Reply #10: Well even if it isn't

[ismnotwasm]

I'd shitcan his ass for first for lying, and secondly for being creepy. (I think it's creepy to compare it to porn. This involved real live human beings he was having interaction with, people with their own lives and emotions. Porn is pictures and movies)

Plus it's plain shitty mean behavior to hang out on-line for sexual purposes when your spouse is unaware. He could have asked, if he thought it was 'just like porn'. I'm sure he knows he is an asshole. And that "I won't do it again since you're uncomfortable with it" line? Classic bait and switch. Attempts to place the burden of guilt on the wife. Fuck that.

I don't see a good ending here.