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45. I think the problem is yours, but it sounds like you've got a handle on it.
You're absolutely right in your assessment about boundaries. You know what you need when you get home and you're taking the steps to create that down-time for yourself. Good for you.

On the other hand, I don't think you need to be particularly judgmental about your neighbors and the fact they're more social than you are, unless it directly affects the quality of your life.

If the noise gets outa hand, then deal with it directly with them. Consider them good practice for you to work on establishing healthy boundaries for yourself.

Meanwhile, I'd say "live and let live" . :toast:


For the record, I'm definitely a social animal, more of an extrovert than introvert. I get invigorated being with others, rather than drained.

I think boundary issues are things we can ALL relate to. It's just part of being human.

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  -Do You Consider Yourself A "Social" Person....Or Are You A Hermit By Nature? Mr. Ected  May-29-09 09:13 AM   #0 
  - I am a hermit  Mari333   May-29-09 09:17 AM   #1 
  - A Pleasant Wave And Occasional Conversation Would Be Welcomed  Mr. Ected   May-29-09 09:20 AM   #2 
     - oh dear.  Mari333   May-29-09 09:22 AM   #4 
        - Thanks For The Advice.  Mr. Ected   May-29-09 09:27 AM   #10 
           - Also, your home is your refuge...  CoffeeCat   May-29-09 09:31 AM   #12 
           - oh heres 100 percent validation from me and the therapists I saw  Mari333   May-29-09 09:36 AM   #14 
              - Thanks Again  Mr. Ected   May-29-09 10:17 AM   #26 
  - Agreed. I never answer my door. nt.  Strong Atheist   May-29-09 09:21 AM   #3 
  - Does your door question you?  bananas   May-29-09 09:28 AM   #11 
     - No, but my refrigerator is  Strong Atheist   May-29-09 09:35 AM   #13 
  - Do you have a garage you can park your car in?  Contrary1   May-29-09 09:25 AM   #5 
  - Start the conversations with a goodbye  lunatica   May-29-09 09:25 AM   #6 
  - Some people are Sermits, others are Hocial.  bananas   May-29-09 09:26 AM   #7 
  - I'm a social butterfly...  CoffeeCat   May-29-09 09:26 AM   #8 
  - I'm a comfortable in-betweener.  JDPriestly   May-29-09 09:26 AM   #9 
  - I can't be a hermit, I have dogs that require walking  NNN0LHI   May-29-09 09:40 AM   #15 
  - Yes, We Have Young Children That Draw Out A Crowd, Too  Mr. Ected   May-29-09 10:12 AM   #25 
  - I'm anti-sosh  stuntcat   May-29-09 09:43 AM   #16 
  - I'm a very happy self-contained hermit. There is enough drama within my own household  OmmmSweetOmmm   May-29-09 09:44 AM   #17 
  - I'm social, but not promiscuous about it.  MineralMan   May-29-09 09:46 AM   #18 
  - I read a book a few years ago (can't remember the title) which was about introverts  Mrs. Overall   May-29-09 09:53 AM   #19 
  - You might be talking about "Party of One".  travelingtypist   May-29-09 11:44 AM   #28 
  - "The Introvert Advantage" is another good book.  bananas   May-29-09 02:51 PM   #43 
  - Which is Really Odd, Considering How Many of Our Ancestors Came Here Because They Needed More Space  AndyTiedye   May-29-09 11:34 PM   #61 
  - i am hugely social. there is hardly a day that some friend of mine isnt over for dinner  La Lioness Priyanka   May-29-09 09:55 AM   #20 
  - I used to be painfully shy...  LanternWaste   May-29-09 10:00 AM   #21 
  - I'm a hermit, by nurture. nt  Umbral   May-29-09 10:01 AM   #22 
  - introvert/ extroverts  Locrian   May-29-09 10:02 AM   #23 
  - Yes, boundaries, if they are going to be the block party givers...  supernova   May-29-09 10:04 AM   #24 
  - :)  AndyTiedye   May-29-09 11:39 PM   #62 
