM |
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(((blueamy66))) |
Callalily |
Sep-18-10 01:46 PM |
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Cut Your Losses And Leave Him Immediately. No Second Chances. (n/t) |
Paladin |
Sep-18-10 02:32 PM |
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Don't get in the car with someone driving drunk. |
LisaL |
Sep-18-10 03:08 PM |
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yeah, don't do that again either (n/t) |
Iggo |
Sep-18-10 04:20 PM |
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LEAVE!! and don't look back. |
mzteris |
Sep-18-10 03:49 PM |
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Your drunk fiance? Oh my gosh. |
Pool Hall Ace |
Sep-18-10 04:36 PM |
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emotional abuse is abuse |
grasswire |
Sep-18-10 10:49 PM |
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I do not have any family who can take me in. |
Pool Hall Ace |
Sep-19-10 10:20 AM |
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once again, a womens shelter is a huge source of help |
grasswire |
Sep-19-10 10:41 AM |
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How are you doing today, blueamy66? |
foxfeet |
Sep-18-10 05:00 PM |
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I'm okay |
blueamy66 |
Sep-19-10 05:52 PM |
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Good luck with the therapy. |
LiberalAndProud |
Sep-19-10 06:30 PM |
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and change your locks on the house.. |
GreatCaesarsGhost |
Sep-18-10 06:28 PM |
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Very sad and disturbing post. |
cwydro |
Sep-18-10 06:33 PM |
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I hope you're okay. |
Ilsa |
Sep-18-10 09:07 PM |
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1. Listen carefully to everybody who complained about allowing a drinker behind the wheel |
struggle4progress |
Sep-18-10 09:25 PM |
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my brother and his wife were drinkers. you could see them revin' up the dance |
seabeyond |
Sep-18-10 10:18 PM |
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It'll hurt like hell |
laundry_queen |
Sep-18-10 10:41 PM |
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Go to the hotel and keep moving on from there. Sounds like he was drunk driving too. This is a bad |
applegrove |
Sep-18-10 10:45 PM |
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If you are afraid to leave him, you can take refuge at a womens shelter for victims... |
grasswire |
Sep-18-10 10:52 PM |
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I think you know what you have to do. |
The Velveteen Ocelot |
Sep-19-10 10:24 AM |
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Get away from him. |
TheManInTheMac |
Sep-19-10 11:10 AM |
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Get out. Get out. Get out. |
Dora |
Sep-19-10 11:30 AM |
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Driving drunk and hitting people - not good traits |
stray cat |
Sep-19-10 11:36 AM |
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He was drunk and driving and you were a drunk passenger. |
underseasurveyor |
Sep-19-10 11:44 AM |
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Honestly, you both need help. Apart. |
DevonRex |
Sep-19-10 11:57 AM |
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from now on, when you meet a man, or even a new female friend, |
elehhhhna |
Sep-19-10 12:18 PM |
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Please let us know what you do. We really do care here. |
rurallib |
Sep-19-10 03:33 PM |
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If this was truly out of context, then stand firm and make him fix what he did wrong. |
Bucky |
Sep-19-10 04:42 PM |
#98 |
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