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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-17-08 02:41 PM
Response to Reply #24
26. Huh?
I love my parents. I love my various aunts and uncles. Ditto my cousins. Ditto my coworkers.

Are you suggesting I sleep with all of them? :crazy:
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  -Is cheating on a partner ever okay? Chovexani  Feb-17-08 02:03 PM   #0 
  - If you have to call it cheating, then yes, it's bad.  Rabrrrrrr   Feb-17-08 02:04 PM   #1 
  - this  DS1   Feb-17-08 02:05 PM   #3 
  - Agreed.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 02:09 PM   #9 
  - Yeah, this is a little like asking if murder is always wrong  theredpen   Feb-17-08 03:37 PM   #60 
  - Agreed.  WritingIsMyReligion   Feb-18-08 06:54 AM   #107 
  - no, cheating is never okay  Southpawkicker   Feb-17-08 02:05 PM   #2 
  - I don't think it's OK.  AspieGrrl   Feb-17-08 02:05 PM   #4 
  - What she said..  Omphaloskepsis   Feb-17-08 02:12 PM   #12 
  - Hmm. I don't think it's ever "okay".  PeaceNikki   Feb-17-08 02:06 PM   #5 
  - That's a great point.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 02:11 PM   #11 
  - Ouch!! That would HURT!  PeaceNikki   Feb-17-08 02:17 PM   #17 
  - YOU ARE NOT A UNIQUE AND BEAUTIFUL SNOWFLAKE!  Tyler Durden   Feb-17-08 05:21 PM   #67 
     - LOL!  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 09:06 PM   #90 
  - Forgivable, possibly...  HypnoToad   Feb-17-08 02:33 PM   #23 
  - I used to think it was forgivable  RetroLounge   Feb-17-08 02:58 PM   #41 
     - It's certainly not always forgivable. It's probably mostly not forgivable.  PeaceNikki   Feb-17-08 03:04 PM   #49 
     - That's the thing.  RetroLounge   Feb-17-08 03:09 PM   #51 
        - Forgiveness may never come  lizziegrace   Feb-17-08 03:38 PM   #61 
     - It can be  OhioBlues   Feb-17-08 05:28 PM   #68 
     - I just don't know...  RetroLounge   Feb-17-08 07:13 PM   #74 
        - Urges and feelings do NOT need to be acted upon.  Common Sense Party   Feb-17-08 11:45 PM   #97 
        - Of course, but there's a fine line between  Chovexani   Feb-18-08 02:46 AM   #99 
        - big hug  OhioBlues   Feb-18-08 04:11 AM   #100 
     - I *say* I've forgiven him but  zingaro   Feb-18-08 04:06 PM   #165 
  - Nope.  LeftyMom   Feb-17-08 02:06 PM   #6 
  - Yep.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 02:14 PM   #14 
     - That's just a perfect description of my ex.  LeftyMom   Feb-17-08 02:25 PM   #20 
     - Ewww  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 02:48 PM   #31 
     - Thanks.  LeftyMom   Feb-17-08 02:55 PM   #37 
     - So you replace a cheating ass with a guy who works out a lot and saves puppies.  DarkTirade   Feb-17-08 02:54 PM   #36 
     - There was a non-offensive sofa lump in between.  LeftyMom   Feb-17-08 02:56 PM   #40 
     - Veto rights?  flvegan   Feb-17-08 06:09 PM   #71 
        - Yeah, that was when I was young and stupid.  LeftyMom   Feb-17-08 09:16 PM   #91 
     - so you were once an asshole and now are no longer an asshole?  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 10:17 PM   #167 
  - no it's not  lost-in-nj   Feb-17-08 02:08 PM   #7 
  - Ever okay?  KC2   Feb-17-08 02:09 PM   #8 
  - Cheating is never ok. Period.  hisownpetard   Feb-17-08 02:10 PM   #10 
  - I can't say it is, but then my partner has cheated on me  OhioBlues   Feb-17-08 02:13 PM   #13 
  - I've been cheated on too.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 02:15 PM   #16 
  - no.  chimpsrsmarter   Feb-17-08 02:14 PM   #15 
  - I suppose if you're  supernova   Feb-17-08 02:22 PM   #18 
  - ok not to get to persnickity but if someone is holding a gun to your head it's rape  Connonym   Feb-17-08 08:16 PM   #81 
     - Actually it is persnickity  supernova   Feb-18-08 01:19 PM   #156 
        - so you're saying if your partner was raped you'd consider it cheating?  Connonym   Feb-19-08 05:36 AM   #170 
