Th1onein
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Sat Jun-06-09 03:19 AM
Response to Reply #89 |
| 168. Her boyfriend is, I think, an alcoholic. |
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Plus, he goes out to clubs, both the regular kind and the topless kind, and he wants to impress everybody and spends hundreds of dollars buying drinks and getting drunk, himself. He's got more clothes than a movie star and my daughter dresses in almost rags.
He's taking advantage of the fact that I don't want my daughter to go without anything, especially when she's pregnant. And she's letting him.
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| -I am so angry at my daughter, I don't want to speak to her again. |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 08:36 PM |
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Cancel those credit cards. |
skooooo |
Jun-05-09 08:37 PM |
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Cut her off, she seems to be a leech from what you are telling us. |
UndertheOcean |
Jun-05-09 08:38 PM |
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Vent away, then calm down and read your post as if someone else wrote it. |
Gormy Cuss |
Jun-05-09 08:38 PM |
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Gormy's smart. listen to gormy. |
mainegreen |
Jun-05-09 09:05 PM |
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flvegan likes this. |
flvegan |
Jun-05-09 09:12 PM |
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I wish I knew what to say, Th1onein. |
leftyclimber |
Jun-05-09 08:39 PM |
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It's not complicated. |
skooooo |
Jun-05-09 09:07 PM |
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You need to stop paying |
bigwillq |
Jun-05-09 08:42 PM |
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I don't mean to be cruel, but you are not part of the problem, you ARE the problem. |
Midlodemocrat |
Jun-05-09 08:43 PM |
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Let's see how that would work out........ |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 09:08 PM |
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You're not helping her. |
skooooo |
Jun-05-09 09:09 PM |
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I travel all over the country in an RV |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 09:18 PM |
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Ok, well I guess put up with it then. |
skooooo |
Jun-05-09 09:21 PM |
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Right. Drag my pregnant daughter all over the country in an RV. |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 09:27 PM |
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No in between?? I just gave you other suggestions. |
skooooo |
Jun-05-09 09:28 PM |
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You need the read the rest of the thread, friend. |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 09:36 PM |
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It sounds like you've made a decision then.. |
skooooo |
Jun-05-09 09:38 PM |
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He's a no good no father piece of shit. |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 10:11 PM |
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just like your daughters partner- nice! the both of you need to quit whining + get help |
bettyellen |
Jun-05-09 11:59 PM |
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Good for you! |
bigwillq |
Jun-05-09 09:40 PM |
#34 |
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Talk to her about the suicide threats. |
Jamastiene |
Jun-06-09 01:54 AM |
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We ARE trying to help you. |
bigwillq |
Jun-05-09 09:28 PM |
#27 |
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I am listening. But you must admit, you are offering simplistic solutions. |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 09:33 PM |
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Did she not work before all of this? |
bigwillq |
Jun-05-09 09:38 PM |
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Who's going to take care of the baby if she doesn't step up? |
nini |
Jun-05-09 10:54 PM |
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You're not helping her, you're infantilizing her. You've taught her to be selfish and greedy. |
Rabrrrrrr |
Jun-05-09 09:58 PM |
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Jun-05-09 10:42 PM |
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Hereditary, indeed! Well said! |
Rabrrrrrr |
Jun-05-09 10:48 PM |
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Nail hit |
REP |
Jun-05-09 10:56 PM |
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If you can't see how amazingly fucked up this is? None of us can help you. Good fucking luck. |
Midlodemocrat |
Jun-05-09 10:51 PM |
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i see, so except for throwing yourslef a big fat pity paty you have no idea what else to do.... |
bettyellen |
Jun-05-09 11:46 PM |
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Hello? Do you just chime in with the insults before you read the posts or what? |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 12:17 AM |
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no, i read the whole thing+you're who daughter learned to play the "poor me' game from and we |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 12:28 AM |
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Nah. You're not reading the posts. It's obvious. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 12:35 AM |
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i read the whole thing. conspiculously lacking any info on how your daughter fell into this tailspin |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 12:44 AM |
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And it'll ramp up once the baby is born - she'll need more $$$$$$$$$ for the baby, of course |
REP |
Jun-06-09 12:59 AM |
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she seems unconcerned about this unhealthy situation the kids being born into- boozy whoring dad... |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:01 AM |
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She's trapped. Has that occurred to you? |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:18 AM |
