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Sat Oct-18-08 05:50 PM
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| 19. Personally, were it my friend, would tell him |
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Edited on Sat Oct-18-08 05:52 PM by Whoa_Nelly
to tell his wife or you will.
That if he as any respect for her as a human being, she has the right to know, not only for her health, but because she deserves the respect and the right to make choices about something that completely impacts her life.
He got to choose to have an affair. She should have the prerogative to make a choice, too.
And, would tell my friend I've lost respect for him by lying to the one person he promised not to lie to; that says a lot about him and how he views respecting those close to him. And, that definitely would make me rethink remaining in close contact with him.
Sorry if it all sounds harsh, but have been so done for years with the drama and lying that can happen in relationships. Just don't have tolerance for any of that anymore.
Hope he comes clean with the wife on his own. It would be the right thing to do.
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| -SCRUPLES! If you knew that a friend of yours was having an affair on his wife... |
Writer |
Oct-18-08 04:57 PM |
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She'll find out soon enough |
taterguy |
Oct-18-08 04:58 PM |
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I wish someone would have told me sooner |
lost-in-nj |
Oct-18-08 05:00 PM |
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Me too |
lizziegrace |
Oct-18-08 06:20 PM |
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And I at least |
FloridaJudy |
Oct-18-08 09:01 PM |
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nope. not my business. if you do, you will end up losing your friend and his wife |
lionesspriyanka |
Oct-18-08 05:01 PM |
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No |
in search of sanity |
Oct-18-08 05:02 PM |
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I sure wish somebody would have told me. |
LeftyMom |
Oct-18-08 05:04 PM |
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OOOO that's tough |
HEyHEY |
Oct-18-08 05:07 PM |
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No, not if you want to stay his friend. Also, a question, |
elshiva |
Oct-18-08 05:12 PM |
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No |
OhioBlues |
Oct-18-08 05:12 PM |
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Not gonna hurt her as bad if you tell her compared to her finding out a year later |
Rabrrrrrr |
Oct-18-08 05:13 PM |
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Well here's the thing |
OhioBlues |
Oct-18-08 05:21 PM |
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What about potential for disease? Possible pregnancy and child? |
Rabrrrrrr |
Oct-18-08 05:29 PM |
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Relationships are hard and when one partner strays there is a |
OhioBlues |
Oct-18-08 06:04 PM |
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I think telling is the honorable thing to do. |
Rabrrrrrr |
Oct-18-08 05:15 PM |
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dear god, do you have any friends, do you even know what the word friend means |
pitohui |
Oct-18-08 06:26 PM |
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Actually I agree with the poster you responded to. |
moriah |
Oct-18-08 07:37 PM |
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I'm glad you chimed in! Now I know for sure that I'm right. |
Rabrrrrrr |
Oct-18-08 07:39 PM |
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Are you serious? He's exactly right. |
lildreamer316 |
Oct-18-08 09:02 PM |
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snitches and rats are ugly things to be |
pitohui |
Oct-19-08 12:59 PM |
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Oh, man, I'm crying tears from laughing! |
Rabrrrrrr |
Oct-19-08 02:55 PM |
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I do |
quakerboy |
Oct-19-08 03:32 AM |
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Wow. Just wow. |
antfarm |
Oct-19-08 12:30 PM |
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Coming from you, this is a hilariously funny post. |
Midlodemocrat |
Oct-19-08 02:18 PM |
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That is the right answer. Tell the friend you are giving him |
Midlodemocrat |
Oct-19-08 02:18 PM |
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I'd split from BOTH of them until the whole thing (marriage?) is over & settled!1 |
UTUSN |
Oct-18-08 05:18 PM |
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MYOB |
RetroLounge |
Oct-18-08 05:19 PM |
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Slap your friend with a glove |
Inchworm |
Oct-18-08 05:20 PM |
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Writer let me ask you a question |
lost-in-nj |
Oct-18-08 05:21 PM |
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That's such a hard position to be in. |
mutley_r_us |
Oct-18-08 05:31 PM |
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Don't tell his wife and put a hold on the friendshipl |
Inspired |
Oct-18-08 05:35 PM |
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Personally, were it my friend, would tell him |
Whoa_Nelly |
Oct-18-08 05:50 PM |
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I agree with your post 100%. |
last_texas_dem |
Oct-18-08 07:08 PM |
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No..No..No...Nobody else's Business. |
