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Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-25-07 12:47 PM
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40. Priest made a comment at my daughter's christening about when #2 was coming
I'm still not sure if he was joking. Seriously though, do you guys think it's insulting to be asked "if" you have kids? Not when are you going to or why don't you but "Do you have kids?" is an insulting question? Certainly some people are just being nosy but part of getting acquainted with someone is finding out things like do they have kids or pets, do they like football games, do they enjoy Cohen Brothers movies. It's part of how the whole process of making friends works isn't it? I'm not saying anyone is wrong if they feel offended and I would certainly be horrified if I ever offended anyone by asking but for me it's just a way of making friendly conversation and getting to know someone. I don't define myself by being a mom but I am a mom and as such knowing that I have that in common with someone else is a starting point.
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  -I hate it when people, especially those who don't even know me, ask if or when I'm gonna have kids. SCRUBDASHRUB  Aug-24-07 08:24 PM   #0 
  - I absolutely hate that. It IS none of anyone else's business.  SeattleGirl   Aug-24-07 08:29 PM   #1 
  - The other lady was saying how "your whole life revolves around  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-24-07 08:37 PM   #4 
     - Good grief! I think kids do better when their parents have a life  SeattleGirl   Aug-24-07 08:38 PM   #6 
  - You know, the best reply is  Gormy Cuss   Aug-24-07 08:31 PM   #2 
  - I figured she was not too bright by virtue of her asking that question.  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-24-07 08:34 PM   #3 
  - Yeah, very rude...  cynatnite   Aug-24-07 08:37 PM   #5 
  - i have one child and when she was little people would always ask "When are you having another"  chimpsrsmarter   Aug-24-07 08:39 PM   #7 
  - I also said, "You know, we're the ones who would have to raise them."  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-24-07 08:44 PM   #9 
  - lol  idgiehkt   Aug-24-07 08:46 PM   #13 
  - no kidding. It amazes that people think that anyone that is married should, no must have children.  chimpsrsmarter   Aug-24-07 08:47 PM   #14 
  - Like people don't get married for, say, love and companionship!  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-24-07 08:51 PM   #18 
  - For real!  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-24-07 08:50 PM   #17 
  - My one and only child was born just in  LibDemAlways   Aug-25-07 09:13 AM   #28 
  - People still ask me why we never had kids.  graywarrior   Aug-24-07 08:43 PM   #8 
  - I wish I could; I haven't been at this company very long.  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-24-07 08:45 PM   #11 
  - My mother used to tell people that I forgot.  Gormy Cuss   Aug-24-07 09:26 PM   #21 
  - tell her you had them but you sold them on the black market  idgiehkt   Aug-24-07 08:44 PM   #10 
  - That's a good one...  cynatnite   Aug-24-07 08:48 PM   #15 
     - She might had said, "Really???"  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-24-07 08:49 PM   #16 
  - happened a lot when I was younger  Southpawkicker   Aug-24-07 08:46 PM   #12 
  - Maybe I should have said, "That reminds me to take my birth control  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-24-07 08:52 PM   #19 
  - I figured out awhile back  JulieRB   Aug-24-07 09:24 PM   #20 
  - Tears and a chin quiver!!  mycritters2   Aug-25-07 11:22 AM   #35 
  - That bothers me too  Nikia   Aug-25-07 05:54 AM   #22 
  - My husband and I were just discussing this very subject last night.  NewWaveChick1981   Aug-25-07 06:20 AM   #23 
  - a reason why I have to avoid people  stuntcat   Aug-25-07 06:33 AM   #24 
  - I wish I had a dime for every time I've been asked,  sarge43   Aug-25-07 06:44 AM   #25 
  - I have the perfect answer for that one  JulieRB   Aug-25-07 01:55 PM   #43 
     - Excellent  sarge43   Aug-25-07 03:21 PM   #47 
  - I show them my vasectomy scars when they ask that  taterguy   Aug-25-07 07:00 AM   #26 
  - "Why do you want to know? " was the answer Ann Landers used to suggest for such questions.  raccoon   Aug-25-07 09:13 AM   #27 
  - I have two boys, so now I get:  Pithlet   Aug-25-07 09:27 AM   #29 
  - Tell them.  Midlodemocrat   Aug-25-07 12:10 PM   #38 
  - How about this?  Oeditpus Rex   Aug-25-07 02:41 PM   #45 
  - I LOVE it when people ask me that. I answer, "Never, don't like 'em."  billyoc   Aug-25-07 10:17 AM   #30 
  - One of my friends said (on a different subject) that there is a lady  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-25-07 10:28 AM   #31 
  - I think questions like those are just plain rude and  QMPMom   Aug-25-07 10:31 AM   #32 
  - I became a mother very young, so I never had to deal with that question, but...  Left Is Write   Aug-25-07 10:35 AM   #33 
  - Tell them that, in Japan, 4 is an unlucky number. Families don't have 4 kids.*  GOPisEvil   Aug-25-07 02:28 PM   #44 
  - I would love to have had children,  mycritters2   Aug-25-07 11:21 AM   #34 
  - Seems an intractible part of human nature  treestar   Aug-25-07 11:25 AM   #36 
  - THere's a lady at my company who is very rude to those who can't have kids.  YellowRubberDuckie   Aug-25-07 12:05 PM   #37 
  - My response would be...  av8rdave   Aug-25-07 12:22 PM   #39 
  - Priest made a comment at my daughter's christening about when #2 was coming  Connonym   Aug-25-07 12:47 PM   #40 
  - No, I don't think being asked IF I have kids is insulting.  azmouse   Aug-25-07 03:51 PM   #48 
     - Part of the issue is that there is the assumption by some  SCRUBDASHRUB   Aug-25-07 05:23 PM   #51 
  - My daughter's response is  skygazer   Aug-25-07 12:48 PM   #41 
  - This makes me want to carry a speculum around in my purse  lwfern   Aug-25-07 01:18 PM   #42 
  - ...  Oeditpus Rex   Aug-25-07 02:49 PM   #46 
  - Well, ARE YA?!  WinkyDink   Aug-25-07 05:12 PM   #49 
  - Some people just don't have a lot of tact...  MsKandice01   Aug-25-07 05:16 PM   #50 
  - "I can't. I hate them." - Jane Curtin  REP   Aug-25-07 06:38 PM   #52 
  - Tell you had a baby but Hillary ate it  The Straight Story   Aug-25-07 06:53 PM   #53 
  - Damn. I just don't get that.  Ellen Forradalom   Aug-25-07 09:38 PM   #54 
  - They're not listening to you, they are just waiting for their chance to talk.  twenty4blackbirds   Aug-26-07 04:39 AM   #55 
  - The best reply is silence  GoddessOfGuinness   Aug-26-07 05:13 AM   #56 
 

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