  - There is ABSOLUTELY no  Simply Fugue   Feb-17-08 02:23 PM   #19 
  - end the existing relationship (completely)  lizziegrace   Feb-17-08 02:28 PM   #21 
  - Anyone who does should be cheated ON...  HypnoToad   Feb-17-08 02:31 PM   #22 
  - omg omg someone take a screenshot  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 02:55 PM   #38 
     - It'd be far worse if everyone agreed with everyone else on everything.  HypnoToad   Feb-17-08 03:00 PM   #44 
        - Hee!  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 03:04 PM   #48 
  - no  GloriaSmith   Feb-17-08 02:35 PM   #24 
  - Huh?  HypnoToad   Feb-17-08 02:41 PM   #26 
     - of course not  GloriaSmith   Feb-17-08 02:45 PM   #28 
        - that is a tough one  unpossibles   Feb-18-08 09:46 AM   #125 
  - No, with a caveat.  Withywindle   Feb-17-08 02:41 PM   #25 
  - I double-checked, this ain't GDP, but it's cool.  HypnoToad   Feb-17-08 02:45 PM   #30 
  - Word word and also? Word.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 02:53 PM   #34 
     - If people can be affected by others, then in any society where people care about each other,  HypnoToad   Feb-17-08 02:58 PM   #42 
        - Ah, the million dollar question  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 03:10 PM   #52 
           - That's cool.  HypnoToad   Feb-17-08 08:36 PM   #84 
              - We've actually just done it.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 09:05 PM   #89 
  - No, it's not.  SarahBelle   Feb-17-08 02:44 PM   #27 
  - No. n/t  Jamastiene   Feb-17-08 02:45 PM   #29 
  - Not a good day to ask.  BarenakedLady   Feb-17-08 02:48 PM   #32 
  - Aww.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 02:54 PM   #35 
  - Nah  BarenakedLady   Feb-17-08 03:00 PM   #45 
     - You walk around barenaked, what do ya expect?  FlyingSquirrel   Feb-17-08 08:06 PM   #78 
  - Boo!  Inchworm   Feb-17-08 02:55 PM   #39 
     - Blah!  BarenakedLady   Feb-17-08 03:01 PM   #46 
  - If you have to cheat on them to save the world from immanent destruction...  DarkTirade   Feb-17-08 02:52 PM   #33 
  - I gave up primo J-Rocker ass for my then-BF.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 03:02 PM   #47 
     - ... I'm not into the group thing but for that I'd probably ask if I could join in.  DarkTirade   Feb-17-08 03:06 PM   #50 
        - I never understood the band groupie thing until I went to that show.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 03:12 PM   #54 
           - Damn... I need to get a band going. :P  DarkTirade   Feb-17-08 03:13 PM   #55 
              - I would have to stay away  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 03:16 PM   #56 
                 - Could you?  DarkTirade   Feb-17-08 03:16 PM   #57 
                    - I don't know.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 03:17 PM   #58 
                       - Few can.  DarkTirade   Feb-17-08 05:32 PM   #69 
  - keyword -partner... nope  Inchworm   Feb-17-08 02:59 PM   #43 
  - No  MATTMAN   Feb-17-08 03:12 PM   #53 
  - My personal belief is that its a form of cowardice and the dishonesty...  Solon   Feb-17-08 03:26 PM   #59 
  - It's human. It happens.  Ellen Forradalom   Feb-17-08 05:06 PM   #62 
  - It's not "okay," but it does happen  Blue_In_AK   Feb-17-08 05:11 PM   #63 
  - Whenever I read threads like these  GirlinContempt   Feb-18-08 10:42 AM   #139 
     - Thanks for the understanding.  Blue_In_AK   Feb-18-08 02:54 PM   #162 
  - There was a thread about this a while back and I got flamed for being judgmental  Midlodemocrat   Feb-17-08 05:13 PM   #64 
  - I just happen  SOteric   Feb-17-08 06:03 PM   #70 
  - Could you respect someone who had TWICE taken back a cheating spouse?  PassingFair   Feb-17-08 05:14 PM   #65 
  - one of her judgement calls I don't get nt  JoeIsOneOfUs   Feb-17-08 08:20 PM   #82 
  - Not my marriage.  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 08:49 PM   #87 
