Reply #16: 20s??

[Urban Prairie]

I am in my early 50s, and the widower guy below me (60) in our condo complex w/ a 9 year old son, has a condo so filthy, moldy smelling, and trash/dirty clothing-strewn (esp. the kitchen...yikes!!) that I feel like I should wear a hazmat suit when he asks me to visit to fix a problem w/ his desktop computer's OS (Win XP)

I bet he wonders why I only stay there as long as it takes to fix the problem, and will refuse a soft drink in a cup or glass and/or any kind of food/snacks while I am there...lol!!

We occasionally will babysit his son as a favor to them, and let him watch a DVD movie, if his father has to go somewhere without him, but the kid is ill-mannered, rude, clumsy, and a very sloppy eater. No matter what he snacks on or drinks, he manages to spill/smear some or most of of it on himself or whatever he is sitting on.

The last time he was here, he spilled his soft drink all over one of the cushions of our love-seat couch. My wife blew her stack, and he began crying, but my wife then apologized for yelling at him, and calmed him down.. His father is waay too obese to climb the stairs to visit us, and his son is getting there as well, he must be over 200 lbs easily. The kid much prefers to be in our condo rather his own, and has begun to come over almost every night after school and having their "dinner" (whatever that is) to nosily see or ask what we are doing, and often won't leave even when we repeatedly tell him that we are busy and have no time for him.

I chalk up his son's troubles to the fact that his mother died (suicide from crack addition) and we do feel sorry for him. But he is getting more and more obnoxious with each passing year, and wants to tag along with me or my wife whenever we are leaving to go somewhere. He is also becoming a troublemaker at school, and has been suspended several times already this year. We feel that his father is obviously not capable of raising him properly, and his son has zero respect for his dad, and has often beat on him, calls him filthy names, and throws things at him when they get in a fight, which is rapidly becoming an everyday thing, and we can hear them below us screaming at each other for hours.

His father is a disabled diabetic, and has had bypass heart surgery. By the time that kid reaches his teens, it would not surprise me if he severely injures, if not kills his father. At only nine years old, he is already quite strong and is just huuge.