  - No, I don't consider myself a social person  notadmblnd   May-29-09 11:21 AM   #27 
  - You live in Surburbia. Its a cult.  rcrush   May-29-09 12:00 PM   #29 
  - There are certain skills you need to develop if you don't want someone to engage you.  MilesColtrane   May-29-09 12:06 PM   #30 
  - I don't mind if I never make another aquaintence again.  Forkboy   May-29-09 12:06 PM   #31 
  - i'm not terribly social, either  fizzgig   May-29-09 12:33 PM   #37 
     - That would be fine by me.  Forkboy   May-29-09 02:14 PM   #39 
  - Question. Does being anti-stupid boring and inane crap mean you are a hermit?  rcrush   May-29-09 12:07 PM   #32 
  - Exactly! Given interesting conversation, I might come out of my shell.  gbate   May-29-09 12:29 PM   #36 
  - HBN.  A-Schwarzenegger   May-29-09 12:09 PM   #33 
  - Hermit.  Lucian   May-29-09 12:10 PM   #34 
  - Hermit, loner, introvert and social reject. Yup, that's me.  gbate   May-29-09 12:26 PM   #35 
  - Me, too. Especially on the the social reject part.  oedura   May-30-09 07:48 AM   #65 
  - Definite hermit.  Starbucks Anarchist   May-29-09 12:35 PM   #38 
  - Hermit, definitely.  Mad_Dem_X   May-29-09 02:16 PM   #40 
  - Hermit, unless you add alcohol to the equation.  Justyce   May-29-09 02:18 PM   #41 
  - I am a semi-hermit.  texanwitch   May-29-09 02:19 PM   #42 
  - Continually happy people are contagious  Inchworm   May-29-09 02:59 PM   #44 
  - I think the problem is yours, but it sounds like you've got a handle on it.  Shine   May-29-09 03:05 PM   #45 
  - Great sentiments. Thanks for the advice.  Mr. Ected   May-29-09 07:50 PM   #52 
  - Hermit, but don't mind social interaction  Duer 157099   May-29-09 03:31 PM   #46 
  - Call me a Hermit if you will.  In_The_Wind   May-29-09 03:39 PM   #47 
  - Neighbors are like family: you don't get to choose them.  crim son   May-29-09 03:55 PM   #48 
  - I'm very social, but sometimes people need some peace and quiet too,  tigereye   May-29-09 04:00 PM   #49 
  - Definitely a hermit.  Wapsie B   May-29-09 04:03 PM   #50 
  - I am an unapologetic misanthrope.  InvisibleTouch   May-29-09 06:29 PM   #51 
  - a definite hermit  carlyhippy   May-29-09 07:52 PM   #53 
  - i have enough time and energy for my friends and family and that's about it, i don't  AlCzervik   May-29-09 07:55 PM   #54 
  - I'm an introvert and prefer a lot of time with people I know well  mvd   May-29-09 07:58 PM   #55 
  - I feel your pain  Haole Girl   May-29-09 08:00 PM   #56 
  - I am a hermit by introvert if you will  Roon   May-29-09 08:00 PM   #57 
  - A confirmed hermit.  femmocrat   May-29-09 08:01 PM   #58 
  - I am member of Hermits United.  elshiva   May-29-09 08:27 PM   #59 
  - Hermits United.......we had a meeting and nobody came......  old mark   May-30-09 08:16 AM   #66 
  - Definitely a hermit:  FKA MNChimpH8R   May-29-09 08:54 PM   #60 
  - I'm an introvert who dreams of being an extrovert. nt  Lorien   May-29-09 11:56 PM   #63 
  - Hermit by choice. nt  old mark   May-30-09 02:38 AM   #64 
  - I KNOW I'm a hermit.  Jamastiene   May-30-09 08:17 AM   #67 
  - hermit  keroro gunsou   May-30-09 09:26 AM   #68 
  - Just Woke Up On A Saturday Morning To the Doorbell Ringing  Mr. Ected   May-30-09 10:06 AM   #69 
  - I hope you told them no, no and no.  Sheltiemama   May-30-09 03:13 PM   #74 
     - I Did, I Did, I Did  Mr. Ected   May-30-09 03:21 PM   #75 
  - Hermit.  WinkyDink   May-30-09 02:45 PM   #70 
  - I'm a hermit with aspirations of socialdom.  Deja Q   May-30-09 03:05 PM   #71 
  - Hermit trying to break out of it.  BarenakedLady   May-30-09 03:07 PM   #72 
  - I'm a happy hermit.  Sheltiemama   May-30-09 03:12 PM   #73 

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