reyd reid reed
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Mon Jun-26-06 01:25 AM
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And then there's love.
You don't 'give up' on either, but it Can change and become less physically painful and more beneficial.
Maybe you need to turn in another direction for a while. Doesn't mean you have to cut each other out of your lives...but step back. Evaluate. Maybe see a counselor.
Then try and figure things out. See what she's willing to do. Figure out what you're willing to do. And then see if you can maintain a romantic relationship.
You'll always care about her. Chances are there will always be Some love there. But that doesn't mean you can't go on with your life.
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| -At what point do you have to give up on someone you love? |
sir_captain |
Jun-26-06 12:53 AM |
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What are your ages? |
Floogeldy |
Jun-26-06 12:54 AM |
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We're in our latish 20s |
sir_captain |
Jun-26-06 12:57 AM |
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Yeah, but most of 'em are poisoned by mercury! |
HypnoToad |
Jun-26-06 05:35 PM |
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Years ago in your case, she's no good for you! |
JVS |
Jun-26-06 12:55 AM |
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Probably mainly because I've enabled her to |
sir_captain |
Jun-26-06 12:59 AM |
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Whatever,just bail |
JVS |
Jun-26-06 01:02 AM |
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It sounds very simple,doesn't it? |
sir_captain |
Jun-26-06 01:04 AM |
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It is |
JVS |
Jun-26-06 01:04 AM |
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Sure, but not that easy |
sir_captain |
Jun-26-06 01:07 AM |
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9 years ago |
Nicole |
Jun-26-06 12:57 AM |
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That's certainly the truth |
sir_captain |
Jun-26-06 01:00 AM |
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Perhaps it might be worthwhile to pursue counseling ...... |
CaliforniaPeggy |
Jun-26-06 01:13 AM |
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Thanks Peggy! |
sir_captain |
Jun-26-06 01:19 AM |
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I hope she is willing too. 9 years is an investment. Not a fling. |
HypnoToad |
Jun-26-06 05:33 PM |
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If it's this hard, she's not the right girl |
LeftyMom |
Jun-26-06 01:14 AM |
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DING DING DING! That's your answer right there. When you find the "One" |
Nickster |
Jun-26-06 07:06 AM |
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I hope there isn't a "shining knight" complex somewhere in your mind, |
Lydia Leftcoast |
Jun-26-06 09:26 PM |
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9 years? |
u4ic |
Jun-26-06 01:15 AM |
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Yeah, I know I can't fix her |
sir_captain |
Jun-26-06 01:27 AM |
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Oh, no |
u4ic |
Jun-26-06 01:33 AM |
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I say make it clear to them what you think, then make decisions from |
Random_Australian |
Jun-26-06 01:23 AM |
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Okay...there's love |
reyd reid reed |
Jun-26-06 01:25 AM |
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You're the "reserve guy". Break it off completely. |
Blue-Jay |
Jun-26-06 01:28 AM |
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Bingo. |
Thtwudbeme |
Jun-26-06 07:30 AM |
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Blue-Jay knows the score |
JVS |
Jun-27-06 12:14 AM |
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well don't know if these are words of wisdom but... |
pitohui |
Jun-26-06 01:29 AM |
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I hope this poster pays attention to you and Blue_jay. |
Thtwudbeme |
Jun-26-06 07:58 AM |
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If she cannot bring herself |
necso |
Jun-26-06 01:36 AM |
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When you realize you've lost your self-respect |
kskiska |
Jun-26-06 01:36 AM |
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Sounds like you need to rip off that bandage and move forward. |
Iniquitous Bunny |
Jun-26-06 06:54 AM |
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Wouldn't you rather be chosen, than to "end up" with someone? |
Heidi |
Jun-26-06 07:11 AM |
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Heidi is right.... |
khashka |
Jun-26-06 07:28 AM |
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You don't want to be the one someone settles for. |
lizziegrace |
Jun-26-06 06:54 PM |
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And what if she all of a sudden wanted to give it a go now? |
BlackVelvet04 |
Jun-26-06 07:34 AM |
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9 Years? |
cobalt1999 |
Jun-26-06 07:44 AM |
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Move on! You deserve better. |
raccoon |
Jun-26-06 08:19 AM |
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Move on |
AngryAmish |
Jun-26-06 08:22 AM |
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I agree with those who said she's probably stringing you along. |
WritingIsMyReligion |
Jun-26-06 08:25 AM |
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I'm sure you don't want to hear this |
MissMillie |
Jun-26-06 08:25 AM |
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When it hurts more than it feels good. |
StellaBlue |
Jun-26-06 08:26 AM |
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I always looked at it this way... |
Roon |
Jun-26-06 08:30 AM |
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Do you want to listen to your head or your heart? |
miss_american_pie |
Jun-26-06 08:30 AM |
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When your spend more time thinking and talking about |
regularguy |
Jun-26-06 11:36 AM |
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When it takes more from you than it feeds you. |
Metta |
Jun-26-06 03:52 PM |
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Be careful about ending up together. Usually by the time that happens |
1monster |
Jun-26-06 03:59 PM |
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The "move on" answerers must never have been in love - not really |
janesez |
Jun-26-06 04:10 PM |
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When I realized I'd rather be alone |
lizziegrace |
Jun-26-06 04:12 PM |
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It's Hard.....But Let It Go......... |
querelle |
Jun-26-06 04:15 PM |
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And do it GENTLY. Some people can be very cruel. |
HypnoToad |
Jun-26-06 05:29 PM |
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Walking away may actually drive her to you. |
Scout1071 |
Jun-26-06 04:17 PM |
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exactly what I was gonna say! she might realize how much you mean |
AZDemDist6 |
Jun-26-06 04:19 PM |
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Bingo. nt |
Scout1071 |
Jun-26-06 04:29 PM |
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Bingo. nt |
Scout1071 |
Jun-26-06 04:29 PM |
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At what point? When you jump out of her moving car. |
hunter |
Jun-26-06 05:21 PM |
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Incredible breakup story! I hope you weren't badly injured!! |
IsIt1984Yet |
Jun-26-06 05:26 PM |
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I was definitely the crazy in that relationship. |
hunter |
Jun-26-06 06:33 PM |
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Regardless, best of luck to you both. |
HypnoToad |
Jun-26-06 05:25 PM |
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I wonder if it is even in your control? |
kiraboo |
Jun-26-06 06:02 PM |
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Letting go hurts briefly, but hanging on to it hurts a lot longer. |
bob_weaver |
Jun-26-06 06:06 PM |
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Who is she to determine your happiness? Make your happiness independent |
bob_weaver |
Jun-26-06 06:08 PM |
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You need to move on. The sad thing is, once you do |
GoddessOfGuinness |
Jun-26-06 06:16 PM |
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For clarification, has she had other long term dating relationships during |
Mayberry Machiavelli |
Jun-26-06 06:39 PM |
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When They Give up on you!!!! |
GoPsUx |
Jun-26-06 06:46 PM |
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