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Thu Sep-06-07 05:07 PM
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| 112. I haven't seen or talked to my wife in 17 months |
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and not a day goes by that I am not ready for divorce papers to arrive and that I don't miss her.
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| -My marriage is in jeopardy |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 02:57 PM |
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Oh, I'm so sorry. |
ceile |
Sep-04-07 02:59 PM |
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Thanks |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:02 PM |
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I can do a hug |
billyskank |
Sep-04-07 02:59 PM |
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Thank you Billy |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:02 PM |
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Sorry |
seemunkee |
Sep-04-07 02:59 PM |
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The more he withdraws, the angrier I get. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:03 PM |
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i am so sorry. |
fleabert |
Sep-04-07 03:00 PM |
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The insurance will cover individual counseling. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:05 PM |
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Many counselors will "work with you" on this |
kay1864 |
Sep-04-07 03:51 PM |
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Thanks for the tip...eom |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 04:58 PM |
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Oh, I'm sorry to hear this |
DeposeTheBoyKing |
Sep-04-07 03:00 PM |
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Thanks DTBK |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:06 PM |
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Did you vacation alone or together? |
cobalt1999 |
Sep-04-07 03:01 PM |
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The vacation thing was his doing... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:09 PM |
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I hope he comes out of his depression and starts |
ThomCat |
Sep-04-07 03:07 PM |
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Thank you friend... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:09 PM |
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... |
Gormy Cuss |
Sep-04-07 03:07 PM |
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Thank you .... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:10 PM |
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Heres a hug |
lost-in-nj |
Sep-04-07 03:08 PM |
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Thanks lost.... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:11 PM |
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This remark is not meant to be cruel even though it will sound like it |
China_cat |
Sep-04-07 03:15 PM |
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It does not sound cruel, and I ask myself that all the time |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:20 PM |
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Three bottles of wine a night is a LOT of alcohol |
yardwork |
Sep-04-07 03:29 PM |
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He does not think it is alot. I try to tell him that |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:33 PM |
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Al-Anon is for the partners of those with a drinking problem. |
yardwork |
Sep-04-07 03:41 PM |
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Thanks - I did not know that. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 04:59 PM |
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There are Al-Anon chapters all over the world. Membership is anonymous. |
yardwork |
Sep-05-07 03:16 PM |
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I went to al-anon for a while, it helped. Hugs to you malta blue. |
uppityperson |
Sep-05-07 07:47 PM |
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Remember that Al-Anon like all 12-step groups... |
Deep13 |
Sep-07-07 02:01 PM |
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Actually, AlAnon does NOT depend on religious faith at all |
TheDoorbellRang |
Sep-09-07 03:09 PM |
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See my post downthread., maltablue. |
TheDoorbellRang |
Sep-09-07 03:12 PM |
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Al-anon would be for YOU. Not for him. |
China_cat |
Sep-04-07 03:45 PM |
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Thanks so much.... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:00 PM |
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Hey, this guy needs help |
Zoigal |
Sep-04-07 03:50 PM |
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His best friend recently quit drinking |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:01 PM |
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Unless and until HE is ready to get some help |
China_cat |
Sep-04-07 06:54 PM |
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He needs to get his ass to counseling. |
NC_Nurse |
Sep-04-07 03:23 PM |
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He asked me for the insurance information over two |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:30 PM |
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Good luck. |
NC_Nurse |
Sep-04-07 04:03 PM |
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... |
redqueen |
Sep-04-07 03:24 PM |
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Thank you redqueen. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:31 PM |
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Sorry to say this, but it sounds as if he's not interested in keeping the |
SeattleGirl |
Sep-04-07 03:26 PM |
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He moved to NY from California when we got married and |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:34 PM |
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Maybe that is what he needs, a change of scenery for a bit. |
SeattleGirl |
Sep-04-07 03:37 PM |
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Perhaps I will suggest it. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 03:38 PM |
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Thanks, mb. |
SeattleGirl |
Sep-04-07 03:42 PM |
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*hugs* I hope it will improve |
GreenPartyVoter |
Sep-04-07 03:42 PM |
#33 |
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Thank you. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:02 PM |
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I'm sorry, malta blue |
Shine |
Sep-04-07 03:47 PM |
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thanks friend. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:02 PM |
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... |
xchrom |
Sep-04-07 03:51 PM |
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I just can't believe that I have another |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:04 PM |
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except -- you didn't do it. |
xchrom |
Sep-04-07 06:00 PM |
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You are right, and I know that. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 06:04 PM |
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you betchya -- |
xchrom |
Sep-04-07 06:20 PM |
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You sound like you see the good in people, are a kind caring person. |
uppityperson |
Sep-05-07 07:51 PM |
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My dear malta blue... |
CaliforniaPeggy |
Sep-04-07 03:52 PM |
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Thanks Peggy. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:05 PM |
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I've been there sweetie, with a depressed spouse. It's hell. |
grace0418 |
Sep-04-07 04:02 PM |
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that is one messed up therapist.... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:07 PM |
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Hug. And... |
BlueIris |
Sep-04-07 04:07 PM |
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I felt so horrible. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:09 PM |
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Um, it sounds like his problem is depression. Drinking makes that worse, by the way. |
BlueIris |
Sep-04-07 05:16 PM |
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Thank you BlueIris. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:24 PM |
