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Chan790 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-02-10 08:22 PM
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69. I'm sorry for your suffering...
but here we're going to have to agree to disagree...there are parts of my sexuality that are not my SO's business and things about hers that are private from me too. If you've got nothing to conceal even from your spouse/gf/bf/partner/SO/other, you've got a boring sexual life IMO.

Even I have clandestine sexuality and I'm in an open long-term thing (we've decided we're too casual and impermanent-in-outlook to call it a relationship) with a woman who is game for anything.
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  -So, is internet online sex cheating? faceit  Jun-01-10 11:38 AM   #0 
  - i wouldnt do it to hubby. he wouldnt do it to me. neither of us would  seabeyond   Jun-01-10 12:12 PM   #1 
  - If it is something you have to keep a secret from SO, then yes it's cheating.  Lil Missy   Jun-01-10 12:16 PM   #2 
  - That's what I thought -  faceit   Jun-01-10 12:39 PM   #8 
  - Please don't make me choose between the BF and...  Nuclear Unicorn   Jun-01-10 02:22 PM   #18 
  - By that definition...  OmahaBlueDog   Jun-01-10 09:15 PM   #38 
  - HELL to the yes!  cwydro   Jun-01-10 12:17 PM   #3 
  - Sure.  Iggo   Jun-01-10 12:21 PM   #4 
  - yes.  Tuesday Afternoon   Jun-01-10 12:23 PM   #5 
  - Ultimately, your friend will have to decide for herself.  dawg   Jun-01-10 12:25 PM   #6 
  - So, there's an iFuck computer peripheral device?  Deep13   Jun-01-10 12:30 PM   #7 
  - Web cams & mutual masturbation.  faceit   Jun-01-10 12:40 PM   #9 
  - Well even if it isn't  ismnotwasm   Jun-01-10 12:43 PM   #10 
  - Did he pay for it?  PassingFair   Jun-01-10 01:16 PM   #11 
  - I'm curious.  dawg   Jun-01-10 01:32 PM   #14 
     - We have two children to support.  PassingFair   Jun-01-10 01:51 PM   #16 
  - If a member of a committed relationship thinks it is, yes. n/t  Orsino   Jun-01-10 01:21 PM   #12 
  - Yes it is  Tailormyst   Jun-01-10 01:29 PM   #13 
  - Well, it seems unanimous. Cheating it is...  faceit   Jun-01-10 05:37 PM   #22 
     - looking at Playboy is cheating?  nickinSTL   Jun-02-10 09:37 PM   #72 
        - Actually, even *typing* Playboy is cheating.  Orrex   Jun-02-10 10:20 PM   #74 
           - and if my wife is ok with me looking at porn?  nickinSTL   Jun-03-10 12:40 PM   #75 
              - Especially then.  Orrex   Jun-03-10 04:14 PM   #80 
                 - or  seabeyond   Jun-03-10 04:46 PM   #81 
                    - lol. Have you met my wife?  nickinSTL   Jun-03-10 05:18 PM   #82 
                       - oh lordy..... this was funny.  seabeyond   Jun-03-10 05:23 PM   #83 
  - If you think it would bother the other person in your relationship, then yes, it is cheating  MissMillie   Jun-01-10 01:38 PM   #15 
  - i can see both sides of this argument.  La Lioness Priyanka   Jun-01-10 01:59 PM   #17 
  - It might be cheating, but I still don't consider it sex.  jobycom   Jun-01-10 02:23 PM   #19 
  - It involved a lie, and another person-- it's cheating.  LanternWaste   Jun-01-10 03:48 PM   #20 
  - Not if he keeps his receipts and can itemize it as a deduction  Orrex   Jun-01-10 04:57 PM   #21 
  - like a bj isnt really cheating, it isnt intercourse you know, lol. nt  seabeyond   Jun-01-10 05:38 PM   #23 
  - Fuck yes! n/t  hippywife   Jun-01-10 05:56 PM   #24 
  - He seems to have thought it wouldn't bother her, so...  TreasonousBastard   Jun-01-10 06:03 PM   #25 
  - He hid it from her and lied when confronted going on chats  faceit   Jun-02-10 01:24 PM   #51 
  - Here's how to determine it: If he doesn't mind his wife doing likewise.  WinkyDink   Jun-01-10 06:47 PM   #26 
  - I'm going to go against the consensus and say no, it isn't.  Lucian   Jun-01-10 06:55 PM   #27 
  - I may be revealing some geometric ignorance here, but how does one have online sex?  NNadir   Jun-01-10 07:01 PM   #28 
  - Yes, it is.  Pryderi   Jun-01-10 07:04 PM   #29 
  - How about lap dances at strip clubs?  Pryderi   Jun-01-10 07:06 PM   #30 
