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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-18-07 06:36 PM
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55. Here in the south, ma'am is used as a form of respect. It is
not used to be condescending and I don't know of a woman here who feels that it is. Different cultures. I was raised to say ma'am and sir to adults. Just the way it is here.
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  -Female type DUers - does being called Ma'am piss you off? eeyore  Mar-18-07 01:02 PM   #0 
  - as a staunch and steadfast support of womyn  datasuspect   Mar-18-07 01:04 PM   #1 
  - Hehe  BoneDaddy   Mar-19-07 05:52 PM   #101 
  - When I was in my  Breeze54   Mar-18-07 01:04 PM   #2 
  - I think that it is strange sometimes  Nikia   Mar-18-07 01:09 PM   #3 
  - I hate the term. It's so impersonal.  graywarrior   Mar-18-07 01:10 PM   #4 
  - Captain Janeway seemed to like it... she demanded it, in fact.  HypnoToad   Mar-18-07 01:12 PM   #5 
  - There are some that  Breeze54   Mar-18-07 01:18 PM   #10 
  - Thats the Military way  One_Life_To_Give   Mar-19-07 10:03 AM   #68 
  - I thought Star Trek called all officers "Sir"?  AllegroRondo   Mar-19-07 10:15 AM   #71 
     - Per The STNG Background Manual. . .  ProfessorGAC   Mar-19-07 10:39 AM   #77 
  - No  SusanaMontana41   Mar-18-07 01:15 PM   #6 
  - I guess that "no"  SusanaMontana41   Mar-18-07 01:17 PM   #9 
  - not piss off really, but I don't like it (I'm 32)  Maine-ah   Mar-18-07 01:16 PM   #7 
  - As long as it's not preceded by Wham, Bam, Thank you,  in search of sanity   Mar-18-07 01:17 PM   #8 
  - It doesn't bother me  GloriaSmith   Mar-18-07 01:20 PM   #11 
  - I feel exactly the same way.  xmas74   Mar-19-07 10:31 AM   #74 
  - I don't know what my stance is on this one......  carly denise pt deux   Mar-18-07 01:20 PM   #12 
  - I never take offense. Some people are just trying to be polite,  amitten   Mar-18-07 01:21 PM   #13 
  - That's what I was thinking  Amber Waves   Mar-19-07 12:11 PM   #86 
  - I'm in my 20's and the only time I've been called ma'am...  Reverend_Smitty   Mar-18-07 01:22 PM   #14 
  - It weirds me out. I don't like it at all.  haruka3_2000   Mar-18-07 01:26 PM   #15 
  - Doesn't bother me. n/t  BlackVelvet04   Mar-18-07 01:27 PM   #16 
  - Yes  libodem   Mar-18-07 02:24 PM   #17 
  - Nah - where I come from, it's good manners  Penndems   Mar-18-07 02:32 PM   #18 
  - I was raised like that too.  unsavedtrash   Mar-18-07 03:03 PM   #23 
  - If I address another Southerner as "sir" or "ma'am", it's expected  Penndems   Mar-18-07 03:12 PM   #27 
  - Same.  TheFriendlyAnarchist   Mar-18-07 04:31 PM   #38 
  - I live in southern Louisiana,  haf216   Mar-18-07 02:38 PM   #19 
  - doesn't bother me that much, though i was coming out of a store with bags...  bridgit   Mar-18-07 02:46 PM   #20 
  - Gals I know who hate it because it makes them feel old  AngryAmish   Mar-18-07 02:57 PM   #21 
  - It doesn't bother me at all.  Nicole   Mar-18-07 03:01 PM   #22 
  - My dear eeyore.....  CaliforniaPeggy   Mar-18-07 03:05 PM   #24 
  - Ma'am doesnt bother me at all  Imagine In Texas   Mar-18-07 03:08 PM   #25 
