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Evoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-12-06 03:34 PM
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40. As a master seducter, my advice is....
Edited on Wed Jul-12-06 03:40 PM by Evoman
Quit being a wuss. This girl is either a)playing you or b)hoping you will play her.

The fact of the matter is, in order to be succesful in the love game, you have to be able to play the game. And your "I'm on the verge of tears" stuff is EXACTLY the opposite of what you need to be.

It is a well-known fact that coquette behaviour (i.e being hot and loving one moment, and being cold or argumentative at another) is a sure way to get somebody to fall in love with you. I suspect that her behaviour, rather than cooling your feelings towards her, is actually part of the reason you love her so much. In the seductive phase of a romance, this is the behaviour that keeps somebody interested. Hell, when things get stale, this is the way to liven things up. She's playing you man, and you are falling for it.

In fact, one of the reasons she may be behaving this way is BECAUSE you are behaving like a love-sick puppy. I wouldn't doubt that she is trying to irk you, maybe in order to get you to stand up for yourself and act like the man you are supposed to be. In general, girls don't like wusses. They like confident, able men who don't let women walk all over them.

If you want to keep your relationship, this is what you need to do.

1)Get her off the pedestal. You are nobody fool. She is no better than you, and you have no need to worship her. You can, and will, get over her if you break up. In all likelihood, you can find better. Realize this, internalize this, and behave like this. Don't let one person cause you that much grief.

2)No more crying, no more whining. IF she argues with you, stand up for yourself. If she tells you your are being evil eating animals, tell her that just because of that, you are going to eat THREE animals. Everytime she brings it up, eat twice as much meat just to irk her back. Do not be a pushover. If you actually feel guilty, then cut out the meat. But if you don't, let her know that.

3)Play the game back. The fact that things were fine, and now they are rocky, leads me to believe that she is bored. If she is bored, you have to spice things up. Act the coquet yourself. Give her the hot and cold treatment. Flirt with other people to get her bothered. Stop saying I love you when she says it to you. Ignore her when she brings things up. Be more playful, and less serious. If you feel immoral doing this, just remember: ITS WHAT SHE WANTS. She wants some reaction from you.

4)If your going to end it anyways, might as well have some fun. Make her believe that you have other suitors. Leave for 2 or 3 hours at a time, and refuse to tell her where you have been. Just grin at her and tell her you "had things to do". This will drive her crazy...and will make her fall even deeper in love with you.

