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hyphenate Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jul-23-06 10:14 PM
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20. If I can do it, you can do it
Erma Bombeck once wrote a column about how self-conscious she was picking out a bathing suit and going to the beach. She said she was completely embarrassed about how she looked, and that she felt so fat and ugly going there looking like she did. She said there were all these young girls with these perfect bodies wearing bikinis and she knew she couldn't hold a candle to them. She said that all the boys and men would be looking at them as well, and then she realized something: she was right--everyone WOULD be looking at them. She was just another middle-aged mother with a middle-aged body and the only one who would be looking at her one, except perhaps her husband. And she knew all those other middle-aged women with the same kind of body that she had would be self-conscious about their own bodies, and no one would even care how she looked!

After that, she said she never worried any more about how she looked, as long as she didn't have more than two arms, two legs and one head, because under the circumstances, no one would really care, one way or another.

I have a true pear shape. Most of my weight is below the waist with big legs and butt. Over the last couple of years as I entered my late 40s and am now 50, I finally decided I couldn't act normal or feel normal if I valued the opinion of every stranger out there. I started to wear some shorts--not super short, but just above the knee, and now I take the greatest pleasure in wearing thecapri/gaucho style which actually can flatter someone with a pear shape, and I really don't give a damn what anyone else thinks, as long as I'm not wearing something so bizarre that I attract attention to it.

Believe me, the only one who is going to really notice is you. As far as skin type, I am so light toned that I can look just like a ghost in mid winter. In the summer, I don't tan, even a smidge. I burn like hell, so I stay out of the sun as much as possible. My brother is the same way, lives in Vegas, and works outdoors a lot. He's had several skin lesions removed because they could have turned into cancer. He now has to wear long sleeves in 116 degrees, and wears a hat as well. But anyone with light skin is far safer staying away from the sun for these reasons alone. Be proud of your skin--those of us who stay out of the sun earn a great bonus: without the damaging rays of the sun, our skin keeps us looking younger longer, because we don't wrinkle so quickly. It's great for playing age guessing games. :hi:
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  -Argh. I fucking hate my body! LeftyMom  Jul-23-06 09:28 PM   #0 
  - Love the skin you're in sweetie...  bicentennial_baby   Jul-23-06 09:32 PM   #1 
  - I'm not very good at that  LeftyMom   Jul-23-06 09:42 PM   #5 
     - I understand, I do...  bicentennial_baby   Jul-23-06 10:02 PM   #13 
  - from the pics I have seen of you...  wildhorses   Jul-23-06 09:34 PM   #2 
  - Thank you.  LeftyMom   Jul-23-06 09:51 PM   #7 
  - S'what I was thinking, too. nt  jobycom   Jul-23-06 10:06 PM   #18 
  - It's the heat, my friend.  graywarrior   Jul-23-06 09:35 PM   #3 
  - Its not pale, its porcelain.  mainegreen   Jul-23-06 09:35 PM   #4 
  - yep... all the rage in Europe  MissMillie   Jul-24-06 10:47 AM   #40 
  - Oh puhleeze  XemaSab   Jul-23-06 09:44 PM   #6 
  - Just turn on the damn sprinkler and run through it.,,,  BrotherBuzz   Jul-23-06 09:52 PM   #8 
  - that shit ain't gonna play here.  idgiehkt   Jul-23-06 09:53 PM   #9 
  - LeftyMom, I've seen pics.  crim son   Jul-23-06 09:56 PM   #10 
  - This is not a PMS thing is it?  RagingInMiami   Jul-23-06 09:56 PM   #11 
  - LOL !  Kajsa   Jul-23-06 10:03 PM   #14 
  - And yet, you've got the hottest guy in the joint  Dangerously Amused   Jul-23-06 09:58 PM   #12 
  - long-lost twin sister  SoCalDem   Jul-23-06 10:04 PM   #15 
  - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy  GloriaSmith   Jul-23-06 10:05 PM   #16 
  - I don't know what to say.  speedoo   Jul-23-06 10:05 PM   #17 
  - Don't feel bad. Let's compare notes.  Jamastiene   Jul-23-06 10:13 PM   #19 
  - If I can do it, you can do it  hyphenate   Jul-23-06 10:14 PM   #20 
  - Aww...I feel for you...same self-image issues.  grannylib   Jul-23-06 10:15 PM   #21 
  - Please allow me to join the chorus.  ThomCat   Jul-23-06 10:25 PM   #22 
  - LM, our eyes often exaggerate what we judge as our faults.  SeattleGirl   Jul-23-06 10:39 PM   #23 
  - It's only your fault, dear.  flvegan   Jul-23-06 10:53 PM   #24 
  - Sorry dear, I was sleeping  LeftyMom   Jul-23-06 11:16 PM   #28 
     - Yeah, you prove me wrong sometime  flvegan   Jul-23-06 11:27 PM   #29 
        - How can I be wrong about how I see myself?  LeftyMom   Jul-23-06 11:58 PM   #33 
  - Given the thread title, I refuse to respond to this  billyskank   Jul-23-06 10:56 PM   #25 
  - I hear ya, dude...  LynzM   Jul-23-06 10:57 PM   #26 
  - Wow. My long lost twin.  politicat   Jul-23-06 10:58 PM   #27 
  - Got any tips for hairiness, saggy boobs, and stretchmarks, LOL?  tjdee   Jul-23-06 11:34 PM   #30 
     - Good scissors, good bras and vitamin E oil  politicat   Jul-23-06 11:40 PM   #31 
        - Yay!  tjdee   Jul-24-06 12:10 AM   #35 
  - From the pics I've seen you look quite becoming  BuffyTheFundieSlayer   Jul-23-06 11:44 PM   #32 
  - You will pine for that body  u4ic   Jul-24-06 12:06 AM   #34 
  - First of all, LeftyMom...  NewWaveChick1981   Jul-24-06 10:20 AM   #36 
  - become a vegetarian  bedpanartist   Jul-24-06 10:21 AM   #37 
  - dooh!  bedpanartist   Jul-24-06 10:23 AM   #38 
  - Even if I agreed with your assessment  miss_american_pie   Jul-24-06 10:39 AM   #39 
  - I know of no way to lengthen legs.  MissMillie   Jul-24-06 10:49 AM   #41 

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