  - But what business is it of yours? Or anyone else's for that matter?  zingaro   Feb-18-08 04:22 PM   #166 
  - No.  NNadir   Feb-17-08 05:15 PM   #66 
  - no, it is sleazy and disgusting  Skittles   Feb-17-08 06:54 PM   #72 
  - Never. Under any circumstances.  terrya   Feb-17-08 06:55 PM   #73 
  - no n/t  enigmatic   Feb-17-08 07:20 PM   #75 
  - Cheating Is Never Ok, And Is Always The Act Of A Selfish Coward.  OPERATIONMINDCRIME   Feb-17-08 07:35 PM   #76 
  - No.  adsosletter   Feb-17-08 07:57 PM   #77 
  - Better question: if you do "fuck up" and cheat on your partner...  MilesColtrane   Feb-17-08 08:07 PM   #79 
  - That is an interesting question indeed.  PeaceNikki   Feb-17-08 08:51 PM   #88 
  - I've been both cheater and cheated on  Chovexani   Feb-17-08 09:16 PM   #92 
     - I respect your opinion as someone having been there; however,  adsosletter   Feb-17-08 11:34 PM   #94 
  - NO. Essentially, you are cheating on yourself.  Tuesday Afternoon   Feb-17-08 08:13 PM   #80 
  - Hell No!  SillyFlower   Feb-17-08 08:20 PM   #83 
  - In my marriage - no  Generic Brad   Feb-17-08 08:41 PM   #85 
  - Short of Murder And Violent Assault, Cheating Is The Worst Thing You Could Ever Do In A Relationship  Yavin4   Feb-17-08 08:44 PM   #86 
  - If they're allowed to watch?  TrogL   Feb-17-08 09:26 PM   #93 
  - No, all receipts and expenses must be on the record.  Deep13   Feb-17-08 11:37 PM   #95 
  - Cheaters suck. Always. There is no excuse.  Common Sense Party   Feb-17-08 11:42 PM   #96 
  - PeaceNikki is a breath of fresh air.  asteroid2003QQ47   Feb-18-08 01:15 AM   #98 
  - I know plenty of situations where it is "okay"  philboy   Feb-18-08 04:51 AM   #101 
  - Not when children are involved  turtlensue   Feb-18-08 05:01 AM   #102 
  - Then in your particular situation...  philboy   Feb-18-08 05:08 AM   #103 
     - Then the father is dealing with the situation immaturely and isn't helping matters....  Solon   Feb-18-08 09:25 AM   #121 
     - I have no idea if the problem would be solved by...  philboy   Feb-18-08 09:59 AM   #127 
        - I was making a judgment based on the information presented...  Solon   Feb-18-08 10:12 AM   #130 
           - again....  philboy   Feb-18-08 10:17 AM   #134 
              - Like I said before, I'm offering judgment based on the information presented...  Solon   Feb-18-08 10:28 AM   #135 
                 - and i'm saying....  philboy   Feb-18-08 10:29 AM   #136 
     - "And we never know the full story until we walk in the shoes..."  KansDem   Feb-18-08 10:42 AM   #140 
  - no shit.  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 08:35 AM   #111 
  - Well said. (nt)  redqueen   Feb-18-08 09:13 AM   #116 
  - I guess it depends on how you're defining 'okay.'  SOteric   Feb-18-08 10:41 AM   #137 
     - What a great post.  janesez   Feb-18-08 10:47 AM   #142 
  - Cheating is never ok. nt  Crabby Appleton   Feb-18-08 05:24 AM   #104 
  - Sure it is. It's OK if You are Republican  Joe Bacon   Feb-18-08 06:11 AM   #105 
  - Hypocrites please stand.  asteroid2003QQ47   Feb-18-08 06:12 AM   #106 
  - John 8.  Ellen Forradalom   Feb-18-08 07:07 AM   #108 
  - i don't do monogamy.  xchrom   Feb-18-08 07:33 AM   #109 
  - same here  unpossibles   Feb-18-08 09:56 AM   #126 
  - yes i do. i am disappionted that you of all people dont understand that people  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 08:30 AM   #110 
  - Maybe some of us are judgemental because we have been DAMAGED by this  turtlensue   Feb-18-08 08:43 AM   #113 
  - Cheating is ultimately an act of cowardice and selfishness on the part of the cheater...  Solon   Feb-18-08 09:13 AM   #117 
     - Excellent post. And I feel regardless of how much  Midlodemocrat   Feb-18-08 12:49 PM   #147 
  - No, it isn't  EstimatedProphet   Feb-18-08 08:37 AM   #112 
  - Don't call it "cheating;" call it "Enhanced Personalizing."  chromotone   Feb-18-08 09:05 AM   #114 
