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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-08 03:22 PM
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9. It depends on the type of wedding you and Lisa are looking for.
It sounds to me like you are thinking of a planned out event that would involve your actual wedding vows. If that is the case, then you are already halfway through 2008 and if you are looking at 2009 - you had better be planning at this point.

If you are looking to have a celebration with family and friends, then your actual wedding vows can happen at any point.

Does this make sense?
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  -Am I being unfair? lionesspriyanka  Jul-08-08 03:14 PM   #0 
  - It's hard to say you're necessarily being unfair.  Kerrytravelers   Jul-08-08 03:17 PM   #1 
  - i am already to be married but i want the time to have a wedding.  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:19 PM   #3 
     - Ah. I see.  Kerrytravelers   Jul-08-08 03:21 PM   #5 
  - Can't you just have the wedding in New Jersey or Massachusetts?  LynneSin   Jul-08-08 03:18 PM   #2 
  - we can have a wedding in new york but for us to have marriage rights  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:21 PM   #4 
  - Consider this- The opportunity to marry is still not written in stone  nomad1776   Jul-08-08 03:21 PM   #6 
  - we could still get married in canada and have it be honored in ny  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:21 PM   #7 
     - If that's not a problem than no, you are not being unreasonable  nomad1776   Jul-08-08 03:32 PM   #18 
     - But California might rescind our marriage rights  XemaSab   Jul-08-08 05:29 PM   #54 
        - but canada wont. nt  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 06:06 PM   #73 
     - If THAT happens, I want an invite!  primate1   Jul-08-08 03:56 PM   #40 
        - i think we should do the legal thing in montreal. i love montreal  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:57 PM   #41 
           - I've only driven through, but I would totally put in the effort to go if you did.  primate1   Jul-08-08 04:21 PM   #48 
  - IMHO, have the ceremony now  Midlodemocrat   Jul-08-08 03:21 PM   #8 
  - Yes, this.  Withywindle   Jul-08-08 04:17 PM   #46 
  - It depends on the type of wedding you and Lisa are looking for.  malta blue   Jul-08-08 03:22 PM   #9 
  - yes. i think i want something in the middle. nothing elaborate, not a backyard BBQ either  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:23 PM   #11 
  - I think you both need to be happy about your decision, and I understand both sides.  PelosiFan   Jul-08-08 03:23 PM   #10 
  - For what my opinion is worth:  KC2   Jul-08-08 03:23 PM   #12 
  - its not being pressured into marriage. i guess i should emphasis that in my OP  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:24 PM   #13 
     - Consider this.  Midlodemocrat   Jul-08-08 03:26 PM   #14 
     - Yep...We were married by our good friend  bicentennial_baby   Jul-08-08 03:27 PM   #15 
     - to them it is, i think a real wedding depends on what you want your wedding to be  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:32 PM   #17 
        - Do you want the whole big church wedding?  Midlodemocrat   Jul-08-08 03:36 PM   #26 
           - small affair and a medium sized reception  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:39 PM   #29 
              - I think you're in a tough spot.  Midlodemocrat   Jul-08-08 03:42 PM   #33 
                 - thanks for the advice and the support.  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:43 PM   #34 
     - Sorry lionesspriyanka  KC2   Jul-08-08 03:35 PM   #24 
  - Why would a wedding in SF have to be a quickie?  petronius   Jul-08-08 03:27 PM   #16 
  - all my friends are on the east coast or in india.  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:33 PM   #20 
  - Why does she want to get married now?  Gormy Cuss   Jul-08-08 03:33 PM   #19 
  - i think she does because its possible to do so  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:35 PM   #23 
  - That's a tough one, then.  Gormy Cuss   Jul-08-08 03:40 PM   #31 
  - Just don't bring your cat.  Midlodemocrat   Jul-08-08 03:44 PM   #35 
     - Flowers are good at weddings. n/t  Gormy Cuss   Jul-08-08 05:18 PM   #50 
  - I Just Want To Arrange Your Honeymoon!!!!  Parche   Jul-08-08 03:33 PM   #21 
  - lol  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:36 PM   #25 
