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WinkyDink Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-27-08 07:37 PM
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11. If the people ARE your "folks" (kith and kin), fine. Otherwise, it's condescending.
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  -How do I get people to stop using the words "folks" and "gals"? LisaM  Feb-27-08 07:19 PM   #0 
  - My SiL uses "gal"  supernova   Feb-27-08 07:21 PM   #1 
  - yep.  MissMillie   Feb-27-08 07:23 PM   #2 
  - Yeah - folks is better than gals, but gals is better than "females"  Iris   Feb-28-08 09:52 AM   #53 
  - Pull her aside and very gently let her know that her word choice...  Pacifist Patriot   Feb-27-08 07:24 PM   #3 
  - Well she's kind of a boss, PLUS I like her  LisaM   Feb-27-08 07:25 PM   #4 
  - The woman who spoke to me reported to me.  Pacifist Patriot   Feb-27-08 07:27 PM   #6 
  - Oh. Well, I guess "Belt them in the mouth" is out, then. nt  Hand   Feb-27-08 11:30 PM   #39 
  - 'Professionalism' is crap  Oeditpus Rex   Feb-27-08 07:56 PM   #13 
     - Sorry, but the phrases you list are not professionalism in my book.  Pacifist Patriot   Feb-27-08 08:05 PM   #15 
     - They're what pass for 'professionalism' anymore  Oeditpus Rex   Feb-27-08 08:14 PM   #19 
        - You really want to be pissed off, don't you?  Pacifist Patriot   Feb-27-08 08:24 PM   #24 
        - Not particularly, no  Oeditpus Rex   Feb-27-08 08:39 PM   #28 
           - Hey, winked at you.  Pacifist Patriot   Feb-28-08 09:46 AM   #50 
           - Enlist me in your holy crusade, my liege!  JVS   Feb-28-08 11:55 AM   #60 
        - Sorry, I hate to tell you this, but  laconicsax   Feb-27-08 09:31 PM   #38 
     - 'Professionalism' is crap  datasuspect   Feb-28-08 09:50 AM   #51 
     - Same here... it's all crap.  redqueen   Feb-28-08 02:16 PM   #75 
     - "it is what it is" I hate that. I promise to always say the following in that phrase's place...  JVS   Feb-28-08 11:53 AM   #59 
  - i use folks when addressing groups of men and women  kagehime   Feb-27-08 07:26 PM   #5 
  - "Everyone, can I get your attention?"  Pacifist Patriot   Feb-27-08 07:28 PM   #7 
  - everyone is a good one  kagehime   Feb-27-08 07:36 PM   #10 
  - You're nicer than me.  TheFriendlyAnarchist   Feb-27-08 08:39 PM   #27 
     - Just had to inject profanity, did ya?  MediaBabe   Feb-28-08 12:57 PM   #69 
     - I think he was joking!  Lautremont   Feb-28-08 02:13 PM   #73 
     - Devil Dog!  Pogue.Mahone   Feb-28-08 01:20 PM   #72 
  - I always say "You people"  JVS   Feb-28-08 11:56 AM   #61 
  - I don't see anything wrong with the term "folks".  Fox Mulder   Feb-27-08 07:30 PM   #8 
  - If the people ARE your "folks" (kith and kin), fine. Otherwise, it's condescending.  WinkyDink   Feb-27-08 07:37 PM   #11 
  - How is it condescending?  Fox Mulder   Feb-27-08 07:39 PM   #12 
  - that's because there is nothing wrong with the term "folks"  pitohui   Feb-27-08 09:24 PM   #36 
  - LOL, I just don't like it! It sounds so, well, so......  LisaM   Feb-27-08 07:35 PM   #9 
  - Your other option is to use "Ladies and Gentlemen"  supernova   Feb-27-08 08:07 PM   #16 
  - HA! If I knew the answer to that...  LanternWaste   Feb-28-08 10:18 AM   #55 
  - You'd probably be better off learning not to let it upset you.  youthere   Feb-27-08 08:02 PM   #14 
  - That's the only real remedy, isn't it? n/t  MediaBabe   Feb-28-08 12:52 PM   #68 
  - I can't stand "folks"  DS1   Feb-27-08 08:12 PM   #17 
  - I've always preferred...  youthere   Feb-27-08 08:13 PM   #18 