  - only one outcome...public stoning. nt.  IndianaJones   Feb-18-08 09:12 AM   #115 
  - strongly agreed ...  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 09:17 AM   #120 
     - its part of my strong judeo-christian traditions. no gray areas for things I deem to be evil. nt.  IndianaJones   Feb-18-08 09:26 AM   #122 
        - its part of my high horse religion too  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 09:28 AM   #124 
  - NOPE !!!!!  Iggo   Feb-18-08 09:15 AM   #118 
  - Okay? That's a judgment call. Understandable? I say yes.  redqueen   Feb-18-08 09:15 AM   #119 
  - amen...this subject seems to bring out some very judgmental, narrow thinking. nt.  IndianaJones   Feb-18-08 09:28 AM   #123 
     - I think that's because people imagine it happening TO them, out of context.  mondo joe   Feb-18-08 10:05 AM   #129 
        - are you sure public stoning isnt in order? you know the boy who cheated on you when he was 15  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 10:14 AM   #131 
           - Who the fuck would dare cheat on me?  mondo joe   Feb-18-08 10:15 AM   #132 
              - ...  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 10:15 AM   #133 
  - It's not "okay". But it happens, it can be forgiveable.  mondo joe   Feb-18-08 10:00 AM   #128 
  - "The only people who can really judge are the people involved."  redqueen   Feb-18-08 12:45 PM   #146 
  - Having been on both ends of the equation....  SacredCow   Feb-18-08 10:42 AM   #138 
  - Good, wise post. I've been told cheating doesn't ruin marriages, ruined marriages lead to cheating.  mondo joe   Feb-18-08 10:45 AM   #141 
     - I can get on board with that....  SacredCow   Feb-18-08 11:20 AM   #143 
  - I can understand it, but I don't think that makes it okay ever  NewJeffCT   Feb-18-08 12:13 PM   #144 
  - sure we can all think of circumstances where it's okay  pitohui   Feb-18-08 12:42 PM   #145 
  - Er, no.  Chovexani   Feb-18-08 12:56 PM   #148 
     - bullshit. you know your partner the best and sometimes things are unsaid between people  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 12:58 PM   #149 
     - Eh, maybe I'm bizarre.  Chovexani   Feb-18-08 01:06 PM   #152 
     - no, i wouldnt want to hear about it. what works for you doesn't for others  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 01:09 PM   #154 
        - Why are you assuming relationships have these "gray" areas?  Shell Beau   Feb-18-08 01:23 PM   #157 
     - That is you. And she should probably know that about your relationship.  Shell Beau   Feb-18-08 01:13 PM   #155 
        - yeah that is me, and this is my point. different people have different desires  lionesspriyanka   Feb-18-08 01:30 PM   #159 
           - Well if the standard of your relationship is not to cheat (which  Shell Beau   Feb-18-08 01:31 PM   #160 
     - Exactly.  Midlodemocrat   Feb-18-08 01:02 PM   #150 
     - It's not that it's just you... but everyone is not like you.  redqueen   Feb-18-08 02:57 PM   #163 
     - you discuss it first? why? to be cruel?  pitohui   Feb-18-08 03:56 PM   #164 
  - NO, it is not ok. n/t  Scout   Feb-18-08 01:03 PM   #151 
  - It is never ok. Intentionally causing someone else pain that can be helped  Shell Beau   Feb-18-08 01:07 PM   #153 
  - "I'm sorry I cheated." "Oh, that's ok."  GoddessOfGuinness   Feb-18-08 01:24 PM   #158 
  - All other things being equal...  LanternWaste   Feb-18-08 02:16 PM   #161 
  - Only if it's out of spite!  JVS   Feb-18-08 10:22 PM   #168 
  - NEVER EVER is it okay  greenbriar   Feb-18-08 10:28 PM   #169 
  - By definition, it's not okay.  Orsino   Feb-19-08 05:56 AM   #171 
  - No (nt)  LuckyTheDog   Feb-19-08 06:33 AM   #172 
  - No, no, no!  ILovePizza   Feb-19-08 06:35 AM   #173 
  - I did once...  sendero   Feb-19-08 06:43 AM   #174 
  - if you were doing it to prevent from freezing to death  CreekDog   Feb-19-08 07:00 AM   #175 
 

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