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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-28-07 01:56 PM
Response to Reply #142
145. there are personal attacks and then there is criticism.
you should be able to handle criticism if you want public opinions on your private life
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  -This week, I have been wounded by the oldest of three toxic stepchildren... Radio_Lady  Jul-25-07 12:17 AM   #0 
  - Did you refer to them as the "three toxic stepchildren" before the oldest wounded you?  ruiner4u   Jul-25-07 12:25 AM   #1 
  - Actually, I just made that up tonight, believe it or not. I don't like the term at all.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 12:32 AM   #2 
     - then i take it back..  ruiner4u   Jul-25-07 12:35 AM   #3 
     - No worries. This story started many years ago and there are no happy endings.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 12:45 AM   #5 
        - The eldest seems like a manipulator of the highest order.......  Darth_Kitten   Jul-25-07 09:12 AM   #30 
           - I am really beyond name-calling at this point. He is 3,000 miles away and can't get to me anymore.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 09:52 AM   #32 
              - Motherless Daughters  Der Blaue Engel   Jul-25-07 05:51 PM   #51 
              - Der Blaue Engel, I am truly sorry for your self-described emotional damage, causing you to feel you  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 07:20 AM   #54 
                 - DBE, have you ever seen this website? I contributed to it several years ago on behalf of  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 07:26 AM   #55 
                 - I wouldn't say emotional damage, exactly  Der Blaue Engel   Jul-26-07 07:22 PM   #70 
                    - Your mother was beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss.  Radio_Lady   Jul-27-07 05:57 AM   #75 
                       - Why, yes, that is Jergen's lotion  Der Blaue Engel   Jul-27-07 03:15 PM   #79 
                          - Had the female fetus lived, it would have been institutionalized. I was awake at the delivery.  Radio_Lady   Jul-27-07 09:35 PM   #80 
              - I am so sorry for all the pain you've had to go through.....  Darth_Kitten   Jul-26-07 01:59 PM   #66 
                 - You said, "You can't do anymore than what you have already done."  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 07:57 AM   #84 
     - I'm not sure I like the way you say "Even the Native American.."  KC2   Jul-28-07 03:16 PM   #192 
  - Who got to eat the egg salad sandwich?  swag   Jul-25-07 12:44 AM   #4 
  - OK. Very funny. I probably made it myself. I make a helluva good egg salad sandwich, BTW.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 12:51 AM   #7 
     - Nicely done. Post the recipe, post haste, por favor.  swag   Jul-25-07 12:54 AM   #9 
        - The secret is French's mustard (not a lot) along with Miracle Whip, celery, and boiled eggs.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 01:02 AM   #11 
           - Sounds great.  zanne   Jul-25-07 08:25 AM   #27 
              - UPDATE: I'm making your recipe, Zanne, for lunch today! For sure!  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 07:32 AM   #56 
  - All you could do is what you've done.  crim son   Jul-25-07 12:50 AM   #6 
  - You said it all. "It's very hard to compete with the idolized dead."  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 12:52 AM   #8 
     - I've been a witness to the worst assholes becoming saints  crim son   Jul-25-07 12:59 AM   #10 
        - Thanks, Crim son. There was many a night when I went outside and screamed to the heavens,  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 01:04 AM   #12 
           - She didn't get the chance.  crim son   Jul-25-07 01:08 AM   #13 
              - Here's a photo from the early 1970s -- it was Mother's Day -- when things still seemed possible.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 01:12 AM   #15 
                 - That's a good-looking group. How disheartening.  crim son   Jul-25-07 01:15 AM   #16 
                    - A woman I worked with in sales "kept company" with a man she really loved.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 01:21 AM   #19 
                       - I wonder if they're my neighbors.  crim son   Jul-25-07 01:34 AM   #20 
                          - Crim Son, it's a decision I wish I had to make again... knowing now what I didn't know then.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:18 PM   #110 
  - It's a good thing step-parents aren't in it for the gratitude, huh?  Heidi   Jul-25-07 01:11 AM   #14 
  - One of the things I always told anyone who would listen is, "I am forever indebted to my stepkids."  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 01:18 AM   #17 
     - .  Heidi   Jul-25-07 01:21 AM   #18 
