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DarkTirade Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-10-07 08:02 AM
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2. My only question is...
what the hell took him so long to come out in the open about it? :\

I'm sorry, but that's just kinda WTF. I did that once, where I tried to give it a chance when I wasn't feeling it. It took me less than a month to realize it just wasn't going to happen, and we ended up being very good friends afterwards. And the only reason it took me that long was because I worked the night shift so we only got to hang out every now and then.
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  -Last night the guy I've been seeing for 9 months blue cat  Dec-10-07 07:58 AM   #0 
  - What are your feelings? n/t  philboy   Dec-10-07 07:59 AM   #1 
  - My only question is...  DarkTirade   Dec-10-07 08:02 AM   #2 
  - it was probably  blue cat   Dec-10-07 08:10 AM   #10 
     - Ah. That explains it.  DarkTirade   Dec-10-07 08:41 AM   #17 
  - devastated  blue cat   Dec-10-07 08:02 AM   #3 
  - It is a terrible thing to be told...  philboy   Dec-10-07 08:09 AM   #8 
  - Lack of trust/communication skills on his part, methinks. But I don't know your situation  jpgray   Dec-10-07 08:03 AM   #4 
  - yes, time to move on  blue cat   Dec-10-07 08:06 AM   #5 
     - who cares if he does change his mind in future?  pitohui   Dec-10-07 08:08 AM   #7 
     - Who gives a shit if he changes his mind?  LibraLiz1973   Dec-10-07 09:32 AM   #26 
        - my sister loved your response  blue cat   Dec-10-07 05:04 PM   #45 
           - Your sister is 100% right  LibraLiz1973   Dec-10-07 05:56 PM   #46 
  - "gee, thanks for sharing"  pitohui   Dec-10-07 08:06 AM   #6 
  - i demanded an explanation  blue cat   Dec-10-07 08:09 AM   #9 
     - I'm guessing he found some other woman he feels more chemistry for.  raccoon   Dec-10-07 08:11 AM   #12 
     - I agree. I think he was hanging around until he found some other possibility. Otherwise,  hisownpetard   Dec-10-07 02:23 PM   #41 
     - well he could have still phrased it a LOT more tactfully  pitohui   Dec-10-07 08:13 AM   #13 
     - a real man would have found a way to NOT say shit that hurt your  LibraLiz1973   Dec-10-07 09:33 AM   #27 
        - yes - absolutely  Flaxbee   Dec-10-07 11:59 AM   #34 
           - What you said made me think of this jerk I was seeing ages ago.  raccoon   Dec-11-07 07:49 AM   #52 
  - Sorry to hear about that  NewJeffCT   Dec-10-07 08:11 AM   #11 
  - Sounds like he may be being dishonest with you  Whoa_Nelly   Dec-10-07 08:13 AM   #14 
  - sure i had clues  blue cat   Dec-10-07 08:27 AM   #15 
  - Then you've learned something valuable for yourself  Whoa_Nelly   Dec-10-07 08:37 AM   #16 
  - thanks  blue cat   Dec-10-07 08:42 AM   #18 
  - Learn a lesson from this then  LibraLiz1973   Dec-10-07 09:36 AM   #28 
  - i think he liked having me around  blue cat   Dec-10-07 08:43 AM   #19 
     - Then he was disingenuous to begin with  Whoa_Nelly   Dec-10-07 09:01 AM   #20 
  - My only advice would be: learn from this.  redqueen   Dec-10-07 09:12 AM   #21 
  - no, my intuition was out to lunch  blue cat   Dec-10-07 09:14 AM   #22 
     - Well don't beat yourself up over it...  redqueen   Dec-10-07 09:16 AM   #23 
     - I think almost everyone has been there  LibraLiz1973   Dec-10-07 09:37 AM   #30 
  - dont see him again. dont waste your time which is far more valuable than anyone elses time nt  lionesspriyanka   Dec-10-07 09:17 AM   #24 
  - There is someone better out there just waiting..  sazemisery   Dec-10-07 09:24 AM   #25 
  - thanks  blue cat   Dec-10-07 09:36 AM   #29 
  - I don't understand why people have relationships they don't  ThomCat   Dec-10-07 11:15 AM   #31 
  - say "bye bye"  datasuspect   Dec-10-07 11:19 AM   #32 
  - Yeah. That's exactly what I was thinking.  zingaro   Dec-10-07 12:47 PM   #35 
     - 10 roger on that  datasuspect   Dec-10-07 01:09 PM   #38 
  - Try getting that after three years.  janesez   Dec-10-07 11:27 AM   #33 
  - My words of wisdom are these:  zingaro   Dec-10-07 12:50 PM   #36 
  - I am so sorry  Highway61   Dec-10-07 12:59 PM   #37 
  - I highly recommend this book. It's funny and encouraging and honest  PeaceNikki   Dec-10-07 01:25 PM   #39 
  - Be kind and gentle with yourself...  GoddessOfGuinness   Dec-10-07 02:03 PM   #40 
  - Ahhh the "It's not you it's me" defense  Taverner   Dec-10-07 02:24 PM   #42 
  - GoddessOfGuinness took all the good advice. But everyone's been there.  Bucky   Dec-10-07 02:26 PM   #43 
  - don't know what is wrong with me  blue cat   Dec-10-07 05:01 PM   #44 
  - It may not be that you are heartbroken  LibraLiz1973   Dec-10-07 06:03 PM   #47 
  - So you were dishonest with him too?  RetroLounge   Dec-10-07 06:04 PM   #48 
  - no  blue cat   Dec-11-07 10:35 AM   #55 
     - If he wasn't aware and you didn't tell him  RetroLounge   Dec-11-07 11:31 AM   #56 
  - So you were both dishonest with each other?  Shakespeare   Dec-11-07 07:58 AM   #53 
  - sounds like neither of you really were "feeling it"  Southpawkicker   Dec-10-07 06:33 PM   #49 
  - They say you have to kiss a dozen frogs to find a prince. Seriously - the more  applegrove   Dec-10-07 06:35 PM   #50 
  - Say a fond "farewell".  Blue-Jay   Dec-10-07 06:38 PM   #51 
  - I'm sorry  Connonym   Dec-11-07 08:05 AM   #54 

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