     - Also gender neutral  supernova   Feb-27-08 08:15 PM   #20 
     - My high school physics teacher used to tell this story  Cabcere   Feb-27-08 08:18 PM   #22 
     - And when you want to tone it down a bit  pokerfan   Feb-27-08 11:45 PM   #42 
  - "Folks" is a problem? Why? I don't get that at all.  mycritters2   Feb-27-08 08:15 PM   #21 
  - Better than "guys"  no name no slogan   Feb-27-08 08:20 PM   #23 
  - Geez, everyone here does that. My confirmation class is all girls,  mycritters2   Feb-27-08 08:29 PM   #25 
  - "Midwestern for y'all"  no name no slogan   Feb-27-08 08:37 PM   #26 
  - exactly!  KitchenWitch   Feb-28-08 11:56 AM   #62 
  - oops, I say "guys" AND "folks"  MassLiberal   Feb-27-08 09:06 PM   #30 
     - That's usually what I end up with  no name no slogan   Feb-27-08 09:14 PM   #31 
  - Would you like it better if she said "y'all"?  quantessd   Feb-27-08 08:42 PM   #29 
  - Learn to live with the fact that it is not possible for you to change  Book Lover   Feb-27-08 09:14 PM   #32 
  - She was a big-boned gal from Southern Alberta -  bertha katzenengel   Feb-27-08 09:16 PM   #33 
  - When you find out, tell me  1gobluedem   Feb-27-08 09:19 PM   #34 
  - wow, try getting over yourself  pitohui   Feb-27-08 09:22 PM   #35 
  - Sorry, but 'gal' seems very condescending to me  1gobluedem   Feb-27-08 09:27 PM   #37 
  - I don't mind the use of "folks"  Inchworm   Feb-27-08 11:35 PM   #40 
  - You could just use 'y'all' instead.  DarkTirade   Feb-27-08 11:37 PM   #41 
  - Not liking being called "gal," I understand.  Jamastiene   Feb-27-08 11:56 PM   #43 
  - Whatever you do, DON'T move to Buffalo.  GoddessOfGuinness   Feb-27-08 11:56 PM   #44 
  - WTF is wrong with "folks"?  Xithras   Feb-28-08 12:01 AM   #45 
  - quit?  harmonicon   Feb-28-08 12:17 AM   #46 
  - folks done in this thread...?  adsosletter   Feb-28-08 01:56 AM   #47 
  - Move to New York or Jersey  Maraya1969   Feb-28-08 02:54 AM   #48 
  - You'll have a lot better luck changing your own reaction than you'll have changing others' behavior.  Heidi   Feb-28-08 03:22 AM   #49 
  - that is an eminently positive way to look at it.  datasuspect   Feb-28-08 09:51 AM   #52 
     - My own experience is that irrational fear is a huge limiter of human potential.  Heidi   Feb-28-08 11:50 AM   #58 
  - Join my husband in a campaign against those words  cmt928   Feb-28-08 09:53 AM   #54 
  - raised in the south, I say "folks" all the time....  mike_c   Feb-28-08 10:20 AM   #56 
  - "Folks"? Really? That's such a...non-offensive word.  janesez   Feb-28-08 10:34 AM   #57 
  - Hey, peeps (peops?) this be-otch can think of worse terms. n/t  marzipanni   Feb-28-08 12:08 PM   #63 
  - Move out of America.  Ano Genitus   Feb-28-08 12:09 PM   #64 
  - Move Up North  Crisco   Feb-28-08 12:28 PM   #65 
  - i take it you aren't southern?  Ava   Feb-28-08 12:29 PM   #66 
  - "Gal" = "Guy"  Jimbo S   Feb-28-08 12:29 PM   #67 
  - You don't. I do not recall your appointment as word monitor  havocmom   Feb-28-08 12:59 PM   #70 
  - The only time "folks" bothers me is when people only use it to describe black people.  SteppingRazor   Feb-28-08 01:18 PM   #71 
  - You can't.  redqueen   Feb-28-08 02:14 PM   #74 
  - "Folks" is pretty hayseed, much like holding a cigar at a right angle to your fingers.  Lautremont   Feb-28-08 02:18 PM   #76 
  - Ask her to use the inoffensive...  sheeptramp   Feb-28-08 02:25 PM   #77 
  - How about "you mugs"? Or just "youse"?  Gidney N Cloyd   Feb-28-08 02:40 PM   #78 
  - Resign in protest (All Three)  Crabby Appleton   Feb-28-08 03:33 PM   #79 

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