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badgerpup Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-01-07 11:49 PM
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73. That's why I liked going to gay bars so much...
I'm not what's considered attractive or arm candy, and in straight bars nobody ever spoke to me.

Went as 'backup' and designated driver with one of my gay friends to check out a bar, and you want to talk culture shock?
I got chatted up by several charming, intelligent guys...even asked to dance!
I took another of my gay friends there, and same thing happened. We became 'regulars'...
and I wasn't the only straight female in the joint, either. Most of them received the same treatment, unless they were jerks (females can be jerks too).

I'm pretty sure it was because the sexual question was a non-issue from the gitgo, and we all knew it was non-issue, so we could just relax and be 'people'.

Either that, or you get a way less evolved clientele at straight bars than at the ones who cater to a gay crowd... :shrug:

BTW, SS...AutumnMist is indeed a very beautiful woman!
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  -Why can't folks just talk to a pretty woman without being jerk offs???? The Straight Story  Apr-01-07 07:18 PM   #0 
  - Because, deep down, we're really just funny looking chimps  LeftyMom   Apr-01-07 07:21 PM   #1 
  - Not really.  jpgray   Apr-01-07 07:26 PM   #4 
  - The TV Idolizes Beauty - The Proles Are Encouraged To Seek Beauty  lostnotforgotten   Apr-01-07 07:22 PM   #2 
  - It's completely possible and happens lots. Depends on the bar, the people, lots of things.  jpgray   Apr-01-07 07:25 PM   #3 
  - These are men who have run out of ideas to meet women. nt  iconoclastic cat   Apr-01-07 07:30 PM   #8 
  - You took her to a place where guys are drunk and looking to get laid...  porphyrian   Apr-01-07 07:26 PM   #5 
  - Jeez, find a better bar that isn't a meat locker  Little Wing   Apr-01-07 07:27 PM   #6 
  - It was not always that way to some extent there  The Straight Story   Apr-01-07 07:59 PM   #26 
  - Try a local theater group instead.  annabanana   Apr-01-07 07:30 PM   #7 
  - As an ex-bartender, I can honestly tell you that guys make  Cleita   Apr-01-07 07:31 PM   #9 
  - I would die to have an intelligent face-to-face conversation with  Texas Explorer   Apr-01-07 07:31 PM   #10 
  - That's how guys are.  Marie26   Apr-01-07 07:32 PM   #11 
  - Nah--I think both sexes are prone to some superficial attraction and pursuit behavior  jpgray   Apr-01-07 07:33 PM   #12 
  - Ooookay then.  Marie26   Apr-01-07 07:41 PM   #17 
  - Everybody is judged and evaluated on appearance  jpgray   Apr-01-07 07:44 PM   #18 
  - So you are saying men are usually NOT more aggressive about it?.  Vincardog   Apr-02-07 12:35 AM   #82 
  - i don't think women get as mean when rejected as some guys do  bettyellen   Apr-01-07 10:28 PM   #51 
     - "Entitled"  Truthiness Inspector   Apr-02-07 12:53 AM   #84 
  - I was never that way, so it strikes me as sad  The Straight Story   Apr-01-07 07:50 PM   #22 
  - She needs to go someplace other than a bar if she just wants to talk  Lorien   Apr-01-07 07:33 PM   # 
  - Good ideas  The Straight Story   Apr-01-07 07:45 PM   #19 
     - But that's damn sad.....  BlackVelvet04   Apr-01-07 10:41 PM   #57 
  - It's Simple...  givemebackmycountry   Apr-01-07 07:33 PM   #13 
  - Find some place that's more social, less drunky drunky.  Selatius   Apr-01-07 07:36 PM   #14 
  - I've been asking the same question for years.  smirkymonkey   Apr-01-07 07:37 PM   #15 
  - If wishes were ponies, perhaps, but that's just not how guys, as an aggregate, are.  BlooInBloo   Apr-01-07 07:39 PM   #16 
  - If your wife is that attractive and you knew that her looks and personality...  TWriterD   Apr-01-07 07:47 PM   #20 