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trapped is bullshit. if she needs help get her HELP. money is'nt helping- especially if |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:28 AM |
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Oh, such simple solutions, bettyellen. Thanks SO much! |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:31 AM |
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you don;t realize how you sound exactly iike your daughter, angry self pitying, making excuses ... |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:34 AM |
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Bettyellen, I guess I just have an affinity for the truth. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:50 AM |
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LOL |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:55 AM |
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It was just like you said, bettyellen! |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 02:07 AM |
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all the work is bullshit if you;re more interested in gratitude than your grandkids welfare |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 02:14 AM |
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Inability to cope? |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 02:26 AM |
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of course, in every scenario you're the victim. thats the theme of this thread... |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 02:32 AM |
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Is there a point to this fight the both of you refuse to let die? |
Fleshdancer |
Jun-06-09 02:38 AM |
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naaah, i'm just waiting on a friend and i was curious. |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 02:43 AM |
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All the doors are locked? Her legs are broken? |
REP |
Jun-06-09 01:30 AM |
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because she;d have no drama then. no one to make her feel shitty! |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:38 AM |
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Well, like I said, you know it all, bettyellen. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:56 AM |
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you said plenty, and every single person here gave you advice you don;t want to hear.... |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 02:05 AM |
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Yes, bettyellen, I'm sure you know all about my life. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 02:14 AM |
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so petty, so helpless and angry. all traits you now share - proudly- with your daughter. |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 02:22 AM |
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You're very angry, aren't you, bettyellen? |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 02:31 AM |
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.. |
skooooo |
Jun-06-09 02:34 AM |
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oh i see, your rubber and i'm glue! wow is that one of those science things u spend all your time on |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 02:37 AM |
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Bless your heart |
REP |
Jun-06-09 02:42 AM |
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OMG! This is absolutely amazing! Hahaha! |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:16 AM |
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"...with very little help from me..." |
REP |
Jun-06-09 01:21 AM |
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welll yeah, but i'd take five creidt cards if anyone was fool enough to give them to me |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:25 AM |
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Not sure if I could ... depends upon the sucker, though |
REP |
Jun-06-09 01:27 AM |
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i know, i;d actually have to hate the person alot- that;s why so may were specualting drugs... |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:31 AM |
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Well, my mother always said that we judge others by the way we are ourselves......so..... |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:43 AM |
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if ahe had the major 180 degree change you claim she has, then you had better worry |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:49 AM |
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Well, then she MUST be like you, right, REP? |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:35 AM |
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Obviously, she's not a thing like me |
REP |
Jun-06-09 01:44 AM |
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so not putting up with or knocked up by a fucking abusive whoring loser is all uppity huh? |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:44 AM |
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Ya know, bettyellen, sometimes people get into these situations without knowing what they're getting |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:53 AM |
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"ALL their own fault" |
REP |
Jun-06-09 01:55 AM |
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god forbid her daughter have a better life than her- trapped worked for her- she belives trapped |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:58 AM |
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sadly they learn to "put up with it" more often than not from Mom, also learn to put the kids last.. |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 02:10 AM |
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OR, it just might keep the $52k/year boyfriend out of the titty bars. |
flvegan |
Jun-06-09 12:20 AM |
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She does this because you allow it. |
GOPisEvil |
Jun-05-09 08:44 PM |
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You are allowing yourself to be the victim here. |
Ikonoklast |
Jun-05-09 08:45 PM |
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Time for a little tough love. |
