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5. I would get a FEMALE teacher that you know and trust
and is diplomatic and well liked by the students, to take her aside. If you, a guy, try to say anything it's just not going to go well at all.
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  -I need helpful suggestions. A student in my class is over cleavaged every day. Bucky  Apr-01-09 09:55 AM   #0 
  - Someone needs a spiffy new cardigan.  MrCoffee   Apr-01-09 09:58 AM   #1 
  - If it is within dress code, what can you do?  Shell Beau   Apr-01-09 10:11 AM   #2 
  - this thread is useless without pics  guitar man   Apr-01-09 10:13 AM   #3 
  - sigh  Bucky   Apr-01-09 10:23 AM   #15 
     - a good pair of shades?  guitar man   Apr-01-09 03:37 PM   #61 
  - What exactly is the dress code?  surrealAmerican   Apr-01-09 10:14 AM   #4 
  - I would get a FEMALE teacher that you know and trust  crispini   Apr-01-09 10:14 AM   #5 
  - That is EXACTLY what I was going to suggest!!!  HopeHoops   Apr-01-09 10:17 AM   #6 
  - Is that on account of teh global warming?  ashling   Apr-03-09 09:42 AM   #124 
  - that's what I was going to say...  Maine-ah   Apr-01-09 10:17 AM   #8 
  - Second that  sarge43   Apr-01-09 02:53 PM   #57 
  - I'll endorse this approach, as well.  hippywife   Apr-01-09 04:39 PM   #66 
  - I'm a 57 year old teacher  erinlough   Apr-02-09 08:36 PM   #111 
  - delete, repeat response  erinlough   Apr-02-09 08:36 PM   #112 
  - Say nothing. Do nothing. There is no way this can work out well for you.  RadiationTherapy   Apr-01-09 10:17 AM   #7 
  - strongly second this. also not fair to embarrass her because of your issues  La Lioness Priyanka   Apr-01-09 10:30 AM   #20 
  - 3rded  NashVegas   Apr-01-09 10:41 AM   #27 
  - Yes! Your second sentence is what I meant. Thanks.  RadiationTherapy   Apr-01-09 11:04 AM   #36 
  - Agree'd this can only end badly.  rcrush   Apr-02-09 04:19 PM   #101 
  - What a sticky situation. That would truly embarrass me,too.  Swede   Apr-01-09 10:18 AM   #9 
  - It would embarrass you? How?  RadiationTherapy   Apr-01-09 10:20 AM   #12 
     - You might enjoy the situation,but it would be as uncomfortible for me as the OP.  Swede   Apr-01-09 10:30 AM   #19 
     - Deleted message  Name removed   Apr-01-09 11:05 AM   #37 
     - To clarify my deleted post: I'm a fucking grown up - I would not "enjoy" ogling a 16 yr old.  RadiationTherapy   Apr-01-09 04:54 PM   #68 
     - It's that "in loco parentis" thing  Bucky   Apr-01-09 10:44 AM   #29 
        - There is no physical aspect of their body that a teen isn't completely aware of;  RadiationTherapy   Apr-01-09 11:07 AM   #38 
        - This was my first thought, poverty issues.  siligut   Apr-01-09 03:18 PM   #58 
  - This reminds me of a line from "Made In America"  HopeHoops   Apr-01-09 10:18 AM   #10 
  - i suggest you talk to a higher authority....  madrchsod   Apr-01-09 10:18 AM   #11 
  - I would discuss this with a female teacher or school nurse  LynneSin   Apr-01-09 10:21 AM   #13 
  - I thought about that. I've done that before. Sadly, it did not work out well  Bucky   Apr-01-09 10:29 AM   #17 
  - Twice!? Have you considered not caring at all? This is weird now.  RadiationTherapy   Apr-01-09 11:15 AM   #39 
  - You can't stop noticing, but I'd sure recommend you stop sharing  Schema Thing   Apr-01-09 02:27 PM   #44 
     - He hasn't shared her name or anything.  Shell Beau   Apr-01-09 02:31 PM   #45 
        - no, not here. but I mean even with other teachers  Schema Thing   Apr-01-09 02:34 PM   #46 
