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| 10. Cheating is never ok. Period. |
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And if that's what a person wants to do, they owe it to their partner to let them know how they're feeling
and let the chips fall where they may.
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| -Is cheating on a partner ever okay? |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 02:03 PM |
#0 |
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If you have to call it cheating, then yes, it's bad. |
Rabrrrrrr |
Feb-17-08 02:04 PM |
#1 |
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this |
DS1 |
Feb-17-08 02:05 PM |
#3 |
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Agreed. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 02:09 PM |
#9 |
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Yeah, this is a little like asking if murder is always wrong |
theredpen |
Feb-17-08 03:37 PM |
#60 |
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Agreed. |
WritingIsMyReligion |
Feb-18-08 06:54 AM |
#107 |
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no, cheating is never okay |
Southpawkicker |
Feb-17-08 02:05 PM |
#2 |
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I don't think it's OK. |
AspieGrrl |
Feb-17-08 02:05 PM |
#4 |
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What she said.. |
Omphaloskepsis |
Feb-17-08 02:12 PM |
#12 |
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Hmm. I don't think it's ever "okay". |
PeaceNikki |
Feb-17-08 02:06 PM |
#5 |
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That's a great point. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 02:11 PM |
#11 |
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Ouch!! That would HURT! |
PeaceNikki |
Feb-17-08 02:17 PM |
#17 |
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YOU ARE NOT A UNIQUE AND BEAUTIFUL SNOWFLAKE! |
Tyler Durden |
Feb-17-08 05:21 PM |
#67 |
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LOL! |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 09:06 PM |
#90 |
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Forgivable, possibly... |
HypnoToad |
Feb-17-08 02:33 PM |
#23 |
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I used to think it was forgivable |
RetroLounge |
Feb-17-08 02:58 PM |
#41 |
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It's certainly not always forgivable. It's probably mostly not forgivable. |
PeaceNikki |
Feb-17-08 03:04 PM |
#49 |
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That's the thing. |
RetroLounge |
Feb-17-08 03:09 PM |
#51 |
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Forgiveness may never come |
lizziegrace |
Feb-17-08 03:38 PM |
#61 |
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It can be |
OhioBlues |
Feb-17-08 05:28 PM |
#68 |
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I just don't know... |
RetroLounge |
Feb-17-08 07:13 PM |
#74 |
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Urges and feelings do NOT need to be acted upon. |
Common Sense Party |
Feb-17-08 11:45 PM |
#97 |
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Of course, but there's a fine line between |
Chovexani |
Feb-18-08 02:46 AM |
#99 |
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big hug |
OhioBlues |
Feb-18-08 04:11 AM |
#100 |
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I *say* I've forgiven him but |
zingaro |
Feb-18-08 04:06 PM |
#165 |
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Nope. |
LeftyMom |
Feb-17-08 02:06 PM |
#6 |
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Yep. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 02:14 PM |
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That's just a perfect description of my ex. |
LeftyMom |
Feb-17-08 02:25 PM |
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Ewww |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 02:48 PM |
#31 |
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Thanks. |
LeftyMom |
Feb-17-08 02:55 PM |
#37 |
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So you replace a cheating ass with a guy who works out a lot and saves puppies. |
DarkTirade |
Feb-17-08 02:54 PM |
#36 |
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There was a non-offensive sofa lump in between. |
LeftyMom |
Feb-17-08 02:56 PM |
#40 |
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Veto rights? |
flvegan |
Feb-17-08 06:09 PM |
#71 |
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Yeah, that was when I was young and stupid. |
LeftyMom |
Feb-17-08 09:16 PM |
#91 |
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so you were once an asshole and now are no longer an asshole? |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 10:17 PM |
#167 |
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no it's not |
lost-in-nj |
Feb-17-08 02:08 PM |
#7 |
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Ever okay? |
KC2 |
Feb-17-08 02:09 PM |
#8 |
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Cheating is never ok. Period. |
hisownpetard |
Feb-17-08 02:10 PM |
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I can't say it is, but then my partner has cheated on me |
OhioBlues |
Feb-17-08 02:13 PM |
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I've been cheated on too. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 02:15 PM |
#16 |
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no. |
chimpsrsmarter |
Feb-17-08 02:14 PM |
#15 |
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I suppose if you're |
supernova |
Feb-17-08 02:22 PM |
#18 |
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ok not to get to persnickity but if someone is holding a gun to your head it's rape |
Connonym |
Feb-17-08 08:16 PM |
#81 |
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Actually it is persnickity |
supernova |
Feb-18-08 01:19 PM |
#156 |
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so you're saying if your partner was raped you'd consider it cheating? |
