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61. So six years ago my brother-in-law married the Succubus...
I mean, she's a raving bitch. But she's relatively nicer to him because (as we've figured) he's a "lifestyle" ticket. My brother in law is an arrogant person, so any mention to him before the wedding and after (my in laws have not held back) about his choice only emboldened him more to marry her and stick with her, although he definitely deals with her bitchiness from time to time.

My advice: Stay out.
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  -If a friend of yours is going to get married really soon, would you be honest with her? lionesspriyanka  Apr-28-07 08:57 PM   #0 
  - No, I would not.  Nicole   Apr-28-07 09:00 PM   #1 
  - i told my best friend she was being stupid. i was right. but we are still friends.  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:01 PM   #2 
     - Well we were younger then.  Nicole   Apr-28-07 09:07 PM   #6 
        - ahh i see. thats kinda funny.  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:08 PM   #7 
  - Honesty and friendship go hand in hand, regardless.  flvegan   Apr-28-07 09:02 PM   #3 
  - thanks. i think i will. as i said, we arent very close, if we were i would not hesitiate  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:03 PM   #4 
  - someone needs to break the tie.  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:06 PM   #5 
  - I'm staying out of my cousin's upcoming wedding  lizerdbits   Apr-28-07 09:10 PM   #8 
  - both, person she is marrying is a jerk, called her a whore,  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:18 PM   #10 
     - Seems likely to escalate into physical abuse  lizerdbits   Apr-28-07 09:22 PM   #13 
     - The mention of isolating her set off warning bells.  CBHagman   Apr-29-07 09:53 AM   #40 
  - after it was all said and done  dembotoz   Apr-28-07 09:13 PM   #9 
  - well i hinted that this might not maybe be the best time for a wedding  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:19 PM   #11 
     - I was going to tell you not to say anything until I read this...  grace0418   Apr-28-07 11:48 PM   #31 
  - Nope  Generic Brad   Apr-28-07 09:22 PM   #12 
  - nope, far as i know he has not cheated on her. doesnt really seem the type.  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:23 PM   #15 
  - if you aren't that close then why do you think it's a mistake?  chimpsrsmarter   Apr-28-07 09:23 PM   #14 
  - well because she talks about it a lot, this is some i see atleast 4 times a week.  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:25 PM   #16 
     - well thats not cool of him and she shouldn't let herself be treated like that, i understand  chimpsrsmarter   Apr-28-07 09:31 PM   #19 
  - No. It would make any difference in the outcome anyway.  Lil Missy   Apr-28-07 09:26 PM   #17 
  - its not really presumptious. i hear about their lives everyday.  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:27 PM   #18 
  - I wouldn't say anything. No way.  Blue-Jay   Apr-28-07 09:35 PM   #20 
  - excellent point. i had never thought of it this way..  lionesspriyanka   Apr-28-07 09:37 PM   #21 
     - I know that you want to do the best for your friend.  Blue-Jay   Apr-28-07 09:56 PM   #23 
  - Be there for her.  jobycom   Apr-28-07 09:46 PM   #22 
  - After my divorce, SOOOO many people  mycritters2   Apr-28-07 09:59 PM   #24 
  - If you were in "LOVE", you probably wouldn't have listened to them anyway.  Blue-Jay   Apr-28-07 10:01 PM   #25 
     - Maybe. BUt it was frustrating to hear their "I saw that coming"s after the fact. nt  mycritters2   Apr-28-07 10:09 PM   #26 
        - Sure it was frustrating.  Blue-Jay   Apr-28-07 10:15 PM   #27 
           - Look, I hate it when you're right!!  mycritters2   Apr-28-07 10:18 PM   #28 
  - Only if (1) she asked unprompted for my advice and (2) indicated she did ...  struggle4progress   Apr-28-07 10:18 PM   #29 
  - In this situation right now  dropkickpa   Apr-28-07 11:22 PM   #30 
  - I wish someone had talked some sense into my  LibDemAlways   Apr-29-07 01:12 AM   #32 
  - what has left you with the impression they are making a mistake...  bridgit   Apr-29-07 01:16 AM   #33 
  - I dont think your future spouse calling you a whore and alienating you from you friends and relative  lionesspriyanka   Apr-29-07 08:12 AM   #35 
     - in american culture, and perhaps in some neighborhoods even sadder still...  bridgit   Apr-29-07 10:17 AM   #41 
     - I see.  philosophie_en_rose   Apr-30-07 07:18 AM   #65 
  - nope, I would not  Skittles   Apr-29-07 02:01 AM   #34 
  - I would not dare do that.  billyskank   Apr-29-07 08:13 AM   #36 
  - No way. Even in many years from now, if you are still friends I'd keep my mouth shut.  gbate   Apr-29-07 09:26 AM   #37 
  - No -- you might be wrong.  SmokingJacket   Apr-29-07 09:27 AM   #38 
  - depends... if she's being abused, then yes. Otherwise no.  electron_blue   Apr-29-07 09:46 AM   #39 
  - i had a close friend i regretted saying nothing to, many years and a divorce later she wishes  bettyellen   Apr-29-07 10:51 AM   #42 
  - I certainly wouldn't word it like that  skygazer   Apr-29-07 11:14 AM   #43 
  - I wouldn't say anything  bigwillq   Apr-29-07 11:19 AM   #44 
  - I think you should seriously consider it  Book Lover   Apr-29-07 11:50 AM   #45 
  - Reverse the roles  salin   Apr-29-07 12:24 PM   #46 
  - I turned down the invite for my best guy-pal's wedding after...  ThinkBlue1966   Apr-29-07 12:43 PM   #47 
  - why do you think that her marriage is a mistake?  QuestionAll   Apr-29-07 02:36 PM   #48 
  - her fiance called her a whore, she has no close friends left etc  lionesspriyanka   Apr-29-07 08:22 PM   #58 
  - Absolutely not  JulieRB   Apr-29-07 02:38 PM   #49 
  - I Agree with Julie. No Way. and how presumptuous anyway .  GalleryGod   Apr-29-07 05:33 PM   #55 
  - I think I would say something --but do it carefully.  davsand   Apr-29-07 02:56 PM   #50 
  - People  militaryspouse   Apr-29-07 03:12 PM   #51 
  - No way.  JVS   Apr-29-07 03:53 PM   #52 
  - No how...even if I had known her from birth...even if she was  MrsGrumpy   Apr-29-07 05:02 PM   #53 
  - i firmly disagree with you on this one. if she were my friend from birth i would tell her.,  lionesspriyanka   Apr-29-07 07:47 PM   #56 
     - You did not say anything about abuse in the original post. If I knew  MrsGrumpy   Apr-29-07 09:09 PM   #59 
        - i was just giving examples under which i would tell a friend that their choices are stupid/unhealthy  lionesspriyanka   Apr-29-07 10:05 PM   #60 
           - And I was answering. As you stated it in your OP, I wouldn't get involved  MrsGrumpy   Apr-30-07 05:00 AM   #63 
  - It depends on your reasons.  philosophie_en_rose   Apr-29-07 05:29 PM   #54 
  - its the latter.  lionesspriyanka   Apr-29-07 07:48 PM   #57 
  - So six years ago my brother-in-law married the Succubus...  Writer   Apr-29-07 10:16 PM   #61 
  - Do her a favor and tell her. Since she is a relatively new friend, it won't hurt that much if she  Blue State Native   Apr-29-07 10:22 PM   #62 
  - It sounds as though she's already discussing the matter....  Bridget Burke   Apr-30-07 07:03 AM   #64 
  - ALL you can do is say...  zanne   Apr-30-07 07:27 AM   #66 

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