  - I agree about the school nurse  AwakeAtLast   Apr-01-09 10:36 AM   #21 
  - If we had a school nurse who did her job well, I'd agree  Bucky   Apr-01-09 10:38 AM   #23 
  - No, if she's within dress code limits she isn't the one with the problem.  Dappleganger   Apr-01-09 02:46 PM   #54 
  - Ask a female coworker to address it..  skooooo   Apr-01-09 10:22 AM   #14 
  - Here at the middle school  vard28   Apr-01-09 10:26 AM   #16 
  - well you shouldnt attempt to control her clothes. you should attempt to get a grip on yourself  La Lioness Priyanka   Apr-01-09 10:29 AM   #18 
  - I roll my eyes at thee  Bucky   Apr-01-09 10:37 AM   #22 
  - roll your eyes all you want. i am not the one distracted by a 16 year olds boobs. nt  La Lioness Priyanka   Apr-01-09 10:38 AM   #24 
  - Maybe it's my fault  Bucky   Apr-01-09 10:51 AM   #33 
  - very grown up of you to be in this situation apparantly repeatedly. nt  La Lioness Priyanka   Apr-01-09 10:55 AM   #34 
  - I hope by "grown up feedback" you don't mean just from people who agree with you  BurtWorm   Apr-01-09 02:51 PM   #56 
  - !  Runcible Spoon   Apr-02-09 06:55 PM   #106 
  - you're gonna claim OTHER people are judgemental  Djinn   Apr-11-09 04:35 AM   #144 
  - Control yourself. Period.  amyrose2712   Apr-01-09 02:49 PM   #55 
  - "get a grip on yourself"  PassingFair   Apr-01-09 04:52 PM   #67 
  - Apparently it's the week for Critters2 to agree with Priyanka,  Critters2   Apr-01-09 11:01 PM   #88 
  - "Why is that so hard?" is your answer. Just saying. A little common  madinmaryland   Apr-02-09 08:55 PM   #114 
  - +1  Zuiderelle   Apr-03-09 10:33 AM   #133 
  - Have the school provide skin paint so she don't look as exposed.  LiberalFighter   Apr-01-09 10:40 AM   #25 
  - Thanks  Bucky   Apr-01-09 10:45 AM   #30 
  - Relax and Enjoy The Show  NashVegas   Apr-01-09 10:41 AM   #26 
  - If it's within the dress code, I'd do nothing.  flvegan   Apr-01-09 10:44 AM   #28 
  - +1  Midlodemocrat   Apr-01-09 10:51 AM   #32 
  - +1  NJmaverick   Apr-01-09 10:56 AM   #35 
  - Is there a female official that you can have talk to her? nt  MrScorpio   Apr-01-09 10:48 AM   #31 
  - Cleavage is in. I noticed that 3 years ago when working at an airport.  applegrove   Apr-01-09 01:47 PM   #40 
  - Wear shades.  JVS   Apr-01-09 01:51 PM   #41 
  - hey JVS, that restaurant is going like gang-busters!  tigereye   Apr-03-09 01:01 PM   #140 
  - Sorry Bucky,  newcriminal   Apr-01-09 02:02 PM   #42 
  - Ignore it  Steven_S   Apr-01-09 02:20 PM   #43 
  - Yes. Ignore it....  Demoiselle   Apr-01-09 05:25 PM   #71 
  - Work on your own self control. If it's a serious problem, she'll be told sooner or later.  jobycom   Apr-01-09 02:40 PM   #47 
  - How short is her skirt?  rug   Apr-01-09 02:40 PM   #48 
  - Now stop that!  DemBones DemBones   Apr-01-09 02:42 PM   #49 
  - I agree with the majority in this thread: don't worry about this girl's clothes.  BurtWorm   Apr-01-09 02:43 PM   #50 
  - This subject goes to the top of the list of things...  Deep13   Apr-01-09 02:44 PM   #51 
  - You should just concentrate on doing your damn job  Dappleganger   Apr-01-09 02:45 PM   #52 
  - Bucky, if it bothers you when she leans forward, move her  DemBones DemBones   Apr-01-09 02:46 PM   #53 
  - My suggestion exactly!  hedgehog   Apr-01-09 03:30 PM   #59 
  - Curious to know what cover story you will use for the seating change. nt  Deep13   Apr-01-09 03:42 PM   #62 
     - "I am the teacher" will do nicely. nt  DemBones DemBones   Apr-01-09 06:57 PM   #75 