Connonym |
Feb-19-08 05:36 AM |
#170 |
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There is ABSOLUTELY no |
Simply Fugue |
Feb-17-08 02:23 PM |
#19 |
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end the existing relationship (completely) |
lizziegrace |
Feb-17-08 02:28 PM |
#21 |
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Anyone who does should be cheated ON... |
HypnoToad |
Feb-17-08 02:31 PM |
#22 |
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omg omg someone take a screenshot |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 02:55 PM |
#38 |
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It'd be far worse if everyone agreed with everyone else on everything. |
HypnoToad |
Feb-17-08 03:00 PM |
#44 |
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Hee! |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 03:04 PM |
#48 |
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no |
GloriaSmith |
Feb-17-08 02:35 PM |
#24 |
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Huh? |
HypnoToad |
Feb-17-08 02:41 PM |
#26 |
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of course not |
GloriaSmith |
Feb-17-08 02:45 PM |
#28 |
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that is a tough one |
unpossibles |
Feb-18-08 09:46 AM |
#125 |
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No, with a caveat. |
Withywindle |
Feb-17-08 02:41 PM |
#25 |
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I double-checked, this ain't GDP, but it's cool. |
HypnoToad |
Feb-17-08 02:45 PM |
#30 |
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Word word and also? Word. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 02:53 PM |
#34 |
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If people can be affected by others, then in any society where people care about each other, |
HypnoToad |
Feb-17-08 02:58 PM |
#42 |
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Ah, the million dollar question |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 03:10 PM |
#52 |
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That's cool. |
HypnoToad |
Feb-17-08 08:36 PM |
#84 |
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We've actually just done it. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 09:05 PM |
#89 |
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No, it's not. |
SarahBelle |
Feb-17-08 02:44 PM |
#27 |
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No. n/t |
Jamastiene |
Feb-17-08 02:45 PM |
#29 |
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Not a good day to ask. |
BarenakedLady |
Feb-17-08 02:48 PM |
#32 |
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Aww. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 02:54 PM |
#35 |
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Nah |
BarenakedLady |
Feb-17-08 03:00 PM |
#45 |
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You walk around barenaked, what do ya expect? |
FlyingSquirrel |
Feb-17-08 08:06 PM |
#78 |
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Boo! |
Inchworm |
Feb-17-08 02:55 PM |
#39 |
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Blah! |
BarenakedLady |
Feb-17-08 03:01 PM |
#46 |
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If you have to cheat on them to save the world from immanent destruction... |
DarkTirade |
Feb-17-08 02:52 PM |
#33 |
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I gave up primo J-Rocker ass for my then-BF. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 03:02 PM |
#47 |
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... I'm not into the group thing but for that I'd probably ask if I could join in. |
DarkTirade |
Feb-17-08 03:06 PM |
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I never understood the band groupie thing until I went to that show. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 03:12 PM |
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Damn... I need to get a band going. :P |
DarkTirade |
Feb-17-08 03:13 PM |
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I would have to stay away |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 03:16 PM |
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Could you? |
DarkTirade |
Feb-17-08 03:16 PM |
#57 |
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I don't know. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 03:17 PM |
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Few can. |
DarkTirade |
Feb-17-08 05:32 PM |
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keyword -partner... nope |
Inchworm |
Feb-17-08 02:59 PM |
#43 |
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No |
MATTMAN |
Feb-17-08 03:12 PM |
#53 |
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My personal belief is that its a form of cowardice and the dishonesty... |
Solon |
Feb-17-08 03:26 PM |
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It's human. It happens. |
Ellen Forradalom |
Feb-17-08 05:06 PM |
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It's not "okay," but it does happen |
Blue_In_AK |
Feb-17-08 05:11 PM |
#63 |
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Whenever I read threads like these |
GirlinContempt |
Feb-18-08 10:42 AM |
#139 |
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Thanks for the understanding. |
Blue_In_AK |
Feb-18-08 02:54 PM |
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There was a thread about this a while back and I got flamed for being judgmental |
Midlodemocrat |
Feb-17-08 05:13 PM |
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I just happen |
SOteric |
Feb-17-08 06:03 PM |
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Could you respect someone who had TWICE taken back a cheating spouse? |
PassingFair |
Feb-17-08 05:14 PM |
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one of her judgement calls I don't get nt |
JoeIsOneOfUs |
Feb-17-08 08:20 PM |
