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67. Are you trying to figure out how many have cheated or how many are lying about it?
I'm guessing the number is close to 50% but also this question can be misleading due to people's definitions. Many people out there DON'T think oral sex is cheating while I would consider even kissing someone to be cheating.
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  -have you cheated while married. seabeyond  Apr-10-10 03:09 PM   #0 
  - Have you given interviews claiming to be devoted to family and cheated?  Captain Hilts   Apr-10-10 03:11 PM   #1 
  - is that another question you would like me to ask, or are you asking me, lol? nt  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 03:12 PM   #2 
  - Over fifty years married. Never cheated, never will. nt.  Libertyfirst   Apr-10-10 09:07 PM   #57 
  - I think a definition of "cheating" is needed here.  flvegan   Apr-10-10 03:13 PM   #3 
  - Good point...I've had people describe flirting online  HipChick   Apr-10-10 03:14 PM   #4 
  - I think it's a pretty big stretch to call looking at porn, for instance, 'cheating'.  Warren DeMontague   Apr-10-10 03:24 PM   #14 
     - By the expansive definition, my wife and I cheat every time we watch Lost  SoxFan   Apr-10-10 07:58 PM   #44 
     - Funny. We had a talk last night about how unattractive I think all the LOST women are.  Warren DeMontague   Apr-11-10 01:35 AM   #58 
        - Even Zoe the pole dancing librarian?  Bucky   Apr-11-10 10:01 AM   #72 
        - What the hell is wrong with you???  SoxFan   Apr-11-10 02:12 PM   #80 
           - I was mostly just talking about the main Oceanic characters, but, here you go.  Warren DeMontague   Apr-11-10 03:27 PM   #86 
     - Cheating is a loose term. I think if you know your SO will  Shell Beau   Apr-10-10 08:22 PM   #46 
     - i do agree. on this poll i really wanted the black and white of it with sex. but you are  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 08:26 PM   #49 
     - I agree, and certainly it's better to hash that stuff out BEFORE getting married.  Warren DeMontague   Apr-11-10 01:36 AM   #59 
     - Good point, Shell Beau.  tango-tee   Apr-12-10 03:17 PM   #108 
     - Yours is the voice of reason.  tango-tee   Apr-13-10 02:34 AM   #116 
  - is that clear enough. i hear what you are saying. that was brought up in that other poll  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 03:15 PM   #5 
  - Yes, very clear. And to answer the question, no.  flvegan   Apr-10-10 03:18 PM   #8 
  - surprisingly i find it not even challenging to not cheat. i was surprised, being so old  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 03:24 PM   #15 
  - I am going to stay with a higher number..  HipChick   Apr-10-10 03:19 PM   #10 
     - i was single until 32, saw a lot too. saw also, not even close to third of the male that cheat  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 03:23 PM   #12 
  - How about oral sex? A lot of churches don't define that as sex, so is that okay to do?  AnArmyVeteran   Apr-10-10 03:56 PM   #24 
  - It's GREAT to do!  dems_rightnow   Apr-11-10 09:10 AM   #64 
  - *  Warren DeMontague   Apr-11-10 06:37 PM   #93 
  - there's an old jazz number which deals with that...  unpossibles   Apr-12-10 02:37 PM   #103 
  - Arrgh.  tango-tee   Apr-12-10 03:19 PM   #109 
  - Ideally people have good enough communication to set their own ground rules.  LeftyMom   Apr-10-10 04:30 PM   #28 
  - Exactly. I think each relationship has its own versions of what  Shell Beau   Apr-10-10 08:24 PM   #47 
  - "Some think that fantasizing is cheating"  Art_from_Ark   Apr-11-10 01:39 AM   #60 
  - I think the definition of cheating depends on the couple. nt  ZombieHorde   Apr-11-10 03:30 PM   #87 
     - Yes, as it should.  Dappleganger   Apr-12-10 02:46 PM   #105 
  - Never been married, it's not a goal of mine. Currently single and happy.  Electric Monk   Apr-10-10 03:15 PM   #6 
  - good for you.... being happy. i was single and happy lots and lots of years. nt  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 03:16 PM   #7 
  - No, never. But we married in our 30s. I think a lot of people get married too early, and  Warren DeMontague   Apr-10-10 03:18 PM   #9 