        - Wow.  Deep13   Apr-02-09 08:22 AM   #96 
           - Teachers decide seating arrangements.  DemBones DemBones   Apr-02-09 09:12 PM   #117 
              - I am da classroom Fuhrer und I say so!  Deep13   Apr-03-09 09:19 AM   #121 
  - "Over cleavaged"  Iggo   Apr-01-09 03:35 PM   #60 
  - You just need to stop looking  NewJeffCT   Apr-01-09 03:52 PM   #63 
  - Back away, don't look,  Tangerine LaBamba   Apr-01-09 03:57 PM   #64 
  - Bad idea to talk about it w/the wife!  Dappleganger   Apr-01-09 05:21 PM   #69 
     - Then that's a bad relationship with "the wife"  Tangerine LaBamba   Apr-01-09 05:25 PM   #70 
        - Not necessarily a bad relationship. Let's get real here.  Shell Beau   Apr-01-09 11:09 PM   #90 
           - If he's been teaching for a few years,  Tangerine LaBamba   Apr-02-09 12:04 AM   #92 
              - Jealousy is a normal human emotion.  Shell Beau   Apr-02-09 09:21 AM   #97 
                 - I don't recall claiming that  Tangerine LaBamba   Apr-02-09 04:01 PM   #98 
                    - You did say this  Shell Beau   Apr-02-09 04:16 PM   #100 
                       - What relationship of mine?  Tangerine LaBamba   Apr-02-09 05:33 PM   #105 
                          - Wow! You must hang out in GD a lot.  Shell Beau   Apr-03-09 09:08 AM   #119 
                             - I don't know what that means -  Tangerine LaBamba   Apr-03-09 09:28 AM   #122 
                                - Your last response was condescending. Sounds like  Shell Beau   Apr-03-09 09:49 AM   #125 
                                   - Well, if you read a statement of facts  Tangerine LaBamba   Apr-03-09 10:36 AM   #134 
                                      - Good God lighten up!  Shell Beau   Apr-03-09 10:47 AM   #136 
  - Happy April Fool's Day to you too! n/t  RiffRandell   Apr-01-09 04:25 PM   #65 
  - Don't do anything on your own.  Renew Deal   Apr-01-09 05:32 PM   #72 
  - Unless it's distracting the hell out of the other students...  krispos42   Apr-01-09 05:44 PM   #73 
  - Get a fucking grip people!  RiffRandell   Apr-01-09 06:04 PM   #74 
  - I have to say "poor girl!"  Rising Phoenix   Apr-01-09 07:07 PM   #76 
  - She's trying to manippleate you  Blandocyte   Apr-01-09 09:45 PM   #77 
  - LOL  GoddessOfGuinness   Apr-16-09 01:38 AM   #156 
  - Speak to a female teacher you trust...perhaps a talk is in order...Gal to Gal.  RagAss   Apr-01-09 09:48 PM   #78 
  - Speak to a female teacher you trust about it....  RagAss   Apr-01-09 09:49 PM   #79 
  - ........  elshiva   Apr-01-09 09:52 PM   #80 
  - +1  RetroLounge   Apr-01-09 10:06 PM   #82 
  - Hello, RetroLounge, how are you?  elshiva   Apr-01-09 10:10 PM   #83 
     - I'm fine, better now, thanks!  RetroLounge   Apr-01-09 10:14 PM   #84 
        - Good.  elshiva   Apr-01-09 10:35 PM   #86 
  - +1  NewJeffCT   Apr-02-09 06:41 AM   #94 
  - Those are udders not breasts  cherish44   Apr-03-09 02:07 PM   #142 
  - +2!  mainegreen   Apr-02-09 08:36 PM   #110 
  - I am of the opinion that, so long as she isn't deliberately trying to expose herself,  Lyric   Apr-01-09 10:05 PM   #81 
  - "Don't stand, don't stand so, don't stand so close to me..."  nomorenomore08   Apr-01-09 10:18 PM   #85 
  - Ouch.  Dr. Strange   Apr-02-09 09:05 PM   #116 
  - When I taught, I knelt down next to the desks of female students when talking one on one  Godhumor   Apr-01-09 10:56 PM   #87 
  - Aren't you the same person who was referring to your MS students  Critters2   Apr-01-09 11:06 PM   #89 