  - Simply put:  The Straight Story   Apr-01-07 07:53 PM   #23 
  - You think that stuff doesn't happen at a Meetup?  thecatburgler   Apr-01-07 11:46 PM   #72 
     - Helen of Troy, is that you?  TWriterD   Apr-02-07 08:58 AM   #104 
     - Apparently, I'm not conventionally attractive, because I simply do not have this problem.  Left Is Write   Apr-02-07 10:54 AM   #109 
  - The same reason that you mentioned she is "super in bed"?  omega minimo   Apr-01-07 07:50 PM   #21 
  - Yeah - but they don't know that :)  The Straight Story   Apr-01-07 07:57 PM   #25 
  - No. The reason you mentioned it and the reason they are jerk-offs is  omega minimo   Apr-01-07 08:00 PM   #27 
  - Exactly. What an odd remark for a post which is ostensibly about the objectification of women.nt  Reterr   Apr-01-07 08:35 PM   #37 
  - Um yeah we didn't really need to know that either.  chimpsrsmarter   Apr-01-07 09:57 PM   #43 
  - Perceptive as Always, omega  Hidden Stillness   Apr-02-07 12:04 AM   #79 
     - Topdogging has become the national pasttime.  omega minimo   Apr-02-07 12:15 AM   #81 
  - What cured me of this as a teen...  skids   Apr-01-07 07:56 PM   #24 
  - As high minded as this all sounds  DireStrike   Apr-01-07 10:48 PM   #61 
  - This belongs in the lounge  cali   Apr-01-07 08:02 PM   #28 
  - It's a commentary to me on society and how we treat others  The Straight Story   Apr-01-07 08:10 PM   #31 
  - Sorry, I disagree.  cali   Apr-01-07 08:18 PM   #33 
  - Definitely the vibes.  spacelady   Apr-01-07 10:10 PM   #47 
  - Try being perceived as "unattractive"  JulieRB   Apr-01-07 09:00 PM   #40 
  - I know what you mean, JulieRB  Cabcere   Apr-02-07 12:02 AM   #78 
  - What the hell were you thinking  Bronyraurus   Apr-02-07 12:07 AM   #80 
  - I was thinking the same thing cali  Reterr   Apr-01-07 08:33 PM   #36 
  - Guys go to bars to get laid, not to have deep meaningful conversations.  MrSlayer   Apr-01-07 08:06 PM   #29 
  - My wife is 48 years old and still good looking, long brunette hair, pretty face...  Jonathan50   Apr-01-07 08:06 PM   #30 
  - When my daughter was 15, we were eating  DemBones DemBones   Apr-01-07 08:50 PM   #39 
  - (a) You can't get a hit unless you swing...  BlooInBloo   Apr-01-07 10:30 PM   #52 
  - Don't know what do with it if they catch it..  Jonathan50   Apr-01-07 10:33 PM   #53 
  - I had a graduate school friend who looked like a young Faye Dunaway, and  Lydia Leftcoast   Apr-01-07 10:05 PM   #44 
     - I'm not sure what you are trying to say by "graduate school men"  Jonathan50   Apr-01-07 10:35 PM   #54 
        - Shy and insecure, mostly  Lydia Leftcoast   Apr-01-07 11:07 PM   #64 
           - The teasing is from jealousy..  Jonathan50   Apr-02-07 01:23 AM   #90 
  - I think she'd have felt worse if  DemBones DemBones   Apr-01-07 08:17 PM   #32 
  - She sounds like a real treasure. And fortunately for her, she  JerseygirlCT   Apr-01-07 08:24 PM   #34 
  - I'm a little confused--why did you just drop her off rather than accompany her?  Mayberry Machiavelli   Apr-01-07 08:27 PM   #35 
  - No one to watch our 6 yr old (nt)  The Straight Story   Apr-01-07 09:05 PM   #41 
  - Best NOT to be 'attractive' and go to a bar because,...  sicksicksick_N_tired   Apr-01-07 08:40 PM   #38 
  - I always had an instant cure for it  Skittles   Apr-01-07 09:50 PM   #42 
  - "Does this look infected?"  chimpsrsmarter   Apr-01-07 10:05 PM   #45 
  - LOL, Skittles!  JulieRB   Apr-01-07 10:08 PM   #46 
     - I never f***ing "put up" with ANYTHING from men  Skittles   Apr-01-07 10:20 PM   #50 
        - You go, girl  JulieRB   Apr-01-07 11:43 PM   #70 
  - You dropped her off at a BAR and expected something different from what happened???  Roland99   Apr-01-07 10:11 PM   #48 
  - Sorry dude,it's human nature.  Swede   Apr-01-07 10:13 PM   #49 