  - Yup.  Iggo   Jun-01-10 08:11 PM   #35 
  - No penetration? Not cheating.  MrSlayer   Jun-01-10 07:13 PM   #31 
  - Is that you Bill?  cwydro   Jun-02-10 04:22 AM   #43 
  - Funny...  faceit   Jun-02-10 01:29 PM   #52 
  - LOL!  MrSlayer   Jun-02-10 03:41 PM   #63 
  - Nope.  Blue-Jay   Jun-02-10 09:38 PM   #73 
  - How about fantasizing about someone else while you're having sex with your s.o.?  Wapsie B   Jun-01-10 07:13 PM   #32 
  - I'm not into setting rules for other people's relationships.  LeftyMom   Jun-01-10 07:17 PM   #33 
  - Whatever is comfortable for both parties. If one spouse feels uncomfortable about an activity, then  Pryderi   Jun-01-10 07:23 PM   #34 
  - If I did it, my wife would kick my ass. That makes it cheating. (nt)  Dr Morbius   Jun-01-10 08:16 PM   #36 
  - Cheating = 2 or more people + physical contact + .....  OmahaBlueDog   Jun-01-10 09:07 PM   #37 
  - It is a slippery slope.  faceit   Jun-02-10 01:32 PM   #53 
  - No.  Lilith Velkor   Jun-01-10 10:46 PM   #39 
  - Yep, cheating.  proteus_lives   Jun-01-10 11:45 PM   #40 
  - If another person was involved, I would put it in the cheating category, sort of like phone sex  Pushed To The Left   Jun-02-10 12:18 AM   #41 
  - Yes. Duh.  Common Sense Party   Jun-02-10 12:43 AM   #42 
  - It depends... in this case, I would say no  Blasphemer   Jun-02-10 04:40 AM   #44 
  - Not even remotely...  Chan790   Jun-02-10 07:18 AM   #45 
  - YES it is cheating!  Macoy   Jun-02-10 08:57 AM   #46 
  - .  seabeyond   Jun-02-10 08:59 AM   #47 
  - So sorry.  dawg   Jun-02-10 09:01 AM   #48 
  - I'm sorry for your suffering...  Chan790   Jun-02-10 08:22 PM   #69 
  - Any situation  ismnotwasm   Jun-02-10 01:39 PM   #54 
  - The wife is creepy? That is way off base.  faceit   Jun-02-10 01:41 PM   #55 
  - A husband hiring a prostitute without the knowledge of his wife is therefore not cheating?  LanternWaste   Jun-02-10 02:41 PM   #58 
     - it says, requires an emotional context if not a physical one  La Lioness Priyanka   Jun-02-10 06:39 PM   #67 
     - Seems to me that the statement implies either/or...  LanternWaste   Jun-03-10 02:24 PM   #79 
     - it says, requires an emotional context if not a physical one  La Lioness Priyanka   Jun-02-10 06:39 PM   #68 
  - This thread misses the damn point by a mile ...  dawg   Jun-02-10 09:07 AM   #49 
  - you are right. i couldnt call it cheating. i could say neither of us would do it, or want it done  seabeyond   Jun-02-10 09:09 AM   #50 
  - Why in the world would someone tell their co-workers about this?  AngryAmish   Jun-02-10 01:58 PM   #56 
  - clearing throat. an exact example of difference between male and female  seabeyond   Jun-02-10 02:39 PM   #57 
  - Not necessarily a male / female thing ...  dawg   Jun-02-10 02:56 PM   #59 
  - lol. it is said often. but again  seabeyond   Jun-02-10 03:05 PM   #61 
  - I think it is a cultural more than a male/female thing  AngryAmish   Jun-02-10 03:02 PM   #60 
     - broad brush or generalization works as long as we realize we are talk tend to, not all people  seabeyond   Jun-02-10 03:11 PM   #62 
        - Little respect for her husband?  faceit   Jun-03-10 12:50 PM   #77 
           - you said it was a hot office topic. that implied everyone was talking about it  seabeyond   Jun-03-10 12:57 PM   #78 
  - If a person wants to throw away his or her own privacy...  Silent3   Jun-02-10 04:45 PM   #64 
     - ya. and what is going to happen when he is forced going to her christmas party.... knowing no one  seabeyond   Jun-02-10 04:54 PM   #65 
     - There are only two people here beside her and we are long time friends  faceit   Jun-03-10 12:47 PM   #76 
  - depends on your marital contract  Taverner   Jun-02-10 05:00 PM   #66 
  - If someone hides it and it upsets the spouse...YES  alphafemale   Jun-02-10 09:30 PM   #70 
  - If you're hiding it/lying then you're cheating.  Blue-Jay   Jun-02-10 09:37 PM   #71 
  - Yes it is, but of the unsatisfying type  mitchum   Jun-03-10 05:51 PM   #84 

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