  - From a male teacher:  ChoralScholar   Apr-01-09 11:17 PM   #91 
  - well-aimed spitwads?  leftofthedial   Apr-02-09 12:20 AM   #93 
  - Do your best  JoDog   Apr-02-09 07:43 AM   #95 
  - if it's within the boundaries of the school dress code, then it's fine  Tektonik   Apr-02-09 04:14 PM   #99 
  - Write some dirty online porn fiction about it.  rcrush   Apr-02-09 04:23 PM   #102 
  - Administration and/or guidance counselor. STAT. No dress code in place?  WinkyDink   Apr-02-09 04:25 PM   #103 
  - I was in a similar situation that made me extremely uncomfortable.  Lil Missy   Apr-02-09 05:28 PM   #104 
  - Get some pants with pleats.  crimsonblue   Apr-02-09 07:48 PM   #107 
  - Few weeks left. Leave it for someone else. n/t  NOW tense   Apr-02-09 08:28 PM   #108 
  - Why would this be considered a problem?  Generic Brad   Apr-02-09 08:32 PM   #109 
  - If I were 16 and know what I know now, I'd want her phone number  santamargarita   Apr-02-09 08:48 PM   #113 
  - Gouge your eyes out with a rusty fork. It's the only way.  Danger Mouse   Apr-02-09 09:01 PM   #115 
  - Best.Answer.Here.  Jamastiene   Apr-16-09 02:00 AM   #158 
  - Get a pair of mirrored sunglasses and wear 'em to class.  BreweryYardRat   Apr-02-09 09:14 PM   #118 
  - Make like Harvey Keitel in Bad Lieutenant and rub one out on her desk  DS1   Apr-03-09 09:11 AM   #120 
  - I had a classmate like that.  Tommy_Carcetti   Apr-03-09 09:31 AM   #123 
  - huh huh you said "gape"  datasuspect   Apr-03-09 09:49 AM   #126 
  - Just control yourself.  UndertheOcean   Apr-03-09 09:52 AM   #127 
  - Get the dress code changed  cherish44   Apr-03-09 09:53 AM   #128 
  - get a handle on it  datasuspect   Apr-03-09 09:54 AM   #129 
  - grasp the problem and choke it.  datasuspect   Apr-03-09 09:54 AM   #130 
  - Teach Gym........  Burma Jones   Apr-03-09 10:02 AM   #131 
  - This thread is exhibit #1 why men should not go into teaching  AngryAmish   Apr-03-09 10:11 AM   #132 
  - bullshit  Djinn   Apr-11-09 04:45 AM   #146 
     - Wrong.  AngryAmish   Apr-11-09 06:36 AM   #151 
  - Move her to the back row? (eom)  gmoney   Apr-03-09 10:40 AM   #135 
  - At my work that would be called learing...  snooper2   Apr-03-09 12:50 PM   #137 
  - Oh, and to add- do you check out her ass  snooper2   Apr-03-09 12:54 PM   #138 
  - get a female teacher to tell her?  tigereye   Apr-03-09 12:55 PM   #139 
  - The problem is the clothes - no clothes no cleavage  Help_I_Live_In_Idaho   Apr-03-09 01:38 PM   #141 
  - eeuuuww  Djinn   Apr-11-09 04:29 AM   #143 
  - Why did you kick this thread 8 days later?  Lil Missy   Apr-11-09 04:38 AM   #145 
     - is there a rule that says you can't read and post to old threads?  Djinn   Apr-11-09 04:49 AM   #147 
        - I'm just suspicious by nature. I thought the point had already been made.  Lil Missy   Apr-11-09 05:08 AM   #148 
        - fair enough  Djinn   Apr-11-09 05:21 AM   #149 
        - Not that I know of  JVS   Apr-16-09 01:12 AM   #154 
  - One of the pitfalls (pun intended) of teaching high school...  JCMach1   Apr-11-09 06:30 AM   #150 
  - You could always be "mistaken" about the dress code.  rucky   Apr-11-09 06:38 AM   #152 
  - A bunch of Judgie Judies and Jakes around here.  Jetboy   Apr-11-09 08:31 AM   #153 
  - Wear one of these when she's in class...  GoddessOfGuinness   Apr-16-09 01:36 AM   #155 
  - If your eyes are drawn to sixteen year old titties, crack open the want ads and find another job.  LeftyMom   Apr-16-09 01:39 AM   #157 
 

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