BlueJazz |
Oct-18-08 05:52 PM |
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Not my business. |
BarenakedLady |
Oct-18-08 05:52 PM |
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They are big people |
johnnie |
Oct-18-08 06:08 PM |
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Yes, I would tell her--but anonymously. |
oktoberain |
Oct-18-08 06:18 PM |
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not if you care about the friend, if you hate and envy your friend have at it |
pitohui |
Oct-18-08 06:23 PM |
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I love your posts! |
Rabrrrrrr |
Oct-18-08 07:42 PM |
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very sensible comment |
tigereye |
Oct-18-08 11:03 PM |
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Just stunning. |
antfarm |
Oct-19-08 12:36 PM |
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No |
Xipe Totec |
Oct-18-08 06:45 PM |
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I don't know if I would tell the wife, but I couldn't stay friends... |
I Have A Dream |
Oct-18-08 06:50 PM |
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Well, certainly not before I slept with her, that would be highly unscrupulous. |
billyoc |
Oct-18-08 07:05 PM |
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No, but I would hate that situation |
mokawanis |
Oct-18-08 07:14 PM |
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No. |
MrSlayer |
Oct-18-08 07:33 PM |
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There is no universally correct answer. Depends on who played what role to bring this about. |
mainegreen |
Oct-18-08 07:34 PM |
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Wait, is this the prof that was hitting on you? |
Dangerously Amused |
Oct-18-08 07:42 PM |
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That's what I'm thinking. nt |
Genevieve |
Oct-19-08 11:58 AM |
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Right, if it is then that would change my answer. |
Dangerously Amused |
Oct-19-08 12:19 PM |
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yes |
enigmatic |
Oct-18-08 07:50 PM |
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I think your friend sucks for putting you in this position |
GloriaSmith |
Oct-18-08 07:54 PM |
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I would confront the friend, if he is a real friend. |
kwassa |
Oct-18-08 08:13 PM |
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Depends how much he'd be willing to pay for my silence |
Orrex |
Oct-18-08 08:56 PM |
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haha |
realisticphish |
Oct-19-08 06:57 AM |
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Yes. As it could affect her physical health, I would tell ASAP. |
BlueIris |
Oct-18-08 11:06 PM |
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Nope. |
emilyg |
Oct-18-08 11:19 PM |
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No |
Nikia |
Oct-19-08 01:05 AM |
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I might tell one of her close friends rather than telling her directly |
petronius |
Oct-19-08 01:10 AM |
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I know for a fact... |
Iggo |
Oct-19-08 05:57 AM |
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Hell no! I'd tell him that I know he's having an affair and say that it's probably not a good idea. |
JVS |
Oct-19-08 06:04 AM |
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I was the wife who was being cheated on. |
ferrferr |
Oct-19-08 06:07 AM |
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gasp |
realisticphish |
Oct-19-08 06:57 AM |
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Yeah .. you're right.. |
ferrferr |
Oct-19-08 08:31 AM |
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wow |
realisticphish |
Oct-19-08 09:21 AM |
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Don't tell her, but tell your friend |
realisticphish |
Oct-19-08 06:56 AM |
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Use it to your advantage! |
fourvahl |
Oct-19-08 08:15 AM |
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So you do the right thing and tell the wife. |
sarge43 |
Oct-19-08 09:55 AM |
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tattletales don't have good intentions |
pitohui |
Oct-19-08 12:55 PM |
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'SCRUPLES"?: ironic. |
Genevieve |
Oct-19-08 01:02 PM |
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I'm not sure if you meant your post as an answer to mine, but |
sarge43 |
Oct-19-08 02:20 PM |
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I'm in total agreement with you. |
Genevieve |
Oct-19-08 02:27 PM |
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Ah. I didn't realize. Thank you. n/t |
sarge43 |
Oct-19-08 02:38 PM |
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How about what you tell your friend? |
lunatica |
Oct-19-08 12:16 PM |
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Absolutely. |
Tilion |
Oct-19-08 12:22 PM |
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The only way I'd even CONSIDER getting involved in something like that would be if |
Zavulon |
Oct-19-08 03:51 PM |
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Yes, because there's a chance she'll sleep with me to get even. |
flvegan |
Oct-19-08 04:30 PM |
#77 |
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Been there, done that, wish I hadn't. |
trof |
Oct-19-08 04:50 PM |
#78 |
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