     - How nice. I am trying not to envy you, but it isn't my destiny to have a good ending to this.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 01:46 AM   #21 
        - It sounds like  JoDog   Jul-25-07 09:18 AM   #31 
           - All emails over the past several months at least have gone from my husband, not me.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 10:12 AM   #33 
              - UPDATE: My stepson had two good telephone exchanges with his father this week.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:15 PM   #106 
              - Can you imagine what it must have felt like  LibraLiz1973   Jul-28-07 02:13 PM   #157 
              - Your husband has shown time and again that you mean more to him  LibraLiz1973   Jul-28-07 02:14 PM   #160 
     - Your family made decisions  OzarkDem   Jul-27-07 09:12 AM   #77 
        - Maybe it would be better to leave them alone  OzarkDem   Jul-27-07 09:19 AM   #78 
        - Ozark Dem, you are making assumptions that are incorrect. This boy was not visibly grieving.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 08:07 AM   #85 
  - Haven't you mentioned in the past  MonkeyFunk   Jul-25-07 01:51 AM   #22 
  - Right. They buried the knife in my back about that, for sure.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 02:04 AM   #23 
     - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-25-07 02:18 AM   #25 
     - It's interesting about the nudity. I am 56 yrs old, and my parents  Nay   Jul-28-07 11:47 AM   #89 
        - I'm not stumping for nudity anymore. Nobody wants to see me nude!  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:22 PM   #111 
  - You are the "step" and so easier  CC   Jul-25-07 02:12 AM   #24 
  - CC, on Wednesday, my husband composed an email and sent it to his son.  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 08:10 AM   #60 
     - Good for your husband.  CC   Jul-26-07 01:15 PM   #64 
        - Hi CC. Thanks for your comments, noticed this evening.  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 08:52 PM   #71 
           - I would hope Camilla  CC   Jul-26-07 11:06 PM   #73 
  - I'd be willing to bet that  dropkickpa   Jul-25-07 08:13 AM   #26 
  - I have a ready answer for the "someday" part... I'm not holding my breath.  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 08:14 AM   #61 
  - I feel your pain--had a similar experience with a BLOOD niece.  raccoon   Jul-25-07 08:43 AM   #28 
  - Wow! My stepkids and others I know got along with aunts BETTER than parents!  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 08:21 AM   #62 
  - I am intrigued........  Darth_Kitten   Jul-25-07 09:06 AM   #29 
  - This man is diagnosed with manic depression and has been quite ill.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 11:28 AM   #36 
  - As someone who was in the child's situation  skygazer   Jul-25-07 10:16 AM   #34 
  - Thank you, Skygazer, for your thoughtful comments. Very touching history. I feel a kindred spirit.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 11:09 AM   #35 
  - Wonderful input. Thank you for adding this. nt  antfarm   Jul-25-07 12:20 PM   #37 
  - My heart goes out to you  antfarm   Jul-25-07 12:23 PM   #38 
  - If wishing could make it so... but I am past that point. All we get back is hurt.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 04:27 PM   #43 
     - UPDATE: We've gotten to a better place, folks. Thanks for your comments and some inspiration to  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:30 PM   #119 
  - Can I ask why the Catholic friends were not allowed in your house?  Midlodemocrat   Jul-25-07 12:25 PM   #39 
  - Damned papists, with their idolatry and their voodoo!  asthmaticeog   Jul-25-07 02:22 PM   #41 
     - LOL.  Midlodemocrat   Jul-25-07 02:27 PM   #42 
        - Hi, Midlodemocrat. The short answer is that we were "living in sin" from Sept. 1972 to Feb. 1973.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 04:51 PM   #46 
  - You mentioned before that you pursued your second husband  Sock Puppet   Jul-25-07 01:39 PM   #40 
  - That link is to a locked thread in which the ugly participation of several DUers caused the lock.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 04:59 PM   #47 
  - I'm sorry.  missb   Jul-25-07 04:36 PM   #44 
  - Hey, can I adopt you??? MissB, the forgiveness helps YOU more than it helps anybody else.  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 05:15 PM   #49 
  - Since he's an alcoholic and a drug user, I would assume everything he says is a lie.  Rabrrrrrr   Jul-25-07 04:40 PM   #45 
  - Rabrrrr, I really loved this guy, an intelligent, organized, friendly boy who was no trouble  Radio_Lady   Jul-25-07 05:13 PM   #48 
     - It's always amazing to look at kids and the parents  truedelphi   Jul-25-07 05:28 PM   #50 