     - are you a travel agent?  Fran Kubelik   Jul-08-08 03:38 PM   #28 
  - I think I understand.  RadiationTherapy   Jul-08-08 03:35 PM   #22 
  - i agree and i think it means more to me. she has never wanted a wedding  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:37 PM   #27 
     - I suspected that. You win in my book.  RadiationTherapy   Jul-08-08 03:46 PM   #36 
  - Wow... okay. Let's see what if I can provide any useful advise...  Writer   Jul-08-08 03:40 PM   #30 
  - we haven't really sat them down and asked.  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:42 PM   #32 
     - Ohhh. Well then it seems you may have some time, then, while you finish school, etc.  Writer   Jul-08-08 03:47 PM   #37 
        - we would still have to get the legal stuff done in canada or california  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 03:51 PM   #38 
           - Okay.  Writer   Jul-08-08 03:55 PM   #39 
  - How about this...  huskerlaw   Jul-08-08 04:02 PM   #42 
  - an anniversary party lacks the meaning of a wedding to me  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 04:04 PM   #43 
     - No, I don't think it's just you  huskerlaw   Jul-08-08 04:08 PM   #44 
     - I would feel the same way  latebloomer   Jul-08-08 04:11 PM   #45 
  - my 2 cents.  redwitch   Jul-08-08 04:18 PM   #47 
  - If you go get married, you have the legal part done and you have legal protections now.  Rabrrrrrr   Jul-08-08 04:23 PM   #49 
  - Just Hop A Plane and get married  Southpawkicker   Jul-08-08 05:20 PM   #51 
  - Sounds like you don't really want to make it official  XemaSab   Jul-08-08 05:28 PM   #52 
  - sounds like maybe you need to learn how to read. nt  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 05:28 PM   #53 
     - Oh?  XemaSab   Jul-08-08 05:34 PM   #61 
        - yes, not because i dont want to marry her, but because i want to have a ceremony too  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 05:36 PM   #64 
           - But if you want to make it official in the eyes of the state  XemaSab   Jul-08-08 05:38 PM   #66 
              - which by the way isnt weekend. its a whole week in california.  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 05:39 PM   #67 
  - Have the wedding in NYC then go to SF for a honeymoon and get the legal stuff done there?  Saint Etienne17   Jul-08-08 05:31 PM   #55 
  - weddings take time to plan. this is the problem  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 05:32 PM   #57 
     - Can you delay the wedding until winter vacation?  Saint Etienne17   Jul-08-08 05:39 PM   #68 
        - yeah. i think this is where my objection is. i want a normal wedding  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 05:41 PM   #70 
  - Decide what your priorities are, as a couple, then choose.  Shine   Jul-08-08 05:31 PM   #56 
  - the CA rule not standing isnt such a big deal, because we can get married in canada  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 05:33 PM   #59 
     - Oh, that's, it's closer!  Shine   Jul-08-08 05:37 PM   # 
  - Have you discussed this with her?  DarkTirade   Jul-08-08 05:33 PM   #58 
  - yes we have, but the problem here is both of us are right  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 05:34 PM   #60 
     - Yeah, that always sucks.  DarkTirade   Jul-08-08 05:34 PM   #63 
  - Why change your status right now at all?  Maddy McCall   Jul-08-08 05:34 PM   #62 
  - thats exactly my point.  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 05:37 PM   #65 
  - How sensible of you.  Shine   Jul-08-08 05:40 PM   #69 
  - I think it all depends on your definition of a "real" wedding  skygazer   Jul-08-08 05:52 PM   #71 
  - to me the legalties are less important right now  lionesspriyanka   Jul-08-08 06:04 PM   #72 
     - ....  skygazer   Jul-08-08 07:28 PM   #75 
  - I'd like to congratulate you on snagging a white woman. nt.  IndianaJones   Jul-08-08 06:30 PM   #74 
  - you too nt  lionesspriyanka   Jul-09-08 08:48 AM   #78 
  - weddings are designed to be a complete nuisance  GloriaSmith   Jul-08-08 07:47 PM   #76 
  - i feel like i have too much on my plate and cannot possibly organize  lionesspriyanka   Jul-09-08 07:27 AM   #77 
  - matrimony with acrimony usually doesn't bode well. better solve the problem or cancel it all.  MichiganVote   Jul-09-08 08:49 AM   #79 
  - A wedding is something that should never be rushed!  NewJeffCT   Jul-09-08 08:53 AM   #80 

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