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Not my marriage. |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 08:49 PM |
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But what business is it of yours? Or anyone else's for that matter? |
zingaro |
Feb-18-08 04:22 PM |
#166 |
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No. |
NNadir |
Feb-17-08 05:15 PM |
#66 |
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no, it is sleazy and disgusting |
Skittles |
Feb-17-08 06:54 PM |
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Never. Under any circumstances. |
terrya |
Feb-17-08 06:55 PM |
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no n/t |
enigmatic |
Feb-17-08 07:20 PM |
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Cheating Is Never Ok, And Is Always The Act Of A Selfish Coward. |
OPERATIONMINDCRIME |
Feb-17-08 07:35 PM |
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No. |
adsosletter |
Feb-17-08 07:57 PM |
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Better question: if you do "fuck up" and cheat on your partner... |
MilesColtrane |
Feb-17-08 08:07 PM |
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That is an interesting question indeed. |
PeaceNikki |
Feb-17-08 08:51 PM |
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I've been both cheater and cheated on |
Chovexani |
Feb-17-08 09:16 PM |
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I respect your opinion as someone having been there; however, |
adsosletter |
Feb-17-08 11:34 PM |
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NO. Essentially, you are cheating on yourself. |
Tuesday Afternoon |
Feb-17-08 08:13 PM |
#80 |
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Hell No! |
SillyFlower |
Feb-17-08 08:20 PM |
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In my marriage - no |
Generic Brad |
Feb-17-08 08:41 PM |
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Short of Murder And Violent Assault, Cheating Is The Worst Thing You Could Ever Do In A Relationship |
Yavin4 |
Feb-17-08 08:44 PM |
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If they're allowed to watch? |
TrogL |
Feb-17-08 09:26 PM |
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No, all receipts and expenses must be on the record. |
Deep13 |
Feb-17-08 11:37 PM |
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Cheaters suck. Always. There is no excuse. |
Common Sense Party |
Feb-17-08 11:42 PM |
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PeaceNikki is a breath of fresh air. |
asteroid2003QQ47 |
Feb-18-08 01:15 AM |
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I know plenty of situations where it is "okay" |
philboy |
Feb-18-08 04:51 AM |
#101 |
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Not when children are involved |
turtlensue |
Feb-18-08 05:01 AM |
#102 |
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Then in your particular situation... |
philboy |
Feb-18-08 05:08 AM |
#103 |
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Then the father is dealing with the situation immaturely and isn't helping matters.... |
Solon |
Feb-18-08 09:25 AM |
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I have no idea if the problem would be solved by... |
philboy |
Feb-18-08 09:59 AM |
#127 |
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I was making a judgment based on the information presented... |
Solon |
Feb-18-08 10:12 AM |
#130 |
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again.... |
philboy |
Feb-18-08 10:17 AM |
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Like I said before, I'm offering judgment based on the information presented... |
Solon |
Feb-18-08 10:28 AM |
#135 |
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and i'm saying.... |
philboy |
Feb-18-08 10:29 AM |
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"And we never know the full story until we walk in the shoes..." |
KansDem |
Feb-18-08 10:42 AM |
#140 |
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no shit. |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 08:35 AM |
#111 |
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Well said. (nt) |
redqueen |
Feb-18-08 09:13 AM |
#116 |
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I guess it depends on how you're defining 'okay.' |
SOteric |
Feb-18-08 10:41 AM |
#137 |
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What a great post. |
janesez |
Feb-18-08 10:47 AM |
#142 |
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Cheating is never ok. nt |
Crabby Appleton |
Feb-18-08 05:24 AM |
#104 |
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Sure it is. It's OK if You are Republican |
Joe Bacon |
Feb-18-08 06:11 AM |
#105 |
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Hypocrites please stand. |
asteroid2003QQ47 |
Feb-18-08 06:12 AM |
#106 |
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John 8. |
Ellen Forradalom |
Feb-18-08 07:07 AM |
#108 |
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i don't do monogamy. |
xchrom |
Feb-18-08 07:33 AM |
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same here |
unpossibles |
Feb-18-08 09:56 AM |
#126 |
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yes i do. i am disappionted that you of all people dont understand that people |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 08:30 AM |
#110 |
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Maybe some of us are judgemental because we have been DAMAGED by this |
turtlensue |
Feb-18-08 08:43 AM |
#113 |
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Cheating is ultimately an act of cowardice and selfishness on the part of the cheater... |
Solon |
Feb-18-08 09:13 AM |
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Excellent post. And I feel regardless of how much |
Midlodemocrat |
Feb-18-08 12:49 PM |
#147 |
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No, it isn't |
EstimatedProphet |
Feb-18-08 08:37 AM |
#112 |
