Reply #60: So you do the right thing and tell the wife.

[sarge43]

Yes, she may be grateful, but what if she isn't or can't handle the truth. What if she does a .38 pre-frontal lobotomy on your friend or, worse, takes it out on herself or kids? This isn't an unreasonable possibility.

Your conscience is clear about the adultery, but at 2am some sleepless night how's it doing about those dead people? What if you hadn't told her? Maybe they would have worked it out; maybe the worst that would have had happened was a bitter divorce.

Everything we do has consequences and good intentions don't always have good results.

Certainly tell friend you know and that you may have to rethink the friendship if he doesn't clean up his act. Further, let him know if confronted about his adultery, you're not going to lie.