  - Women like a provider,men like a productive female.  Jonathan50   Apr-01-07 10:37 PM   #56 
     - because your statement turns us all into johns and whores  liontamer   Apr-02-07 07:33 AM   #100 
  - Jesus  BoneDaddy   Apr-01-07 10:36 PM   #55 
  - If this is the biggest problem you have in your life, I envy you ... eom  TheBorealAvenger   Apr-01-07 10:44 PM   #58 
  - I have both male and female friends that i can talk to about just  rasputin1952   Apr-01-07 10:44 PM   #59 
  - because "men and women can never be friends"  orleans   Apr-01-07 10:46 PM   #60 
  - Because usually only confident guys hit on hot ladies  krispos42   Apr-01-07 10:54 PM   #62 
  - You are so wrong!  Truthiness Inspector   Apr-02-07 01:12 AM   #86 
     - He he he! So their confidence was self-delusional  krispos42   Apr-02-07 01:20 AM   #88 
  - I wish I could meet some of the people on DU  Quixote1818   Apr-01-07 10:57 PM   #63 
  - You might want to try going to a Unitarian Universalist congregation..  Jonathan50   Apr-02-07 01:31 AM   #91 
  - i understand what you're saying but honestly, didn't you know this would happen  OmmmSweetOmmm   Apr-01-07 11:18 PM   #65 
  - Doesn't matter. It's his SO - it's other guys' faults no matter what.  BlooInBloo   Apr-01-07 11:28 PM   #67 
  - How is this not a lounge thread?  nam78_two   Apr-01-07 11:27 PM   #66 
  - I agree-I emailed the mods-I hope they move it.NT  Reterr   Apr-01-07 11:44 PM   #71 
  - Why do men forget they're men?  lynyrd_skynyrd   Apr-01-07 11:37 PM   #68 
  - why can't drunk guys in a bar hit on good-looking single women without being called jerks?  QuestionAll   Apr-01-07 11:42 PM   #69 
  - What do you assume women get gussied up for you?  thecatburgler   Apr-01-07 11:55 PM   #75 
  - That's why I liked going to gay bars so much...  badgerpup   Apr-01-07 11:49 PM   #73 
  - Why can't men just jerk off instead of starting WWIII?  omega minimo   Apr-01-07 11:52 PM   #74 
  - Couldn't resist, could you  Little Wing   Apr-02-07 08:48 AM   #103 
  - Next time she just wants conversation and dancing, try a gay bar  Bucky   Apr-01-07 11:59 PM   #76 
  - The music is usually better too...  libnnc   Apr-02-07 12:39 AM   #83 
  - Holy crap!  MonkeyFunk   Apr-02-07 12:02 AM   #77 
  - Yeah, that never used to happen!  DemBones DemBones   Apr-02-07 01:05 AM   #85 
  - This is a vanity thread  tkmorris   Apr-02-07 01:18 AM   #87 
  - Don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like mine!  BlooInBloo   Apr-02-07 01:20 AM   #89 
  - No kidding-I know I can just hide thread or ignore it  nam78_two   Apr-02-07 01:31 AM   #92 
  - It amazes me this thread hasn't been moved to the lounge! What  B Calm   Apr-02-07 04:46 AM   #95 
     - Damned good observation. It's not appropriate for this forum, by any stretch of the imagination. n/t  Judi Lynn   Apr-02-07 04:58 AM   #96 
  - Didn't you hear? The sexes are at war.  tomreedtoon   Apr-02-07 02:14 AM   #93 
  - Say, hic, yer kina cute  HEyHEY   Apr-02-07 03:17 AM   #94 
  - must be an anomaly, a bar is usually a good place to meet  Crabby Appleton   Apr-02-07 06:22 AM   #97 
  - the better question to ask, imo, is:  buddhamama   Apr-02-07 06:24 AM   #98 
  - I understand your plight.  slj0101   Apr-02-07 06:25 AM   #99 
  - The command of Darwinism: HAVE SEX NOW! NOW! NOW DAMMIT!  Deep13   Apr-02-07 07:52 AM   #101 
  - She sounds like a wonderful woman.  BarenakedLady   Apr-02-07 07:54 AM   #102 
  - You set her up for it  kdsusa   Apr-02-07 09:14 AM   #105 
  - Unless the bar is filled with 25-year olds willing to play the role of "Benjamin."  TWriterD   Apr-02-07 09:44 AM   #107 
  - I'd say your wife  mzteris   Apr-02-07 09:19 AM   #106 
  - It's the venue  realisticphish   Apr-02-07 10:20 AM   #108 
  - I could talk to her as a person  GoPsUx   Apr-02-07 11:09 AM   #110 

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