        - Thank you, TrueDelphi. Where did I get the energy? I don't know. It was VERY busy, but I did have  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 07:37 AM   #57 
           - Often a picture does say as much as a thousand words  truedelphi   Jul-26-07 09:37 AM   #63 
              - Sometimes we laugh through our tears. On balance, life has treated us well, so far.  Radio_Lady   Jul-27-07 05:13 AM   #74 
  - You are in my prayers...  LanternWaste   Jul-25-07 06:12 PM   #52 
  - You are so kind, LanternWaste. I do appreciate your comments very much.  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 08:01 AM   #58 
  - i think --  wildhorses   Jul-25-07 06:18 PM   #53 
  - Hey, Wildhorses! You rock, too! Thanks for all the hugs and for being my DU friend!  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 08:03 AM   #59 
  - There has to be more to this story.  philosophie_en_rose   Jul-26-07 01:35 PM   #65 
  - Could it be that there doesn't have to be a "reason"?  Darth_Kitten   Jul-26-07 02:22 PM   #67 
  - Hi Darth_Kitten, I'm sorry for the pain in your life from someone else.  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 03:56 PM   #69 
     - Your intentions are good and honourable.......  Darth_Kitten   Jul-26-07 10:50 PM   #72 
        - Thank you, Darth Kitten. I wanted to recognize your post prior to my request to the moderators.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 11:30 AM   #88 
  - More to this story: Yes, Philosophie_en_rose, there is much more.  Radio_Lady   Jul-26-07 03:46 PM   #68 
  - I'm missing the continuation... where is it?  MissMillie   Jul-27-07 07:38 AM   #76 
  - Hi Miss Millie... sorry about that. I'll craft a continuation now! Thanks for your patience.  Radio_Lady   Jul-27-07 09:52 PM   #81 
     - you should encourage your husband see his children, stop competing with them.  bettyellen   Jul-27-07 10:31 PM   #82 
        - I don't make decisions for my husband, Betty Ellen. He decided long ago that his two daughters  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 12:05 AM   #83 
        - Your post is filled with resentment for these kids. You see it as their side and your side...  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 08:41 AM   #86 
           - Betty Ellen, your condemnation of me is very odd. You do not know me or the situation, yet you  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 11:20 AM   #87 
              - Your reaction to people who disagree with you....  greatauntoftriplets   Jul-28-07 12:03 PM   #90 
                 - Another personal pile on. I am truly astounded by this ugliness.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 12:15 PM   #91 
                 - you seem astounded really really easily- not getting monthly haircuts!! having teens ignore you!!  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 12:44 PM   #93 
                 - Radio_Lady, this thread was bound to go down in flames.  Gormy Cuss   Jul-28-07 12:52 PM   #94 
                    - well the honest responses are met with threatening PMs ... i can imagine the discipline problems  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 01:01 PM   #95 
                    - Those should be forwarded to the admins ASAP. n/t  Shakespeare   Jul-28-07 01:05 PM   #96 
                    - The original poster has requested a lock. I've had enough of this.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:06 PM   #97 
                    - That has nothing to do with my suggestion.  Shakespeare   Jul-28-07 01:08 PM   #99 
                       - Another country heard from. Where HAVE you been, Shakespeare?  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:10 PM   #102 
                          - Not at all.  Shakespeare   Jul-28-07 01:11 PM   #103 
                             - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-28-07 01:13 PM   #105 
                    - i did forward the first to the admins and blockwed whatever other bile was coming my way...  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 01:16 PM   #107 
                       - It's a pattern of behavior. n/t  Shakespeare   Jul-28-07 01:23 PM   #113 
                       - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-28-07 01:29 PM   #118 
                          - Nice personal attack.  Shakespeare   Jul-28-07 01:33 PM   #122 
                          - I got called a vulture!! And an "unregulated DUer" - did they hand over DU to this  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 01:34 PM   #124 
                          - Take your out of focus blue cat and blow away. Too bad for you!  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:37 PM   #126 
                             - Hey! Leave the cats out of this!  rug   Jul-28-07 01:38 PM   #127 
                                - LOL. I'm afraid to tell you I'm a dog lover who is allergic to cats.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:42 PM   #130 
