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Wed Apr-18-07 10:23 AM Response to Original message |
| 13. I did but didn't really want to |
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I was young when I got married the first time and not assertive enough to put forth my desires (my husband wouldn't have cared at all - it was just me being shy).
Then when I got married the second time, it seemed ridiculous to keep first husband's name so I took second's. When we divorced, I went back to my maiden name which I've always considered my real name. And my current SO tells me that if we ever get married, he wants to take my name (I'd just as soon we each kept our own).  |
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| -Straight women Du'ers, did you change your name when you got married? | raccoon | Apr-18-07 09:23 AM | #0 |
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Yes, I did. |
Left Is Write | Apr-18-07 09:23 AM | #1 |
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Me too. I hyphenated for a while (my maiden name is pretty long) |
blondeatlast | Apr-18-07 02:06 PM | #35 |
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I considered keeping my birth name as a middle name, but I didn't want to |
Left Is Write | Apr-18-07 03:04 PM | #41 |
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yep. |
Maine-ah | Apr-18-07 09:24 AM | #2 |
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the first two marriages, NO |
AZDemDist6 | Apr-18-07 09:54 AM | #3 |
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Eventually. |
missb | Apr-18-07 09:57 AM | #4 |
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Nope |
sleebarker | Apr-18-07 09:59 AM | #5 |
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I did |
lizziegrace | Apr-18-07 10:02 AM | #6 |
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Sorry to butt in... |
genie_weenie | Apr-18-07 10:03 AM | #7 |
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I have too, for the same reason, and also because it's just a |
raccoon | Apr-18-07 10:11 AM | #9 |
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I always wondered why |
genie_weenie | Apr-18-07 10:15 AM | #11 |
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I went to court and legally changed my last name. I've never... |
I Have A Dream | Apr-19-07 11:36 AM | #73 |
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I took my husband's family name. |
azmouse | Apr-18-07 10:04 AM | #8 |
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My wife is Chinese, and Chinese women usually don't change their names |
NewJeffCT | Apr-18-07 10:13 AM | #10 |
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No. At the suggestion of my dad. He was cool. |
Beausoir | Apr-18-07 10:17 AM | #12 |
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I did but didn't really want to |
skygazer | Apr-18-07 10:23 AM | #13 |
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I did, but only becuase I hated my maiden name. |
LaraMN | Apr-18-07 10:26 AM | #14 |
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See, I'm not attached to mine... |
bicentennial_baby | Apr-18-07 12:12 PM | #21 |
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My sister and I were the last in our family to get the name, |
LaraMN | Apr-18-07 12:14 PM | #22 |
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Yeah, I have a little brother, who I assume |
bicentennial_baby | Apr-18-07 12:15 PM | #23 |
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Kept my name. |
Dora | Apr-18-07 12:03 PM | #15 |
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I added Mr. kt's name, and kept my maiden name as a middle name. |
Kerrytravelers | Apr-18-07 12:07 PM | #16 |
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Yes |
Mad_Dem_X | Apr-18-07 12:08 PM | #17 |
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I did under duress, and I regret it. |
NewWaveChick1981 | Apr-18-07 12:10 PM | #18 |
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My mother-in-law just refuses to acknowledge that I didn't change it. She sends |
grace0418 | Apr-18-07 04:20 PM | #47 |
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My mother did this. I finally told her that if she continued to do this... |
I Have A Dream | Apr-19-07 11:46 AM | #76 |
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I'm Bi, but I am getting married |
bicentennial_baby | Apr-18-07 12:10 PM | #19 |
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Yay!! for you :)) |
Karenca | Apr-18-07 06:10 PM | #57 |
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thank you!! |
bicentennial_baby | Apr-18-07 06:25 PM | #61 |
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Back at you :)) |
Karenca | Apr-18-07 06:31 PM | #64 |
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Yep, but wish I hadn't |
sybylla | Apr-18-07 12:11 PM | #20 |
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I understand your feelings, but.... |
Left Is Write | Apr-19-07 10:53 AM | #70 |
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Name Change |
Polly Hennessey | Apr-18-07 12:16 PM | #24 |
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I kept my name and added my husband's |
JulieRB | Apr-18-07 12:25 PM | #25 |
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Yes and I don't regret it |
MorningGlow | Apr-18-07 12:27 PM | #26 |
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i did and seeing as how my maiden named rhymed with a body part down south |
