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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-17-08 12:21 PM
Response to Reply #33
60. Kids are not baggage
I think it's fine if you don't want to be w/ someone who has kids, but I think calling kids "baggage" is pretty nasty.

And not everyone who has kids has an ex-husband.
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  -Is it shallow of me to not want to date women that have kids? LostInAnomie  Mar-16-08 06:59 PM   #0 
  - Not at all. But it would be creepy to date a woman with kids if you didn't want to deal with  mondo joe   Mar-16-08 07:00 PM   #1 
  - Not at all. Anyone who says you are is an ignorant, myopic asshole piece of shit.  Rabrrrrrr   Mar-16-08 07:01 PM   #2 
  - My dear LostInAnomie...  CaliforniaPeggy   Mar-16-08 07:02 PM   #3 
  - Now Peggy, if you wanted to have kids, and were single...  LostInAnomie   Mar-16-08 07:13 PM   #10 
     - ROTLMFAO!  CaliforniaPeggy   Mar-16-08 07:18 PM   #15 
  - Of course not! It just sounds like you're being honest .  Sugar Smack   Mar-16-08 07:03 PM   #4 
  - Nah, it could screw a kid trying to get your approval if you don't like kids.  LeftyMom   Mar-16-08 07:07 PM   #5 
  - Not shallow.  Ptah   Mar-16-08 07:10 PM   #6 
  - Nope. I'm a woman, and I'm not interested in dating divorced dads with kids, either. nt  quiet.american   Mar-16-08 07:10 PM   #7 
  - I am with you there....  Bennyboy   Mar-16-08 07:11 PM   #8 
  - Wow, Bennyboy.  Sugar Smack   Mar-16-08 07:17 PM   #14 
     - The thing is I LOVE KIDS!  Bennyboy   Mar-16-08 07:21 PM   #17 
        - dysfunction junction, what's your function?  RainDog   Mar-16-08 09:41 PM   #28 
        - Sounds like she had a major problem. Enabling him all over the place. nt  raccoon   Mar-17-08 08:03 AM   #44 
  - Hell no.  Fox Mulder   Mar-16-08 07:12 PM   #9 
  - A friend of mine who has kids  drmeow   Mar-16-08 07:14 PM   #11 
  - I've often thought if anything happened to my partner I'd be unlikely to date much because  mondo joe   Mar-16-08 07:58 PM   #24 
  - No, she doesn't need you around anyway  Breeze54   Mar-16-08 07:15 PM   #12 
  - If I were single,  sandnsea   Mar-16-08 07:15 PM   #13 
  - No. I won't date guys who have kids under 18.  alarimer   Mar-16-08 07:19 PM   #16 
  - No I don't think it is.  littlebit   Mar-16-08 07:21 PM   #18 
  - Gheesh! You won't even talk to people who have kids?  Breeze54   Mar-16-08 07:22 PM   #19 
  - not at all  RainDog   Mar-16-08 07:33 PM   #20 
  - "It's strange that people always assume  Sugar Smack   Mar-16-08 07:36 PM   #21 
  - If I were dating again,  BarenakedLady   Mar-16-08 07:38 PM   #22 
  - heh heh  Inchworm   Mar-16-08 09:45 PM   #29 
     - I was going to go with  BarenakedLady   Mar-17-08 08:04 AM   #45 
  - Choosing whom you date is your privilege.  Ellen Forradalom   Mar-16-08 07:52 PM   #23 
  - I think it's respectful  XemaSab   Mar-16-08 08:43 PM   #25 
  - well i may be shallow as well  pitohui   Mar-16-08 09:34 PM   #26 
  - Not shallow, but you could be saying no to a fine relationship.........  Darth_Kitten   Mar-16-08 09:34 PM   #27 
  - At least you know they put out...  RetroLounge   Mar-16-08 09:53 PM   #30 
  - As a single mom, I don't think it's shallow  Der Blaue Engel   Mar-16-08 10:07 PM   #31 
  - no  Skittles   Mar-16-08 10:07 PM   #32 
  - If I were single I would never go out with someone who has kids.  Thurston Howell III   Mar-16-08 10:13 PM   #33 
  - Kids are not baggage  MissMillie   Mar-17-08 12:21 PM   #60 
  - Nope  krispos42   Mar-16-08 10:27 PM   #34 
  - No. It's more of a compatibility issue  Pushed To The Left   Mar-16-08 11:22 PM   #35 
