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unpossibles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-22-08 02:27 PM
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36. my grandfather was a polite asshole
I assumed it was a southern thing with him, but who knows.

Manners and dress can move into non-superficiality gray area in that sometimes I may decide to dress or act in a way to avoid making others uncomfortable, but overall I agree with you.

There have been times I prefer to do the opposite as well, where I am aware that I am breaking certain fashion rules or societal norms, but refuse to let that stop me. What's funny is, back when I did this pretty regularly, it used to amuse me to dress shockingly, but be exceedingly polite to people who gave me nasty looks, just to mess with their preconceptions and stereotypes ("hey, that guy with the green hair and plaid pants is holding the door open for me").

I also feel people sometimes confuse being "well mannered" with being genuinely nice and polite.
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  -Why are people still so superficial? redqueen  Jul-22-08 10:23 AM   #0 
  - In my opinion...  MrsGrumpy   Jul-22-08 10:25 AM   #1 
  - Ugly Betty?  redqueen   Jul-22-08 10:32 AM   #7 
  - I cannot stand any of those shows.  MrsGrumpy   Jul-22-08 10:33 AM   #8 
     - Me neither...  redqueen   Jul-22-08 10:43 AM   #11 
  - "Ugly Betty" is a satire of the whole fashion ethos  bob_weaver   Jul-22-08 02:00 PM   #24 
     - Plain-dressed?  redqueen   Jul-22-08 02:04 PM   #26 
        - No, not polo or button-down shirts with khakis  bob_weaver   Jul-23-08 01:32 AM   #45 
  - Because it makes people feel better about themselves  BarenakedLady   Jul-22-08 10:26 AM   #2 
  - nailed it.  chimpsrsmarter   Jul-22-08 10:27 AM   #4 
  - capitalism...  Ysabel   Jul-22-08 04:35 PM   #43 
  - it's because they are rigid automatons who don't even know who they are  datasuspect   Jul-22-08 10:26 AM   #3 
  - Harsh...  redqueen   Jul-22-08 01:25 PM   #17 
  - these are two seperate things. people are superficial because we have eyes  lionesspriyanka   Jul-22-08 10:31 AM   #5 
  - Good point re: manners.  redqueen   Jul-22-08 10:34 AM   #9 
  - i dont expect others to dress up because it suits me, but i get why some  lionesspriyanka   Jul-22-08 10:37 AM   #10 
  - my grandfather was a polite asshole  unpossibles   Jul-22-08 02:27 PM   #36 
  - When you say most manners are superficial, I take it that you mean what I'd mean by etiquette.  IntravenousDemilo   Jul-23-08 02:35 AM   #46 
  - Naked Is Better  Parche   Jul-22-08 10:32 AM   #6 
  - I agree  GoPsUx   Jul-22-08 10:55 AM   #12 
  - Hi babe!  BarenakedLady   Jul-22-08 10:56 AM   #13 
  - Hey you  GoPsUx   Jul-22-08 10:57 AM   #14 
  - You must be rude... or lazy.  redqueen   Jul-22-08 11:02 AM   #15 
  - I am a bit of both.  GoPsUx   Jul-22-08 11:08 AM   #16 
  - Yeah, What GoPSUx Said!!  Parche   Jul-22-08 01:28 PM   #18 
  - Why would you necessarily want to misuse to, too, two or there, their, they're?  IntravenousDemilo   Jul-23-08 03:02 AM   #47 
     - Nothing to do with wanting to  GoPsUx   Jul-23-08 03:51 AM   #49 
        - Sorry, I wasn't paying attention to what you just said... I am mesmerized by your pretty bug...  IntravenousDemilo   Jul-23-08 04:04 AM   #51 
           - Isn't it pretty  GoPsUx   Jul-23-08 04:25 AM   #52 
              - That was also my impression of an average superficial person, as a nod to the OP's question.  IntravenousDemilo   Jul-23-08 04:48 AM   #53 
                 - ..  GoPsUx   Jul-23-08 04:53 AM   #54 
  - Manners don't cost anything....  skooooo   Jul-22-08 01:39 PM   #19 
  - Yeah... a thread asking why people were so rude nowadays...  redqueen   Jul-22-08 01:47 PM   #20 
     - It's sad that kids aren't taught manners...  skooooo   Jul-22-08 01:52 PM   #21 
  - The most well-mannered people (especially children)  oktoberain   Jul-22-08 01:53 PM   #22 
  - Manners...being polite and considerate...  skooooo   Jul-22-08 01:56 PM   #23 
  - The manners issue was the only thing I could get a handle on...  redqueen   Jul-22-08 02:03 PM   #25 
  - When did the anti-superficiality movement begin?  Boojatta   Jul-22-08 02:09 PM   #27 
  - I don't know.  redqueen   Jul-22-08 02:12 PM   #30 
     - Well, if it's starting now ...  Boojatta   Jul-22-08 02:15 PM   #32 
        - Pbthtthbhtbht.  redqueen   Jul-22-08 02:18 PM   #34 
  - It's not superficiality, it's a sign the soul is dying.  jobycom   Jul-22-08 02:09 PM   #28 
  - You can express yourself in khakis and a polo shirt.  redqueen   Jul-22-08 02:13 PM   #31 
  - Not talking about how a person dresses, just how they judge others.  jobycom   Jul-22-08 02:28 PM   #37 
  - I did, once. I was an INDIVIDUAL.  ForrestGump   Jul-22-08 11:06 PM   #44 
  - No...the next step is...  Chan790   Jul-22-08 02:28 PM   #38 
     - True enough.  jobycom   Jul-22-08 02:29 PM   #39 
  - I don't think manners and clothing go hand in hand  1gobluedem   Jul-22-08 02:11 PM   #29 
  - Ah no... I should have put it in the OP...  redqueen   Jul-22-08 02:17 PM   #33 
  - I agree, I enjoy dressing up but also have disdain for the "requirement" to look a certain way  unpossibles   Jul-22-08 02:20 PM   #35 
  - I think it IS classism.  DarkTirade   Jul-22-08 02:32 PM   #40 
  - PM me a picture of your butt and I'll tell you.  RadiationTherapy   Jul-22-08 02:32 PM   #41 
  - You'll say that while you're wearing THOSE shoes? Where do you shop, Goodwill?  Redstone   Jul-22-08 02:35 PM   #42 
  - because they are people  quakerboy   Jul-23-08 03:19 AM   #48 
  - Scott Kleeb declares them so  ikhor   Jul-23-08 03:56 AM   #50 

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