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Sat Mar-14-09 01:31 PM
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| As a rule of thumb, how soon is too soon to move in together? |
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My (ex?) boyfriend asked me to move in with him after about 2 months. I told him that it was too soon and he took it to mean that I was not that into him. And apparently that led to many misunderstandings and our subsequent break-up.
For some reason he keeps returning to my failure to move in with him as the crux of the problem. But, frankly, that was way too soon for me and it freaked my out a little even to be asked. I am a little bit gun-shy anyway and have a hard time letting people in.
So what it is a good time frame anyway?
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| -As a rule of thumb, how soon is too soon to move in together? |
alarimer |
Mar-14-09 01:31 PM |
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A good time frame is when you are ready. And if he does not give you that time, he's a creep. |
Lil Missy |
Mar-14-09 01:34 PM |
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If you have to ask, it's too soon, IMO |
Richardo |
Mar-14-09 01:34 PM |
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I think you are right. |
alarimer |
Mar-14-09 01:43 PM |
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And maybe someday they might just....hold hands in public (giggle) |
Taverner |
Mar-17-09 10:46 AM |
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Before you want him/her there is too early, no matter what he/she feels/says/assures you. |
Heidi |
Mar-14-09 01:36 PM |
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He's gotta put a ring on it before he moves in |
cherish44 |
Mar-14-09 01:38 PM |
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Part of me is afraid that I will never be able to live with anyone ever. |
alarimer |
Mar-14-09 01:42 PM |
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If that's you, why fear it? |
WinkyDink |
Mar-16-09 07:59 AM |
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Beyonce? n/t |
Yavin4 |
Mar-14-09 06:05 PM |
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He sounds kind of pushy |
MorningGlow |
Mar-14-09 03:53 PM |
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I agree with the three-month rule. |
alarimer |
Mar-14-09 05:37 PM |
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Two months sounds too soon. |
CJCRANE |
Mar-14-09 04:54 PM |
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I think so too. |
alarimer |
Mar-14-09 05:38 PM |
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It depends on the couple. But if you weren't ready, he should've respected that |
Lex |
Mar-14-09 05:00 PM |
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You won't have to ask anybody when the "real deal" comes along. |
BlueJazz |
Mar-14-09 05:03 PM |
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I am not sure I agree. |
alarimer |
Mar-14-09 05:40 PM |
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That's entirely possible. I was hit by Lightning..The real shitty Kind. |
BlueJazz |
Mar-14-09 09:36 PM |
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Well, if it worked out, good for them. |
raccoon |
Mar-16-09 08:07 AM |
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maybe he's the problem, sounds like it to me. |
AlCzervik |
Mar-14-09 05:39 PM |
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If he pressured you to move in then you made the right decision NOT to do it. |
davsand |
Mar-14-09 05:45 PM |
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When the lease is up |
dkofos |
Mar-14-09 05:51 PM |
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Don't do it the way I did it |
SPKrazy |
Mar-14-09 05:52 PM |
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if you love him and it feels right |
backwoodsbob |
Mar-14-09 06:07 PM |
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It depends. You have to trust your heart on matters like these. |
Mike 03 |
Mar-14-09 06:10 PM |
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This is his loss. If he can not get past that then you guys will never |
Tuesday Afternoon |
Mar-14-09 06:17 PM |
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An ex joke! |
Resuscitated Ethics |
Mar-14-09 06:54 PM |
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Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic, but I think these things just have a |
Critters2 |
Mar-14-09 06:59 PM |
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Ever. (n/t) |
Iggo |
Mar-14-09 07:18 PM |
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Unless you are dating a homeless gut two months is way to soon |
Lost in CT |
Mar-14-09 10:59 PM |
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Listen to the little voice in your head. |
BarenakedLady |
Mar-14-09 11:04 PM |
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You should be together at least a year! |
stewartcolbert08 |
Mar-16-09 05:25 AM |
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He sounds like a controlling type. "Dear Abby" just listed "too much, too soon" as one sign. |
WinkyDink |
Mar-16-09 07:57 AM |
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There is no rule of thumb. Just whenever it feels right. |
Lil Missy |
Mar-16-09 08:21 AM |
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If you have to post that question on an online webform - then it's too soon |
LynneSin |
Mar-16-09 08:23 AM |
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She moved in after we were engaged. |
Jimbo S |
Mar-16-09 08:32 AM |
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When it feels right. |
malta blue |
Mar-16-09 08:53 AM |
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a year-ish. though lisa and i moved in earlier than that |
La Lioness Priyanka |
Mar-16-09 09:04 AM |
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My girlfriend and I moved in together after 3 years, and even then as a trial gig |
DFW |
Mar-16-09 09:16 AM |
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depends on the people/situation. |
unpossibles |
Mar-16-09 04:53 PM |
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You know when you know. I was once bitten, twice shy. |
Dora |
Mar-17-09 01:13 PM |
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He's just using that as an excuse. If you had moved in, you'd |
amitten |
Mar-17-09 01:19 PM |
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What does a lesbian always bring on a second date? |
Roon |
Mar-17-09 01:25 PM |
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Maybe he wanted someone to pick up dirty socks. |
Sequoia |
Mar-17-09 01:41 PM |
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