  - i got married in 30's too. i think that is a huge difference  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 03:53 PM   #21 
  - +1  rucky   Apr-10-10 03:56 PM   #23 
  - Breakdown of Sex & Age Would Be Interesting...  KharmaTrain   Apr-10-10 03:22 PM   #11 
  - since i am so into behavior ect... yes, all that breakdown would be interesting. i would be  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 03:26 PM   #17 
  - Nope.  LeftyMom   Apr-10-10 03:24 PM   #13 
  - I voted no. My ex (a woman) did, though.  frustrated_lefty   Apr-10-10 03:26 PM   #16 
  - Same here  villager   Apr-10-10 03:41 PM   #19 
  - Absolutely not  etherealtruth   Apr-10-10 03:32 PM   #18 
  - Married 32 years this May, no intention to be anything but true to myself. . .  Journeyman   Apr-10-10 03:42 PM   #20 
  - I wish all people were like you.  liquid diamond   Apr-11-10 01:51 PM   #79 
  - That is lovely.  tango-tee   Apr-13-10 02:40 AM   #117 
  - According to the Bible, just lusting is equivalent to fucking, so why not just go all the way!!!  AnArmyVeteran   Apr-10-10 03:55 PM   #22 
  - your choice, but i am gonna take a stab in the dark, ... the bible really doesnt mean much to you  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 03:57 PM   #25 
  - Isn't that what the Bible is for?  rcrush   Apr-11-10 02:21 PM   #81 
  - Lusting doesn't give you an STD.  ShortnFiery   Apr-12-10 12:35 PM   #102 
  - Put this poll on FR if you want to see some really big numbers....  HysteryDiagnosis   Apr-10-10 03:59 PM   #26 
  - Using Kinsey for anyting is clearly flawed at this point...  ProgressiveProfessor   Apr-10-10 04:27 PM   #27 
  - Try these stats  Warpy   Apr-10-10 04:32 PM   #29 
  - Studies are all over the place .... exactly  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 04:35 PM   #30 
  - Kinda. He was abusive, and I left him first, but technically we were still married.  Lyric   Apr-10-10 04:44 PM   #31 
  - i hear ya. that is the tricky with these type polls.... there are all kinds of well???  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 05:01 PM   #32 
     - I voted "Yes" since it was technically true.  Lyric   Apr-10-10 05:13 PM   #35 
        - good for you.... in all regards to your post. yea. nt  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 05:16 PM   #37 
  - I admit I have fudged the score in Scrabble  ashling   Apr-10-10 05:10 PM   #33 
  - cute... but nu uh...  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 05:12 PM   #34 
  - I'm kinda like President Carter. I've lusted in my heart  Ishoutandscream2   Apr-10-10 05:14 PM   #36 
  - Hmm...  Ms. Toad   Apr-10-10 05:48 PM   #38 
  - hm.... lol, wink  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 05:52 PM   #39 
  - If we lived in a world that *I* would really want to live in,  tango-tee   Apr-13-10 07:00 AM   #119 
  - I went with no as its true...  here_is_to_hope   Apr-10-10 07:28 PM   #40 
  - another hm.... lol  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 07:41 PM   #41 
     - I think that 90 percent statement is true  here_is_to_hope   Apr-10-10 08:16 PM   #45 
        - Is it the feeling of the "afterglow" that you might be missing?  tango-tee   Apr-13-10 02:54 AM   #118 
  - Not married but find this interesting  JustAnotherGen   Apr-10-10 07:51 PM   #42 
  - Are you really expecting people to be HONEST about this?  Odin2005   Apr-10-10 07:52 PM   #43 
  - why wouldnt they be, lol. it is the most anonymous. i dont see any reason to lie  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 08:24 PM   #48 
  - No! Never cheated in any form or fashion while married.  Shell Beau   Apr-10-10 08:26 PM   #50 
  - people justifying the behavior like to say, .... none of us ever know. well  seabeyond   Apr-10-10 08:28 PM   #51 
     - I'm with you. If I get to that point, then my marriage is over.  Shell Beau   Apr-10-10 08:31 PM   #52 
     - People change  dendrobium   Apr-13-10 11:07 AM   #120 
        - good post.  seabeyond   Apr-13-10 11:58 AM   #121 
  - I'm not married, but I dated a woman who was.  Lucian   Apr-10-10 08:44 PM   #53 
  - tempted but no.  dana_b   Apr-10-10 08:50 PM   #54 
  - 31 years married  Old Troop   Apr-10-10 09:01 PM   #55 