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he should see a regular MD first |
Gargoyle |
Sep-04-07 04:10 PM |
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He has not been inclined to discuss it with the MD |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:11 PM |
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I'm not qualified to give advice |
MissMillie |
Sep-04-07 05:00 PM |
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MissMillie |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:11 PM |
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So sorry to hear this. |
Maestro |
Sep-04-07 05:01 PM |
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That seems so drastic, but in a way you may be right |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:12 PM |
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Does he know your marriage is in jeopardy? |
GoddessOfGuinness |
Sep-04-07 05:08 PM |
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He is open to marriage counseling, so I suppose he is aware that |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 05:14 PM |
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Keep us posted... |
GoddessOfGuinness |
Sep-04-07 05:16 PM |
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Oh, honey, I'm so sorry |
skygazer |
Sep-04-07 06:03 PM |
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Thanks friend.... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 06:04 PM |
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I'm so sorry |
GoPsUx |
Sep-04-07 06:08 PM |
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thank you ... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 06:11 PM |
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Get a book called "Getting the Love you Want" |
bluethruandthru |
Sep-04-07 06:10 PM |
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Thank you for the suggestion. |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 06:13 PM |
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This book was better than counseling. |
bluethruandthru |
Sep-04-07 06:28 PM |
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We just spoke for 2 hours and I emphasized the |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:45 PM |
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An important book about couples and depression.... |
zanne |
Sep-04-07 07:09 PM |
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Thanks Zanne... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:45 PM |
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First off |
bigwillq |
Sep-04-07 06:10 PM |
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Hey there... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 06:14 PM |
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Communication is key |
bigwillq |
Sep-04-07 06:17 PM |
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Good luck. {{malta blue}} |
WinkyDink |
Sep-05-07 07:44 PM |
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You know..well...you may not know...marriage counseling is much cheaper than divorce... |
MichiganVote |
Sep-04-07 06:23 PM |
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I have been through one divorce that cost me over 30k |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:47 PM |
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Slow down. No need to escalate. |
rug |
Sep-04-07 06:55 PM |
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I am trying. I managed to get him to talk for 2 hours tonight., |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:49 PM |
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Malta, don't worry about how it will look to your child... if you have to split up. |
Radio_Lady |
Sep-04-07 08:28 PM |
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Radio Lady |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:51 PM |
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Hi Malta. Thanks for your kind comments, on a day which has been particularly trying. |
Radio_Lady |
Sep-05-07 06:05 PM |
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Oh Radio Lady... |
malta blue |
Sep-05-07 06:37 PM |
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sorry malta blue |
Southpawkicker |
Sep-04-07 08:31 PM |
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I have learned that in this thread |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:52 PM |
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one day at a time |
Southpawkicker |
Sep-04-07 08:53 PM |
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... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:56 PM |
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I concur with everyone else here - marriage counseling helps |
HawkeyeX |
Sep-07-07 10:28 PM |
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I'm so sorry, MB. |
Left Is Write |
Sep-04-07 08:38 PM |
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LIW |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:53 PM |
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... |
Left Is Write |
Sep-04-07 08:56 PM |
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I don't have any advice to give |
KC2 |
Sep-04-07 08:45 PM |
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I need as many as I can get |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:54 PM |
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I'm really sorry |
ByTheRiver |
Sep-04-07 08:53 PM |
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Right now the lounge is my only source of sanity.... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 08:55 PM |
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I hear you... |
ByTheRiver |
Sep-04-07 08:59 PM |
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Misery loves company I suppose.... |
malta blue |
Sep-04-07 09:07 PM |
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Oh, wow! I am so sorry! |
Rhiannon12866 |
Sep-05-07 10:34 AM |
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Rhiannon - my friend....I could really use an IRL get together |
malta blue |
Sep-05-07 06:39 PM |
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I would love to see you, as well, but am not sure what my plans are yet. |
Rhiannon12866 |
Sep-07-07 01:25 PM |
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I'm sorry |
Connonym |
Sep-05-07 10:43 AM |
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Hugs are really good right now... |
malta blue |
Sep-05-07 06:40 PM |
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get out |
greymattermom |
Sep-06-07 03:08 PM |
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He has agreed to go to therapy and quit the solo drinking... |
malta blue |
Sep-06-07 04:49 PM |
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Those are huge! |
Blue in Portland |
Sep-07-07 02:22 PM |
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I am so pleased with his choices! |
malta blue |
Sep-07-07 05:11 PM |
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I haven't seen or talked to my wife in 17 months |
mduffy31 |
Sep-06-07 05:07 PM |
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I'm so sorry . . . |
Blue in Portland |
Sep-07-07 02:23 PM |
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Got a question... |
janesez |
Sep-07-07 01:27 PM |
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We vacationed separately because his boss would not |
malta blue |
Sep-07-07 05:07 PM |
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I'm so sorry to hear about this. |
crim son |
Sep-07-07 01:41 PM |
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He is depressed and will be going to a therapist on |
malta blue |
Sep-07-07 05:09 PM |
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Sorry MB, hope things get better |
48percenter |
Sep-07-07 04:02 PM |
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Ain't that the truth! |
malta blue |
Sep-07-07 05:10 PM |
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We all struggle with two competing concepts: FREEDOM and SECURITY! |
Radio_Lady |
Sep-09-07 05:42 PM |
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I feel ya. |
rbnyc |
Sep-07-07 06:07 PM |
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You can't afford to NOT get some counseling. Find a way, OK? |
Redstone |
Sep-07-07 06:11 PM |
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Hi, Malta Blue |
pink-o |
Sep-07-07 06:46 PM |
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Hug is on the way |
Pushed To The Left |
Sep-07-07 09:05 PM |
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Well...I was going to say :Just shoot Alex Trebek but... |
jeff30997 |
Sep-07-07 10:38 PM |
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I'm really sorry. |
applegrove |
Sep-09-07 01:48 PM |
#130 |
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