Reply #6: That's how I feel as well, which is why I never married

[Lorien]

I was engaged to and living with a man for several years. He was rather insecure and eventually became abusive, so I left, thank goodness! But I do have a friend, Lisa, who married a man who had seemed ideal during their long engagement. On their wedding night all of that changed; he became an entirely different person; he "laid down the law" on how their marriage would work from that point on, and why she didn't have it annulled the very next day I'll never know. He's only slept with her once in over 17 years of marriage, he's a slob and expects her to spend most of her day cooking for him and cleaning up after him. She's developing an eBay business and working on getting a degree so that she can escape the marriage at some point.I can't imagine living with someone who is that disrespectful and who is actually disgusting to be around for ANY amount of time. I'd rather live in poverty again, but to each their own. If I could support her myself to get her out of there I would!