                          - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-28-07 01:35 PM   #125 
                          - Shakespeare is cool  ForrestGump   Jul-28-07 01:46 PM   #134 
                             - Radio Lady is not impressed with Shakespeare's cool.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:49 PM   # 
                                - ForrestGump is not impressed with  ForrestGump   Jul-28-07 01:52 PM   #140 
                                   - "Life is like a box of chocolates...." I speak in the first person in almost all posts,  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:55 PM   #143 
                                   - if you were following along, i was talking to someone else. about the apparent dislike  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 02:08 PM   #155 
                                   - LOl!  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 02:04 PM   #154 
                       - Betty Ellen, you've been exposed for what you are.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:28 PM   #115 
                          - "You got what you deserve. " Um...err...thanks for all the PMs.  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 01:32 PM   #120 
                             - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-28-07 01:33 PM   #123 
                    - No threats here. Just an understanding of the potshots that are being taken by  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:07 PM   #98 
                    - You posted with assumptions based on what you imagined was the undercurrent.  Gormy Cuss   Jul-28-07 01:28 PM   #117 
                       - Go Gormy. Wish you were moderating today!  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:32 PM   #121 
                       - actuallly I tried to get her to see her part in the negative escalation and step away  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 02:51 PM   #184 
                    - Hi Gormy Cuss. Please check your PM.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:08 PM   #100 
                       - Please note. The original poster has requested this thread be locked.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:09 PM   #101 
                          - Stop bumping this thread up to the top if you want it to go away.  Omphaloskepsis   Jul-28-07 01:46 PM   #133 
                             - Great poem. Who wrote it?  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:51 PM   #139 
                 - thank you- it's not hard to read between the lines.  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 12:36 PM   #92 
                    - ???  Darth_Kitten   Jul-28-07 01:24 PM   #114 
                       - I'm not sure  LibraLiz1973   Jul-28-07 01:40 PM   #128 
                       - Wow... now there's an idea! I'm tied to my story being right. NOT!  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:47 PM   #135 
                       - she maintains these kids are angry with them - but they never say why they are angry- has no idea  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 01:43 PM   #132 
                          - You are getting some payoff from talking around me. "She" is me.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:53 PM   #141 
                          - They need to grow up.  Darth_Kitten   Jul-28-07 02:27 PM   #170 
        - What is she NOT doing?  Darth_Kitten   Jul-28-07 01:17 PM   #109 
           - the kids should never see Dad because step Mom doesn't feel loved enough?  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 01:28 PM   #116 
           - Why would you, Betty Ellen, want to project all of this on a stranger?  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:41 PM   #129 
           - you got your back up and called me names. shame you can;t control your temper  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 01:49 PM   #136 
           - RL, you put it out there  LibraLiz1973   Jul-28-07 01:49 PM   #138 
              - Well, Liberal Liz, now you're talking. Both sides WERE at fault.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 02:01 PM   #149 
           - Dad does what he damn well pleases........  Darth_Kitten   Jul-28-07 02:14 PM   #159 
           - Please note that RL is the one that uses the STEPS constantly  LibraLiz1973   Jul-28-07 01:43 PM   #131 
              - she can't say a single nice thing about them- yet there's nothing really horrible in their  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 01:55 PM   #144 
                 - Stop talking around me. I thought you went away.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 02:04 PM   #153 
                    - you thought i left because you ordered me gone? you undestand that this is DUs thread and not yours  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 02:12 PM   #156 