So cut out the wuss talk and act like a man.
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  -I'm on the verge of tears :( ET Awful  Jul-12-06 12:10 PM   #0 
  - I'm sorry  miss_american_pie   Jul-12-06 12:12 PM   #1 
  - I'm not one for giving advice but my hugs are always there for you  auntAgonist   Jul-12-06 12:13 PM   #2 
  - are there other things in her life that are causing her a lot of stress?  progmom   Jul-12-06 12:14 PM   #3 
  - Most definitely, that IS a factor.  ET Awful   Jul-12-06 12:18 PM   #8 
     - here's a big hug  progmom   Jul-12-06 12:22 PM   #11 
        - I disagree...he needs to change who he is.  Evoman   Jul-12-06 04:50 PM   #43 
           - Sorry buddy, but I'll take progmom's advice over yours any day.  ET Awful   Jul-14-06 01:56 PM   #62 
  - Aww, I was just thinking about you  supernova   Jul-12-06 12:16 PM   #4 
  - I feel with you  MissHoneychurch   Jul-12-06 12:16 PM   #5 
  - I won't give advice because I'm terrible at relationships  MissMillie   Jul-12-06 12:17 PM   #6 
  - I'm really sorry.  NewWaveChick1981   Jul-12-06 12:18 PM   #7 
  - would she go for that she can learn to  wildhorses   Jul-12-06 12:21 PM   #9 
  - I've thought those things myself.  ET Awful   Jul-12-06 12:23 PM   #13 
     - it is not good to continue letting this relationship affect your  wildhorses   Jul-12-06 12:34 PM   #18 
  - I hate that sort of thing. bummer  electron_blue   Jul-12-06 12:22 PM   #10 
  - Aw fuck ET  catmandu57   Jul-12-06 12:23 PM   #12 
  - True mates don't "get pissed" or attack each other.  txwhitedove   Jul-12-06 12:30 PM   #14 
  - "good relationships are RIGHT from the start. You don't MAKE them right"  Iniquitous Bunny   Jul-12-06 02:04 PM   #29 
  - Agreed. It takes at least 10 years of marriage before the fights over  Nickster   Jul-12-06 03:04 PM   #37 
  - It's very very hard to make vegan-omni relationships work  LeftyMom   Jul-12-06 12:31 PM   #15 
  - Maybe you're right. I don't know.  ET Awful   Jul-12-06 12:38 PM   #19 
     - Oh geez.  LeftyMom   Jul-12-06 12:54 PM   #21 
        - Well, in all fairness,  ET Awful   Jul-12-06 12:59 PM   #22 
  - ET, I'm afraid I don't have any advice.  bertha katzenengel   Jul-12-06 12:32 PM   #16 
  - Sounds Like Control Issues  Crisco   Jul-12-06 12:33 PM   #17 
  - bingo  Lydia Leftcoast   Jul-12-06 01:08 PM   #23 
     - ET Gotta Stand Up  Crisco   Jul-13-06 09:02 AM   #49 
  - Sounds like it might be a communication problem  EstimatedProphet   Jul-12-06 12:39 PM   #20 
  - sounds like she doesn't respect you.  cobalt1999   Jul-12-06 01:11 PM   #24 
  - let it end. n/t  SlavesandBulldozers   Jul-12-06 01:15 PM   #25 
  - Let her go, ET.  Lars39   Jul-12-06 01:18 PM   #26 
  - Back off, way off. That's the only thing that might work now.  chaska   Jul-12-06 01:22 PM   #27 
  - If my wife suddenly decided to go radical vegan, I'd go with that.  hunter   Jul-12-06 01:53 PM   #28 
  - I agree with you.  ET Awful   Jul-12-06 02:17 PM   #30 
     - Well, then, let it rest for a bit. Don't ask for explanations.  hunter   Jul-12-06 02:37 PM   #32 
  - Leave while your dignity is intact  Throd   Jul-12-06 02:23 PM   #31 
  - I'm sorry. You have every reason to be sad.  LaraMN   Jul-12-06 02:39 PM   #33 
  - Is she willing to try to make it work?  in search of sanity   Jul-12-06 02:42 PM   #34 
  - I'm so sorry, ET.  Midlodemocrat   Jul-12-06 02:42 PM   #35 
  - I am so sorry your relationship is souring.. BUT  SoCalDem   Jul-12-06 02:50 PM   #36 
  - I don't know what to say.  ginbarn   Jul-12-06 03:16 PM   #38 
  - have the talk  rbnyc   Jul-12-06 03:20 PM   #39 
  - As a master seducter, my advice is....  Evoman   Jul-12-06 03:34 PM   #40 
  - Dead on. Nice of you to take t he time to share this. Hope it is  zonkers   Jul-13-06 10:05 AM   #51 
     - The last thing most people with relationship probs need it pity....  Evoman   Jul-13-06 03:21 PM   #52 
     - Oh, bah.  hunter   Jul-13-06 03:39 PM   #54 
     - The last thing most people with relationship probs need it pity....  Evoman   Jul-13-06 03:21 PM   #53 
  - A pro-life vegan is going to be a tough one.  missb   Jul-12-06 03:46 PM   #41 
  - Similar situation here....don't give up yet  L A Woman   Jul-12-06 04:50 PM   #42 
  - Fight--don't quit.  jobycom   Jul-12-06 04:51 PM   #44 
  - C'mere.  seawolf   Jul-12-06 04:52 PM   #45 
  - I been in a pretty tuff relationship myself  GoPsUx   Jul-12-06 05:03 PM   #46 
  - I have hugs a-plenty, not sure if my advice is any good, but for what it's  grannylib   Jul-12-06 05:14 PM   #47 
  - Yes  sakabatou   Jul-12-06 05:30 PM   #48 
  - Oh, man, ET Awful.  Heidi   Jul-13-06 09:41 AM   #50 
  - If it ends, it ends.  JackDragna   Jul-13-06 04:07 PM   #55 
  - Sounds like she's borderline  musiclawyer   Jul-13-06 04:12 PM   #56 
  - Hells yeah. BPD That's just what I was thinking...  hotforteacher   Jul-13-06 06:14 PM   #59 
     - Dude, you are spot on...  musiclawyer   Jul-14-06 12:15 AM   #60 
        - I am not proud  hotforteacher   Jul-14-06 07:15 AM   #61 
           - Likewise  musiclawyer   Jul-14-06 02:50 PM   #63 
  - i know where you've been  Blue_Tires   Jul-13-06 04:15 PM   #57 
  - That's terrible...  sendero   Jul-13-06 04:23 PM   #58 

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