Reply #59: Hells yeah. BPD That's just what I was thinking...

[hotforteacher]

A little push-pull. You know, c'mere, c'mere, c'mere...no! Get away!

Splitting. Characterized by "You are the best person in the universe and the only one who REALLY understands me" polarized by "You fuckin' suck!" Also include talking shit about past lovers (devaluation) and the next day totally going off about how great they were (idealization).

Really quick onset of the relationship. Did she confess true love and/or suggest marriage within a few weeks? This can suggest some serious abandonment issues.

Projection. Does she accuse you of the bullshit she does? *hint-hint* Like being a BAD EATER? Having inconsistent standards or morals? Does she ever tell you that you are selfish?

Persistent identity disturbance. Is she Eva the Diva one day, and Morticia the next? Does she have difficulty keeping jobs? Does she change life plans ever day or two? Does she talk often about picking up and leaving to start again in another state or country?

Impulsivity. Does she go on spending splurges often? Have any drug issues? Are her finances in a huge disorder? Why?

Marked reactivity of mood. Do her moods change at the drop of a hat. And no, blaming PMS doesn't count for this one. Does she rage at you for shit that just doesn't merit an argument?

Control freak, either overt or covert. Is she trying to change who you are and what you do rather quickly? Not call you when she says she will and keep you waiting? Give you the silent treatment when you don't comply with her stupid demands?

Bad memory. Can't remember conversations you have had, is constantly taking notes, or blames things on her not being good at details?

I will stop right there. Suffice it to say, this person is not healthy or stable. She saw that you were vulnerable and needy, or had loose boundaries. Seriously, dude. If you are having issues this soon in the relationship, get the fuck out because she will manipulate you until you are a frickin' albino raisin.