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Wed Feb-27-08 09:14 PM
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| 32. Learn to live with the fact that it is not possible for you to change |
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someone else's behavior.
Out of curiosity, what *do* you want to be called?
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| -How do I get people to stop using the words "folks" and "gals"? |
LisaM |
Feb-27-08 07:19 PM |
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My SiL uses "gal" |
supernova |
Feb-27-08 07:21 PM |
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yep. |
MissMillie |
Feb-27-08 07:23 PM |
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Yeah - folks is better than gals, but gals is better than "females" |
Iris |
Feb-28-08 09:52 AM |
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Pull her aside and very gently let her know that her word choice... |
Pacifist Patriot |
Feb-27-08 07:24 PM |
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Well she's kind of a boss, PLUS I like her |
LisaM |
Feb-27-08 07:25 PM |
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The woman who spoke to me reported to me. |
Pacifist Patriot |
Feb-27-08 07:27 PM |
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Oh. Well, I guess "Belt them in the mouth" is out, then. nt |
Hand |
Feb-27-08 11:30 PM |
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'Professionalism' is crap |
Oeditpus Rex |
Feb-27-08 07:56 PM |
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Sorry, but the phrases you list are not professionalism in my book. |
Pacifist Patriot |
Feb-27-08 08:05 PM |
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They're what pass for 'professionalism' anymore |
Oeditpus Rex |
Feb-27-08 08:14 PM |
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You really want to be pissed off, don't you? |
Pacifist Patriot |
Feb-27-08 08:24 PM |
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Not particularly, no |
Oeditpus Rex |
Feb-27-08 08:39 PM |
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Hey, winked at you. |
Pacifist Patriot |
Feb-28-08 09:46 AM |
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Enlist me in your holy crusade, my liege! |
JVS |
Feb-28-08 11:55 AM |
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Sorry, I hate to tell you this, but |
laconicsax |
Feb-27-08 09:31 PM |
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'Professionalism' is crap |
datasuspect |
Feb-28-08 09:50 AM |
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Same here... it's all crap. |
redqueen |
Feb-28-08 02:16 PM |
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"it is what it is" I hate that. I promise to always say the following in that phrase's place... |
JVS |
Feb-28-08 11:53 AM |
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i use folks when addressing groups of men and women |
kagehime |
Feb-27-08 07:26 PM |
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"Everyone, can I get your attention?" |
Pacifist Patriot |
Feb-27-08 07:28 PM |
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everyone is a good one |
kagehime |
Feb-27-08 07:36 PM |
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You're nicer than me. |
TheFriendlyAnarchist |
Feb-27-08 08:39 PM |
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Just had to inject profanity, did ya? |
MediaBabe |
Feb-28-08 12:57 PM |
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I think he was joking! |
Lautremont |
Feb-28-08 02:13 PM |
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Devil Dog! |
Pogue.Mahone |
Feb-28-08 01:20 PM |
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I always say "You people" |
JVS |
Feb-28-08 11:56 AM |
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I don't see anything wrong with the term "folks". |
Fox Mulder |
Feb-27-08 07:30 PM |
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If the people ARE your "folks" (kith and kin), fine. Otherwise, it's condescending. |
WinkyDink |
Feb-27-08 07:37 PM |
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How is it condescending? |
Fox Mulder |
Feb-27-08 07:39 PM |
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that's because there is nothing wrong with the term "folks" |
pitohui |
Feb-27-08 09:24 PM |
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LOL, I just don't like it! It sounds so, well, so...... |
LisaM |
Feb-27-08 07:35 PM |
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Your other option is to use "Ladies and Gentlemen" |
supernova |
Feb-27-08 08:07 PM |
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HA! If I knew the answer to that... |
LanternWaste |
Feb-28-08 10:18 AM |
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You'd probably be better off learning not to let it upset you. |
youthere |
Feb-27-08 08:02 PM |
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That's the only real remedy, isn't it? n/t |
MediaBabe |
Feb-28-08 12:52 PM |
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I can't stand "folks" |
DS1 |
Feb-27-08 08:12 PM |
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I've always preferred... |
youthere |
Feb-27-08 08:13 PM |
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Also gender neutral |
supernova |
Feb-27-08 08:15 PM |