  - No, it does not. It is not an insult, it is not rude. It's ridiculous to take you to task for it.  Left Is Write   Mar-18-07 03:08 PM   #26 
  - Well spoken Ma'am  GoPsUx   Mar-18-07 03:14 PM   #28 
  - Funny you should ask...  hyphenate   Mar-18-07 03:15 PM   #29 
  - I really have to ask - why do people think "ma'am" has anything to do with age?  Left Is Write   Mar-18-07 03:33 PM   #30 
     - Because as a woman, you're called "Miss" until you reach a certain age  electron_blue   Mar-19-07 10:48 AM   #80 
        - I'm a woman, age 40, and it just doesn't bother me.  Left Is Write   Mar-19-07 05:49 PM   #100 
  - It doesn't bother me in the least.  Kajsa   Mar-18-07 03:43 PM   #31 
  - It bothers me less than when someone calls me "Miss"...  MrsGrumpy   Mar-18-07 03:49 PM   #32 
  - It depends on the tone and the intent I sense the person means.  Jamastiene   Mar-18-07 03:59 PM   #33 
  - I not only see it! I've felt it!  Breeze54   Mar-18-07 04:12 PM   #36 
  - I'm not a female, but as a user of the term ...  Akoto   Mar-18-07 04:02 PM   #34 
  - It's better than Granmaw, or you old bag...  Raven   Mar-18-07 04:06 PM   #35 
  - To me it's just being polite. You say "Thank you, sir." and "Thank you, ma'am."  TheFriendlyAnarchist   Mar-18-07 04:31 PM   #37 
  - "Ma'am" is an incredibly offensive term!  oustemnow   Mar-18-07 04:31 PM   #39 
  - I agree, and I'll use "Miss" right up to the point  sammythecat   Mar-18-07 05:19 PM   #47 
  - I'm from the South and have lived here all my life. "Ma'am" used in  NewWaveChick1981   Mar-18-07 04:33 PM   #40 
  - I use the double contraction, yes'm  Xipe Totec   Mar-18-07 04:38 PM   #42 
  - I was 25 the first time someone called me ma'am  xmas74   Mar-19-07 10:36 AM   #76 
  - It doesn't bother me one bit, personally.  Shine   Mar-18-07 04:36 PM   #41 
  - If I'm trying to get the attention of a female stranger,  sammythecat   Mar-18-07 05:02 PM   #43 
  - Actually, wouldn't she be HRH?  electron_blue   Mar-19-07 10:49 AM   #81 
     - I haven't looked this up, but,  sammythecat   Mar-19-07 01:05 PM   #88 
        - LOL! I think you're right.  electron_blue   Mar-19-07 02:52 PM   #93 
  - Like I said in the you feel old when thread...  BarenakedLady   Mar-18-07 05:03 PM   #44 
  - "female type"?  sammythecat   Mar-18-07 05:07 PM   #45 
  - It's never occurred to me to be "pissed off" about being called "Ma'am"  Cabcere   Mar-18-07 05:10 PM   #46 
  - No, but "hon" irritates the hell out of me.  deadparrot   Mar-18-07 05:23 PM   #48 
  - "Today I Am a Ma'Am: And Other Musings on Life, Beauty, and Growing Older"  Breeze54   Mar-18-07 05:25 PM   #49 
  - North of the Mason-Dixon Line It's An Insult to Most Women Under 40 (at least)  Crisco   Mar-18-07 05:40 PM   #50 
  - Yes, I hate it (n/t)  Qanisqineq   Mar-18-07 05:41 PM   #51 
  - It really depends on the age of the person saying it.  ganeshji   Mar-18-07 06:12 PM   #52 
  - It's a perfectly correct, polite form of address  skygazer   Mar-18-07 06:13 PM   #53 
  - I always use ma'am and sir when talking to people, and I was  hedgehog   Mar-18-07 06:25 PM   #54 
  - My grandparents on both sides were addressed as  xmas74   Mar-19-07 10:41 AM   #78 