  - I've had some crushes on others, but I've never cheated.  deutsey   Apr-10-10 09:06 PM   #56 
  - i think a huge difference is  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 09:02 AM   #62 
  - Never been married, so technically the answer is NO.  4lbs   Apr-11-10 01:46 AM   #61 
  - nope  bigtree   Apr-11-10 09:07 AM   #63 
  - LOL !!! - I Love It... 1754 Views, Only 194 Votes... As Of Now...  WillyT   Apr-11-10 09:14 AM   #65 
  - i really wanted the gender split BUT  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 09:53 AM   #68 
  - No one has said "yes" yet?  EFerrari   Apr-11-10 03:33 PM   #88 
     - so the people that say they havent had an affair is lying? really? hm.  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 04:56 PM   #91 
        - I was mostly kidding. But, yes, I am surprised.  EFerrari   Apr-11-10 08:00 PM   #94 
           - actually  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 08:12 PM   #95 
              - Well, there are some bits of information that you don't share  EFerrari   Apr-12-10 12:26 AM   #97 
                 - there is that.  seabeyond   Apr-12-10 06:57 AM   #98 
  - Can't get married, so no.  donco6   Apr-11-10 09:22 AM   #66 
  - and i am sorry  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 09:56 AM   #69 
     - No problem - it's certainly not your fault.  donco6   Apr-11-10 09:58 AM   #71 
        - no  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 10:02 AM   #73 
  - Are you trying to figure out how many have cheated or how many are lying about it?  cbdo2007   Apr-11-10 09:31 AM   #67 
  - are you trying to validate your own belief and agenda?  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 09:57 AM   #70 
  - Is something up with you today?  donco6   Apr-11-10 01:01 PM   #76 
  - nah  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 01:19 PM   #77 
     - Sorry, must be misinterpreting.  donco6   Apr-11-10 01:32 PM   #78 
  - I'm not looking for validation, just clarification.  cbdo2007   Apr-11-10 03:16 PM   #83 
     - well, of course. i see what you are saying now.  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 03:21 PM   #84 
  - C'mon  alcibiades_mystery   Apr-11-10 03:23 PM   #85 
     - that would be my thought. granted i didnt think to put that clarification in  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 04:08 PM   #89 
  - never been married  TheFarseer   Apr-11-10 10:07 AM   #74 
  - to the girlfriends  seabeyond   Apr-11-10 10:14 AM   #75 
  - I have never cheated, whether married or not. nt  LWolf   Apr-11-10 03:16 PM   #82 
  - No. nt  old mark   Apr-11-10 04:26 PM   #90 
  - Never been married.  Arkana   Apr-11-10 04:56 PM   #92 
  - Nope.  goldcanyonaz   Apr-11-10 08:17 PM   #96 
  - Never been married  Lurks Often   Apr-12-10 12:08 PM   #99 
  - good points  unpossibles   Apr-13-10 03:37 PM   #126 
     - i appreciate listening to both you guys.... thanks. nt  seabeyond   Apr-13-10 04:52 PM   #127 
  - No, I did not - however, as soon as my ex-wife filed for divorce  NewJeffCT   Apr-12-10 12:29 PM   #100 
  - Alright, I'll fess up.  muffin1   Apr-12-10 12:34 PM   #101 
  - While I haven't cheated  Dappleganger   Apr-12-10 02:43 PM   #104 
  - define cheating  aquattro_660   Apr-12-10 02:56 PM   #106 
  - No. Because I was cheated on in my first marriage and it hurt like hell.  tango-tee   Apr-12-10 03:06 PM   #107 
  - i am currently in marriage therapy because my spouse cheated on me  dugaresa   Apr-12-10 03:22 PM   #110 
  - good luck to you on that. though nothing to do with luck.  seabeyond   Apr-12-10 03:49 PM   #112 
  - No. I haven't had any reason to.  MrSlayer   Apr-12-10 03:36 PM   #111 
  - .  seabeyond   Apr-12-10 03:50 PM   #113 
  - I am ashamed to admit that I have  Roon   Apr-12-10 04:01 PM   #114 
  - I have honestly never cheated on anyone ever.  Forkboy   Apr-12-10 04:45 PM   #115 
  - I had to vote yes,  PRETZEL   Apr-13-10 12:22 PM   #122 
     - that is being honest  seabeyond   Apr-13-10 12:32 PM   #123 
        - in hindsight,  PRETZEL   Apr-13-10 12:50 PM   #124 
           - thanks for the add on  seabeyond   Apr-13-10 12:53 PM   #125 

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