Reply #23: God bless them -

[Tangerine LaBamba]

they're young and strong, and can work two crappy jobs each to be able to pay rent somewhere - but NOT TO YOU!

Yes, you are the kind of person who throws someone out into the cold (where is it cold?) after your good nature has been used and abused. For them to live with you for a year and to contribute nothing is wrong. Just plain wrong.

You've done a lot, and good for you. If you keep the current situation going, you're going to hurt them. Right now, they need to stand on their own two feet, just the two of them against the world, and all that good stuff. While you're making it easy for them, they're not going to do anything, at an age when they should be eager to move forward.

Get that bigger apartment, be happy, live alone, enjoy yourself. You certainly can invite them over for dinner, or even for a weekend, if you want, but you've carried them long enough. They're not helpless, they're not without resources, they're just lazy and want it to be easy, and, you know what, Mom?

You did your job.

It's not your problem. It's theirs, but the attempted manipulation is kind of funny. After all you've done - and they've had a totally FREE ride, that's his comment?

Throw them both out, and enjoy your life. And do NOT feel guilty. Guilty is for when you've done something wrong - your problem is you did everything right - and we all know that the road to Hell really is paved with good intentions.

Those kids aren't "kids" - they're healthy, functioning adults, and it's time for them to shake their cute little butts and work for a living, support themselves, and spend a long, long time thanking you for all that you did for them.

But, your time is NOW, so go for it, my friend.

And good for you for all that did, but enough is enough................................