  - Here in the south, ma'am is used as a form of respect. It is  Shell Beau   Mar-18-07 06:36 PM   #55 
  - While the term doesn't annoy me,  u4ic   Mar-18-07 07:27 PM   #56 
  - Doesn't bother me in the least. Not everyone uses sir and ma'am  Arkansas Granny   Mar-18-07 07:43 PM   #57 
  - No, it doesn't bother me at all. However, it doesn't bother me what age people...  I Have A Dream   Mar-18-07 07:51 PM   #58 
  - I was first called MA'AM as a 21 year old sergeant in the Air Force  Skittles   Mar-18-07 08:09 PM   #59 
  - Doesn't bother me at all.  InvisibleTouch   Mar-18-07 09:18 PM   #60 
  - Oh, Puhl-eeeeeeze.!?! Beats the hell out of 'Hon.  GalleryGod   Mar-18-07 09:26 PM   #61 
  - In the north we NEVER use "ma'am" except for in the most mocking of situations.  WritingIsMyReligion   Mar-18-07 09:50 PM   #62 
  - I prefer "Ma'am" to being called by my first name by those who glance at  grannylib   Mar-18-07 11:55 PM   #63 
  - Not in the least.  Blue in Portland   Mar-19-07 12:41 AM   #64 
  - it does not bother me  wildhorses   Mar-19-07 12:45 AM   #65 
  - It normally does not bother me  buddyhollysghost   Mar-19-07 09:49 AM   #66 
  - Hell, no. But when people start calling you sir or ma'm, you know  raccoon   Mar-19-07 09:57 AM   #67 
  - I use it in exactly the way I use "Sir." This is literally the first I've heard that it's an affront  jobycom   Mar-19-07 10:04 AM   #69 
  - When in doubt I use "Yo Wench!"  One_Life_To_Give   Mar-19-07 10:10 AM   #70 
  - *shrug*  BluePatriot   Mar-19-07 10:21 AM   #72 
  - It's a sign of respect.  xmas74   Mar-19-07 10:29 AM   #73 
  - Im 26, a Southerner, and I love it!  lies and propaganda   Mar-19-07 10:32 AM   #75 
  - It doesn't bother me one way or another now.  bumblebee1   Mar-19-07 10:44 AM   #79 
  - M'am doesn't bother me, but being called 'dear' by 20-somethings  havocmom   Mar-19-07 10:57 AM   #82 
  - Not at all  MissMillie   Mar-19-07 10:59 AM   #83 
  - Hell yes! I have The Magistrate on Ignore!  femmedem   Mar-19-07 11:30 AM   #84 
  - I HATE it.  El Fuego   Mar-19-07 11:33 AM   #85 
  - I kinda like it...  AchtungToddler   Mar-19-07 12:34 PM   #87 
  - Piss me off? I *expect* it!  Book Lover   Mar-19-07 01:13 PM   #89 
  - Wow! I had no idea what I'd started....  eeyore   Mar-19-07 01:53 PM   #90 
  - I do because the nuns told me to address a lady that way.  edbermac   Mar-19-07 02:07 PM   #91 
  - I was a little taken aback when I was first called "Ma'am" in my 20s...  GoddessOfGuinness   Mar-19-07 02:11 PM   #92 
  - Absolutely!  ceile   Mar-19-07 02:58 PM   #94 
  - it kind of rankles the feminist in me  tigereye   Mar-19-07 03:16 PM   #95 
  - I've been called worse.  sfexpat2000   Mar-19-07 03:21 PM   #96 
  - I've been chewed out for saying Ma'am, Miss, even Sir  OurVotesCount-Ohio   Mar-19-07 03:46 PM   #97 
  - No. It's a sign of respect. But wouldn't call a young girl that.  Sequoia   Mar-19-07 03:49 PM   #98 
  - It's still better than "Hey, Udderface"  CanuckAmok   Mar-19-07 05:35 PM   #99 
  - No, not is a term of respect  ikojo   Mar-19-07 06:56 PM   #102 
  - I prefer "Your highness"  alarimer   Mar-19-07 07:44 PM   #103 

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