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My high school physics teacher used to tell this story |
Cabcere |
Feb-27-08 08:18 PM |
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And when you want to tone it down a bit |
pokerfan |
Feb-27-08 11:45 PM |
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"Folks" is a problem? Why? I don't get that at all. |
mycritters2 |
Feb-27-08 08:15 PM |
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Better than "guys" |
no name no slogan |
Feb-27-08 08:20 PM |
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Geez, everyone here does that. My confirmation class is all girls, |
mycritters2 |
Feb-27-08 08:29 PM |
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"Midwestern for y'all" |
no name no slogan |
Feb-27-08 08:37 PM |
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exactly! |
KitchenWitch |
Feb-28-08 11:56 AM |
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oops, I say "guys" AND "folks" |
MassLiberal |
Feb-27-08 09:06 PM |
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That's usually what I end up with |
no name no slogan |
Feb-27-08 09:14 PM |
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Would you like it better if she said "y'all"? |
quantessd |
Feb-27-08 08:42 PM |
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Learn to live with the fact that it is not possible for you to change |
Book Lover |
Feb-27-08 09:14 PM |
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She was a big-boned gal from Southern Alberta - |
bertha katzenengel |
Feb-27-08 09:16 PM |
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When you find out, tell me |
1gobluedem |
Feb-27-08 09:19 PM |
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wow, try getting over yourself |
pitohui |
Feb-27-08 09:22 PM |
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Sorry, but 'gal' seems very condescending to me |
1gobluedem |
Feb-27-08 09:27 PM |
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I don't mind the use of "folks" |
Inchworm |
Feb-27-08 11:35 PM |
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You could just use 'y'all' instead. |
DarkTirade |
Feb-27-08 11:37 PM |
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Not liking being called "gal," I understand. |
Jamastiene |
Feb-27-08 11:56 PM |
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Whatever you do, DON'T move to Buffalo. |
GoddessOfGuinness |
Feb-27-08 11:56 PM |
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WTF is wrong with "folks"? |
Xithras |
Feb-28-08 12:01 AM |
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quit? |
harmonicon |
Feb-28-08 12:17 AM |
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So...you folks done in this thread...? |
adsosletter |
Feb-28-08 01:56 AM |
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Move to New York or Jersey |
Maraya1969 |
Feb-28-08 02:54 AM |
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You'll have a lot better luck changing your own reaction than you'll have changing others' behavior. |
Heidi |
Feb-28-08 03:22 AM |
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that is an eminently positive way to look at it. |
datasuspect |
Feb-28-08 09:51 AM |
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My own experience is that irrational fear is a huge limiter of human potential. |
Heidi |
Feb-28-08 11:50 AM |
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Join my husband in a campaign against those words |
cmt928 |
Feb-28-08 09:53 AM |
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raised in the south, I say "folks" all the time.... |
mike_c |
Feb-28-08 10:20 AM |
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"Folks"? Really? That's such a...non-offensive word. |
janesez |
Feb-28-08 10:34 AM |
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Hey, peeps (peops?) this be-otch can think of worse terms. n/t |
marzipanni |
Feb-28-08 12:08 PM |
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Move out of America. |
Ano Genitus |
Feb-28-08 12:09 PM |
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Move Up North |
Crisco |
Feb-28-08 12:28 PM |
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i take it you aren't southern? |
Ava |
Feb-28-08 12:29 PM |
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"Gal" = "Guy" |
Jimbo S |
Feb-28-08 12:29 PM |
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You don't. I do not recall your appointment as word monitor |
havocmom |
Feb-28-08 12:59 PM |
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The only time "folks" bothers me is when people only use it to describe black people. |
SteppingRazor |
Feb-28-08 01:18 PM |
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You can't. |
redqueen |
Feb-28-08 02:14 PM |
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"Folks" is pretty hayseed, much like holding a cigar at a right angle to your fingers. |
Lautremont |
Feb-28-08 02:18 PM |
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Ask her to use the inoffensive... |
sheeptramp |
Feb-28-08 02:25 PM |
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How about "you mugs"? Or just "youse"? |
Gidney N Cloyd |
Feb-28-08 02:40 PM |
#78 |
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Resign in protest (All Three) |
Crabby Appleton |
Feb-28-08 03:33 PM |
#79 |
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