The Velveteen Ocelot |
Jun-05-09 08:46 PM |
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Seconded. Mine did that to me... |
Deja Q |
Jun-05-09 09:15 PM |
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Right. It is not as if she's 16 ... She's twice that. |
Arugula Latte |
Jun-05-09 09:50 PM |
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As long as you enable her |
latebloomer |
Jun-05-09 08:49 PM |
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Oh, man. Sorry, Th1onein. |
Orangepeel |
Jun-05-09 09:03 PM |
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Are you insane or just think you are worthless? |
graywarrior |
Jun-05-09 09:04 PM |
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You've apparently got the wrong idea here. |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 09:12 PM |
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My impression from him was that he was speaking of your daughter |
Deja Q |
Jun-05-09 09:16 PM |
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I think graywarrior was trying to build you up, not cut you down. |
leftyclimber |
Jun-05-09 09:42 PM |
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This is a good post. |
bigwillq |
Jun-05-09 09:44 PM |
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Well said. |
graywarrior |
Jun-05-09 10:05 PM |
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Ruh roh. |
graywarrior |
Jun-05-09 10:02 PM |
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I feel sorry for you and your daughter... if I may ask, |
Deja Q |
Jun-05-09 09:08 PM |
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Woh. Time out. You're the victim but you have allowed them to use you. |
triguy46 |
Jun-05-09 09:08 PM |
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She needs to get the fucking tooth pulled. Fuck the root canal. |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 09:22 PM |
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I'm really sorry that you are going |
Texasgal |
Jun-05-09 09:36 PM |
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I just want to get it OUT, so I don't feel like I'm going to destroy something. |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 11:58 PM |
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Sounds like a good idea! |
latebloomer |
Jun-05-09 09:40 PM |
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Oooh, I like your last line! |
bigwillq |
Jun-05-09 09:41 PM |
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I'm not being defensive. Your "solutions" are judgemental and simplistic |
Th1onein |
Jun-05-09 10:17 PM |
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Tooth pulled is probably the best choice. |
leftyclimber |
Jun-05-09 09:59 PM |
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If he's pissing off that much money on strippers - THEY have the money to pay for it |
nini |
Jun-05-09 10:47 PM |
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Good choices. |
LiberalAndProud |
Jun-06-09 01:50 AM |
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CUT THEM OFF. |
Zavulon |
Jun-05-09 09:41 PM |
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respect your instinct and get away from/cut them off for awhile |
pitohui |
Jun-05-09 09:54 PM |
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I'd think my parents were total suckers if they did all that for me when I was 30. |
Lex |
Jun-05-09 09:58 PM |
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Our next door neighbor does this |
Dappleganger |
Jun-05-09 10:17 PM |
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they have FIVE credit cards of YOURS???!!! |
Kali |
Jun-05-09 10:08 PM |
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I'm sure that you mean well |
Dappleganger |
Jun-05-09 10:10 PM |
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I'm canceling the credit cards and the internet service. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 12:15 AM |
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Sucky monkey |
quakerboy |
Jun-05-09 10:34 PM |
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$1000 a week on strippers? |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 10:36 PM |
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And Zomby Woof has experienced the greatest strippers ever! |
Renew Deal |
Jun-05-09 10:46 PM |
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I couldn't help it! |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 10:47 PM |
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Just keep those $1 bills coming. |
GOPisEvil |
Jun-05-09 10:54 PM |
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Damn, you're cheap! |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 10:55 PM |
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I'll just make you buy the $20 champagne cocktails. |
GOPisEvil |
Jun-05-09 10:56 PM |
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You said "cock tails" |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 10:58 PM |
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Dude! You're naked! |
GOPisEvil |
Jun-05-09 11:02 PM |
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This is the Lounge! |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 11:04 PM |
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Tuesdays are amateur nights. |
GOPisEvil |
Jun-05-09 11:07 PM |
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Do they teach you these incentives in mgt. school? |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 11:09 PM |
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Right after they give you the lobotomy. |
GOPisEvil |
Jun-05-09 11:11 PM |
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I got one of those! |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 11:15 PM |
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I had a brainstorm today. |
GOPisEvil |
Jun-05-09 11:19 PM |
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Leave the drizzle to L.A. |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 11:21 PM |
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We're working on 3 weeks with nary a drop. |
GOPisEvil |
Jun-05-09 11:22 PM |
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Why not both? |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 11:24 PM |
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Oh, I like that! |
GOPisEvil |
Jun-05-09 11:31 PM |