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Don't call it "cheating;" call it "Enhanced Personalizing." |
chromotone |
Feb-18-08 09:05 AM |
#114 |
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only one outcome...public stoning. nt. |
IndianaJones |
Feb-18-08 09:12 AM |
#115 |
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strongly agreed ... |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 09:17 AM |
#120 |
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its part of my strong judeo-christian traditions. no gray areas for things I deem to be evil. nt. |
IndianaJones |
Feb-18-08 09:26 AM |
#122 |
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its part of my high horse religion too |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 09:28 AM |
#124 |
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NOPE !!!!! |
Iggo |
Feb-18-08 09:15 AM |
#118 |
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Okay? That's a judgment call. Understandable? I say yes. |
redqueen |
Feb-18-08 09:15 AM |
#119 |
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amen...this subject seems to bring out some very judgmental, narrow thinking. nt. |
IndianaJones |
Feb-18-08 09:28 AM |
#123 |
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I think that's because people imagine it happening TO them, out of context. |
mondo joe |
Feb-18-08 10:05 AM |
#129 |
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are you sure public stoning isnt in order? you know the boy who cheated on you when he was 15 |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 10:14 AM |
#131 |
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Who the fuck would dare cheat on me? |
mondo joe |
Feb-18-08 10:15 AM |
#132 |
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... |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 10:15 AM |
#133 |
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It's not "okay". But it happens, it can be forgiveable. |
mondo joe |
Feb-18-08 10:00 AM |
#128 |
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"The only people who can really judge are the people involved." |
redqueen |
Feb-18-08 12:45 PM |
#146 |
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Having been on both ends of the equation.... |
SacredCow |
Feb-18-08 10:42 AM |
#138 |
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Good, wise post. I've been told cheating doesn't ruin marriages, ruined marriages lead to cheating. |
mondo joe |
Feb-18-08 10:45 AM |
#141 |
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I can get on board with that.... |
SacredCow |
Feb-18-08 11:20 AM |
#143 |
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I can understand it, but I don't think that makes it okay ever |
NewJeffCT |
Feb-18-08 12:13 PM |
#144 |
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sure we can all think of circumstances where it's okay |
pitohui |
Feb-18-08 12:42 PM |
#145 |
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Er, no. |
Chovexani |
Feb-18-08 12:56 PM |
#148 |
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bullshit. you know your partner the best and sometimes things are unsaid between people |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 12:58 PM |
#149 |
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Eh, maybe I'm bizarre. |
Chovexani |
Feb-18-08 01:06 PM |
#152 |
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no, i wouldnt want to hear about it. what works for you doesn't for others |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 01:09 PM |
#154 |
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Why are you assuming relationships have these "gray" areas? |
Shell Beau |
Feb-18-08 01:23 PM |
#157 |
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That is you. And she should probably know that about your relationship. |
Shell Beau |
Feb-18-08 01:13 PM |
#155 |
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yeah that is me, and this is my point. different people have different desires |
lionesspriyanka |
Feb-18-08 01:30 PM |
#159 |
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Well if the standard of your relationship is not to cheat (which |
Shell Beau |
Feb-18-08 01:31 PM |
#160 |
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Exactly. |
Midlodemocrat |
Feb-18-08 01:02 PM |
#150 |
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It's not that it's just you... but everyone is not like you. |
redqueen |
Feb-18-08 02:57 PM |
#163 |
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you discuss it first? why? to be cruel? |
pitohui |
Feb-18-08 03:56 PM |
#164 |
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NO, it is not ok. n/t |
Scout |
Feb-18-08 01:03 PM |
#151 |
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It is never ok. Intentionally causing someone else pain that can be helped |
Shell Beau |
Feb-18-08 01:07 PM |
#153 |
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"I'm sorry I cheated." "Oh, that's ok." |
GoddessOfGuinness |
Feb-18-08 01:24 PM |
#158 |
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All other things being equal... |
LanternWaste |
Feb-18-08 02:16 PM |
#161 |
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Only if it's out of spite! |
JVS |
Feb-18-08 10:22 PM |
#168 |
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NEVER EVER is it okay |
greenbriar |
Feb-18-08 10:28 PM |
#169 |
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By definition, it's not okay. |
Orsino |
Feb-19-08 05:56 AM |
#171 |
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No (nt) |
LuckyTheDog |
Feb-19-08 06:33 AM |
#172 |
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No, no, no! |
ILovePizza |
Feb-19-08 06:35 AM |
#173 |
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I did once... |
sendero |
Feb-19-08 06:43 AM |
#174 |
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if you were doing it to prevent from freezing to death |
CreekDog |
Feb-19-08 07:00 AM |
#175 |
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