  - Moderators, please see your alerts by the OP on this thread.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:11 PM   #104 
  - UPDATE: Thanks for all the positive comments received on this thread.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 01:17 PM   #108 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-28-07 01:22 PM   #112 
     - Boy, am I glad YOU'RE not part of my family. Do you give orders like this to everyone?  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 02:13 PM   #158 
  - discussion boards are for opinions.  WindRavenX   Jul-28-07 01:49 PM   #137 
  - Dude... but the lounge rules are there so that folks can post their personal thoughts safely.  Writer   Jul-28-07 01:54 PM   #142 
     - there are personal attacks and then there is criticism.  lionesspriyanka   Jul-28-07 01:56 PM   #145 
     - and handle it without attacking the other person. i honestly tried to encourage her  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 01:59 PM   #147 
     - ..  lionesspriyanka   Jul-28-07 02:02 PM   #150 
     - i have to admit i kinda like being an "unregulated vulture"  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 02:18 PM   #162 
     - Don't forget the phone calls...  fudge stripe cookays   Jul-28-07 02:32 PM   #174 
        - Did you really get phone calls at 1 am???  FuzzySlippers   Jul-28-07 02:40 PM   #180 
           - Yes.  fudge stripe cookays   Jul-28-07 02:48 PM   #183 
              - Ummm...  FuzzySlippers   Jul-28-07 02:53 PM   #186 
              - And that's what I'd like everyone to see.  fudge stripe cookays   Jul-28-07 03:17 PM   #194 
              - OMG!! she offered to give me her step daughters' #'s!! ! it's an unhinged pattern of behaviour- and  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 02:56 PM   #187 
                 - I'm sure her stepdaughters LOVE getting calls from complete strangers  fudge stripe cookays   Jul-28-07 03:03 PM   #189 
                    - she's projecting that i'm the kinda narcissistic freak who's down with harrassment  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 03:09 PM   #190 
     - See post #161...  Writer   Jul-28-07 02:21 PM   #163 
        - See post #183.  fudge stripe cookays   Jul-28-07 02:52 PM   #185 
           - See post #195.  Writer   Jul-28-07 03:19 PM   #196 
     - Well, yeah. But I guess we're in disagreement in what attacks are.  WindRavenX   Jul-28-07 01:57 PM   #146 
     - See post #161... (pant)  Writer   Jul-28-07 02:21 PM   #164 
     - I didn't see a single personal attack, just some questioning and criticism.  Shakespeare   Jul-28-07 02:00 PM   #148 
     - i saw attacks- you were called names by the OP .... and so was I, but in a PM  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 02:03 PM   #152 
     - See post #161... (pant pant)  Writer   Jul-28-07 02:22 PM   #165 
        - Oh, I don't disagree.  Shakespeare   Jul-28-07 02:25 PM   #167 
           - I know... I know... I can SEE all of this.  Writer   Jul-28-07 02:32 PM   #173 
     - It isn't personal attacks- it is mostly opinions  LibraLiz1973   Jul-28-07 02:02 PM   #151 
        - Okay... how do I answer four people at once? :P  Writer   Jul-28-07 02:16 PM   #161 
           - Well, I will weigh in to say  skygazer   Jul-28-07 02:23 PM   #166 
           - I'm speaking generally, not necessarily about this OP...  Writer   Jul-28-07 02:27 PM   #169 
              - Gotcha  skygazer   Jul-28-07 02:32 PM   #176 
           - the OP is the only one who indulged in personal attacks and name calling...  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 02:29 PM   #171 
           - See post #...  Writer   Jul-28-07 02:36 PM   #178 
           - Betty Ellen, I hope you've enjoyed your afternoon.  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 03:14 PM   #191 
           - Writer, no one is attacking her. Merely pointing out  LibraLiz1973   Jul-28-07 02:30 PM   #172 
              - I CAN FUCKING SEE THAT AHHHHH!  Writer   Jul-28-07 02:35 PM   #177 
                 - Get your freak on  LibraLiz1973   Jul-28-07 02:39 PM   #179 
                 - you know when people will screw with you?  bettyellen   Jul-28-07 02:44 PM   #182 
  - Seems to me this is something best left to family and a *counselor*  Ariana Celeste   Jul-28-07 02:26 PM   #168 
  - I wasn't going to weigh in here, and you guys can take my opinion  Midlodemocrat   Jul-28-07 02:32 PM   #175 
  - And it is important to let the kid decide the nomenclature.  Omphaloskepsis   Jul-28-07 02:41 PM   #181 
  - True.  Darth_Kitten   Jul-28-07 02:56 PM   #188 
  - Hey, everybody. Just a little note to let you know I'm going swimming with my granddaughter!  Radio_Lady   Jul-28-07 03:16 PM   #193 
  - From the Three Word Thread:  Writer   Jul-28-07 03:18 PM   #195 
  - Locking.  Fenris   Jul-28-07 03:26 PM   #197 
 

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