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He's getting something more than a lap dance or two. |
MilesColtrane |
Jun-05-09 11:23 PM |
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Truly |
Zomby Woof |
Jun-05-09 11:26 PM |
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She will NEVER take care of herself if you keep doing it |
nini |
Jun-05-09 10:44 PM |
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For they sow the wind; And they reap the whirlwind. |
REP |
Jun-05-09 10:58 PM |
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Drugs? Seriously, I doubt the guy's burning through that much money just at titty bars. |
LeftyMom |
Jun-05-09 11:07 PM |
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I'm not sure what the little bastard is doing with his money..... |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 12:31 AM |
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you're paying for groceries because he has no money left after the boozing and whoring, DOH! |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 12:36 AM |
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Gosh sheez, Miss Bettyellen! You are SO smart! |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 12:47 AM |
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Actually, I'd guess the drug problem is his. |
LeftyMom |
Jun-06-09 12:50 AM |
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Jun-06-09 12:59 AM |
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Martyrdom is the chosen profession of some |
REP |
Jun-06-09 01:01 AM |
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getting attention is so much more important right now than her grandchild health and welfare |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 01:05 AM |
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That figures; she identifies as anti-abortion |
REP |
Jun-06-09 01:46 AM |
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she identifies as spending all her time working and then throwing money at problems |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 02:34 AM |
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okay i;ll type slow- the five credit cards ar payng for all expenses and you have no fucking clue |
bettyellen |
Jun-06-09 12:57 AM |
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Grubby little hands? Allowance? Poisoning my grandkid? |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:28 AM |
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If you want to subsidize your adult daughter that's really your decision, |
LeftyMom |
Jun-06-09 12:44 AM |
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And where do I sign up? I can act ALL grateful |
Kali |
Jun-06-09 01:08 AM |
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First and foremost Th1onein, I'm so sorry you're hurting... |
Fleshdancer |
Jun-05-09 11:18 PM |
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Thank you so much for your kind and insightful words, Fleshdancer. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 01:04 AM |
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and then it will be when the baby is weaned, and then when it is in day care, and then when you get |
Kali |
Jun-06-09 01:14 AM |
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At this rate.... |
Fleshdancer |
Jun-06-09 01:18 AM |
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Jun-05-09 11:54 PM |
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Do you feel better now? |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 12:03 AM |
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I felt fine before - |
Tangerine LaBamba |
Jun-06-09 12:13 AM |
#91 |
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Well, actually, there was this little insult: |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 12:42 AM |
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That's not a jolly |
Tangerine LaBamba |
Jun-06-09 12:50 AM |
#110 |
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You're not letting her grow-up. |
emilyg |
Jun-05-09 11:54 PM |
#85 |
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There is an addiction (gambling or drugs) on the part of someone... |
mitchum |
Jun-06-09 12:06 AM |
#89 |
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Her boyfriend is, I think, an alcoholic. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 03:19 AM |
#168 |
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"... they've got five credit cards of MINE..." |
madeline_con |
Jun-06-09 12:07 AM |
#90 |
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ditto. |
Schema Thing |
Jun-06-09 12:16 AM |
#93 |
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Ok, so you were just venting then? |
BarenakedLady |
Jun-06-09 12:27 AM |
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Well, I thought that my first line in my first paragraph might clue them in. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 12:50 AM |
#109 |
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The closing line of your post is the essence of it, I think |
Orrex |
Jun-06-09 12:28 AM |
#98 |
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Thanks, Orrex. It's not appreciation that I want, though. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 03:06 AM |
#166 |
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Wow. I don't have time to reply in any detail right now, but |
Duer 157099 |
Jun-06-09 12:35 AM |
#100 |
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It's a bit more complicated than that |
Orrex |
Jun-06-09 12:44 AM |
#106 |
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But I'm not sure I agree |
Duer 157099 |
Jun-06-09 12:51 AM |
#112 |
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I said I was going to bed, but I have to thank you for your post. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 02:56 AM |
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Will this be the first grandchild? |
LiberalAndProud |
Jun-06-09 12:48 AM |
#108 |
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I take it you just wanted to vent. |
Jamastiene |
Jun-06-09 01:46 AM |
#140 |
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Thanks, Jamastiene. |
Th1onein |
Jun-06-09 03:09 AM |
#167 |
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Locking... |
Danger Mouse |
Jun-06-09 04:27 AM |
#169 |
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