  - its a matter of personal preference  Southpawkicker   Mar-16-08 11:31 PM   #36 
  - No I don't think it's shallow  socialdemocrat1981   Mar-17-08 02:09 AM   #37 
  - No, I don't think it's shallow.  Withywindle   Mar-17-08 02:13 AM   #38 
  - If she's willing to get rid of them, you should give her a chance.  JVS   Mar-17-08 02:15 AM   #39 
  - AHAHAH!  Withywindle   Mar-17-08 02:22 AM   #40 
  - there was a woman where I used to work...  Connonym   Mar-17-08 03:38 AM   #41 
     - Ewwww  BarenakedLady   Mar-17-08 08:05 AM   #46 
     - That is so sad for the children... this is emotional neglect.  ftbc   Mar-20-08 09:11 AM   #75 
  - Not at all because any good woman is going to put her kids first  Connonym   Mar-17-08 03:43 AM   #42 
  - I think that if you don't like kids then dating a woman with kids is a bad idea.  Lady Freedom   Mar-17-08 03:45 AM   #43 
  - precisely  MissMillie   Mar-17-08 12:21 PM   #61 
  - After watching my friend date a man who had no desire to be with her daughter  LynneSin   Mar-17-08 08:09 AM   #47 
  - Why would you put yourself in an unhappy position just because you feel you should?  Deep13   Mar-17-08 08:09 AM   #48 
  - No, it's best to know what you want and don't want. If you don't like kids, and don't date women  raccoon   Mar-17-08 08:11 AM   #49 
  - Nope. Not shallow at all..In fact..  youthere   Mar-17-08 08:42 AM   #50 
  - What I find interesting on this thread...  RainDog   Mar-17-08 11:26 AM   #51 
  - I think it depends on where you are  supernova   Mar-17-08 11:41 AM   #52 
  - Yes, thanks  RainDog   Mar-17-08 11:59 AM   #54 
  - While I do not think that there is anything wrong  drmeow   Mar-17-08 01:08 PM   #62 
  - NO, just honest.  lionesspriyanka   Mar-17-08 11:42 AM   #53 
  - oh god  Amaya   Mar-17-08 12:04 PM   #55 
  - No more, nor no less shallow than dating only women that do have kids....  LanternWaste   Mar-17-08 12:05 PM   #56 
  - looking back, I think I missed out on some good women because they had kids.  kwassa   Mar-17-08 12:06 PM   #57 
  - I think you sound honest. eom  PhDmom   Mar-17-08 12:11 PM   #58 
  - It's a moot point now, but I wouldn't date somebody with a kid  LostinVA   Mar-17-08 12:19 PM   #59 
  - Nope.  geardaddy   Mar-17-08 01:12 PM   #63 
  - no, just honest  unpossibles   Mar-17-08 01:20 PM   #64 
  - As long as you also have enough ethics not to lie, fuck them, and dirt them over.  SarahBelle   Mar-17-08 01:32 PM   #65 
  - Not at all  Lurking_Argyle   Mar-17-08 01:37 PM   #66 
  - I broke up with my last girlfriend because she had a kid. (Not mine!)  seawolf   Mar-17-08 08:40 PM   #67 
  - kids are the devil....unless she makes 100k don't do it.  ileus   Mar-17-08 09:02 PM   #68 
  - That's not shallow. It's a personal preference...  fudge stripe cookays   Mar-17-08 09:11 PM   #69 
  - i try not to, either  Blue_Tires   Mar-19-08 11:05 PM   #70 
  - No.  elleng   Mar-19-08 11:22 PM   #71 
  - I don't think it's shallow  FloridaJudy   Mar-19-08 11:33 PM   #72 
  - I don't think so at all.  Chovexani   Mar-20-08 12:13 AM   #73 
  - it's better not to date...  MrsBrady   Mar-20-08 12:36 AM   #74 
  - Everyone has an answer to "I wouldn't date someone who _____________________"  ftbc   Mar-20-08 09:15 AM   #76 
  - If you are shallow, you've got company. Me. I don't think it's shallow at all.  Zavulon   Mar-20-08 11:10 AM   #77 
  - it'd be shallow if you didn't date a woman only b/c her kids were not cute  momophile   Mar-20-08 11:17 AM   #78 
  - if you hate kids, you hate kids.  dembotoz   Mar-20-08 01:24 PM   #79 

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