chimpsrsmarter | Apr-18-07 12:28 PM | #27 |
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Your maiden name is Dolores? |
Bunny | Apr-18-07 06:04 PM | #56 |
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no!!!!!! |
chimpsrsmarter | Apr-18-07 06:23 PM | #59 |
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First marriage: no. Second marriage: yes and I regretted it. I'm going to change my name back.n/t |
CottonBear | Apr-18-07 12:34 PM | #28 |
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I changed mine and didn't have any problems... |
youthere | Apr-18-07 12:34 PM | #29 |
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I did that in my first marriage. I took part of his name and part of my... |
I Have A Dream | Apr-19-07 11:44 AM | #75 |
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I didn't change mine. n/t |
SeattleGirl | Apr-18-07 12:47 PM | #30 |
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No. |
Gormy Cuss | Apr-18-07 01:18 PM | #31 |
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Yes. I lived with a hyphenated last name my whole un-married life. |
scarlet_owl | Apr-18-07 01:52 PM | #32 |
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nope. and i have no intention of doing so. |
DixieBlue | Apr-18-07 01:53 PM | #33 |
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Yes, I liked his last name better. |
Nicole | Apr-18-07 01:59 PM | #34 |
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No. The county clerk refused to register us and committed a misdemeanor |
Perragrande | Apr-18-07 02:30 PM | #36 |
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Update to my present situation: |
Perragrande | Apr-18-07 05:09 PM | #50 |
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Wow, 2 dips in one posting. |
raccoon | Apr-19-07 07:57 AM | #68 |
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I didn't |
Book Lover | Apr-18-07 02:32 PM | #37 |
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My wife didn't. Her surname is very rare, so she wanted to keep it. |
Kutjara | Apr-18-07 02:34 PM | #38 |
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It took me a couple of years to get everything switched over. |
crim son | Apr-18-07 02:40 PM | #39 |
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I did |
skippysmom | Apr-18-07 02:42 PM | #40 |
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I did |
BarenakedLady | Apr-18-07 03:27 PM | #42 |
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No, I kept mine. |
riderinthestorm | Apr-18-07 03:45 PM | #43 |
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My dear raccoon... |
CaliforniaPeggy | Apr-18-07 04:12 PM | #44 |
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No, I never did. I think it bothers my husband a little bit but he understands. |
grace0418 | Apr-18-07 04:15 PM | #45 |
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I did, I wanted to. |
OnceUponTimeOnTheNet | Apr-18-07 04:19 PM | #46 |
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I did although I didn't want to....but the first thing in marriage is compromise |
bleedingheart | Apr-18-07 04:31 PM | #48 |
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Yup. Got rid of my first husband's last name |
WakeMeUp | Apr-18-07 04:56 PM | #49 |
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I hyphenated legally and go by my maiden name.... |
sjbech | Apr-18-07 05:14 PM | #51 |
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I did. Then I got divorced, and I'm so bad about paperwork |
femmedem | Apr-18-07 05:17 PM | #52 |
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No way!! |
CharmCity | Apr-18-07 05:43 PM | #53 |
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yes and still that name since the divorce |
wildhorses | Apr-18-07 05:46 PM | #54 |
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yup. my 'maiden' name was long, always mispronounced, |
Flaxbee | Apr-18-07 05:47 PM | #55 |
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I like how you put "maiden" in quotes. |
Left Is Write | Apr-19-07 10:56 AM | #72 |
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Nope. Don't like the patriarchal bullshit. IMHO, the couple should |
kath | Apr-18-07 06:21 PM | #58 |
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I like the idea of the coin toss. nt |
raccoon | Apr-19-07 08:00 AM | #69 |
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I kept my maiden name but later added my husbands name |
OhioBlues | Apr-18-07 06:24 PM | #60 |
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no, although if I were deciding now, I might have |
tigereye | Apr-18-07 06:28 PM | #62 |
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No. Why would I? |
SmokingJacket | Apr-18-07 06:29 PM | #63 |
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No, I didn't change my name. |
Breeze54 | Apr-18-07 06:37 PM | #65 |
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No. n/t |
I Have A Dream | Apr-18-07 06:37 PM | #66 |
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Nope. Each of us in my family has totally different first and last names. |
uppityperson | Apr-18-07 06:39 PM | #67 |
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No |
graywarrior | Apr-19-07 10:54 AM | #71 |
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Yes, I was happy to. I love my hubby. |
RubyDuby in GA | Apr-19-07 11:38 AM | #74 |
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