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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-05-06 11:46 AM
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13. Well her dad is not the disciplinarian, that is for certain.
In fact, I feel like I have to "re-train" her when she comes back from spending a few days with him. I would like to think that I am pretty consistent with her, but damn, I feel like the SS sometimes, always giving her commands.

I am trying to let her be more independent, but when I need her to do things quickly, I find it easier to just do it (like get her dressed, brush her hair, wash her face, etc), which leads to conflict because she wants to do it on her own. It's just that it takes her FOREVER to do things because she will find a distraction (the drop of motor oil in the puddle is VERY fun to look at), if you know what I mean.

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  -Parents - I need advice malta blue  May-05-06 09:31 AM   #0 
  - Always take a deep breath and count to 5  MissMillie   May-05-06 10:04 AM   #1 
  - She may respond well to the adjustment option  malta blue   May-05-06 10:38 AM   #6 
  - Ugh. Fun, isn't it?  LaraMN   May-05-06 10:09 AM   #2 
  - I tried to explain to her that my job as her mommy was to  malta blue   May-05-06 10:39 AM   #7 
  - Beanie was getting very obnoxious in the morning.  elehhhhna   May-05-06 10:12 AM   #3 
  - I already dock the allowance a dime  malta blue   May-05-06 10:38 AM   #5 
     - She sounds very much like my so-called "genius" son.  kiraboo   May-05-06 12:40 PM   #24 
        - I have found that I have to ask her to do one thing at a time  malta blue   May-05-06 12:49 PM   #25 
           - That's interesting. I had a conversation recently about my niece.  kiraboo   May-05-06 01:01 PM   #26 
              - That is an interesting analysis. I know that  malta blue   May-05-06 01:15 PM   #27 
  - Check your pm--hope you don't mind. nt  coffeenap   May-05-06 10:20 AM   #4 
  - Thank you so much  malta blue   May-05-06 10:42 AM   #8 
  - I had problems like that with my son when he was that age  skygazer   May-05-06 10:47 AM   #9 
  - I try so hard to be patient, but I am not the most patient  malta blue   May-05-06 10:54 AM   #10 
     - Is there a power vacuum? Sometimes kids will try to take over  havocmom   May-05-06 11:38 AM   #11 
        - Well her dad is not the disciplinarian, that is for certain.  malta blue   May-05-06 11:46 AM   #13 
  - You're giving her power by letting her arguements bother you.  LeftyMom   May-05-06 11:45 AM   #12 
  - I know you are right, but it is the hardest thing to do.  malta blue   May-05-06 11:48 AM   #14 
     - been there. it sucks.  elehhhhna   May-05-06 05:02 PM   #39 
  - You know - that's pretty common behavior in a child her age.  Left Is Write   May-05-06 11:50 AM   #15 
  - Thanks L I W  malta blue   May-05-06 11:56 AM   #16 
  - I have to agree. VERY normal behavior, not stemming from any particular  radwriter0555   May-05-06 04:49 PM   #38 
  - In my experience ....  Metta   May-05-06 11:58 AM   #17 
  - You know, I usually do the explanation after I have the blow  malta blue   May-05-06 12:02 PM   #18 
     - There's a lot here to work with.  Metta   May-05-06 12:07 PM   #19 
        - I tell her to do things at least 5 times and then lose it  malta blue   May-05-06 12:09 PM   #20 
           - She's trained to ignore everything except your blow ups.  Metta   May-05-06 02:14 PM   #28 
  - I have a girl child just that age...  bleedingheart   May-05-06 12:11 PM   #21 
  - My problem is  malta blue   May-05-06 12:16 PM   #22 
     - that respectful well behaved child is the result of the hard work you are  bleedingheart   May-05-06 12:29 PM   #23 
     - What that's all about.  Metta   May-05-06 02:19 PM   #29 
  - I babysit for a real manipulative little beyatch.  WritingIsMyReligion   May-05-06 02:20 PM   #30 
  - the "cuz I told you so" comes to mind  AtomicKitten   May-05-06 02:29 PM   #31 
  - Speaking as another single parent of an only kid (also advanced)....  electron_blue   May-05-06 02:38 PM   #32 
  - Power of Positive Parenting, Dr. Glenn Latham:  Common Sense Party   May-05-06 02:44 PM   #33 
  - This sounds a lot like my mother the kindergarten teacher  Lydia Leftcoast   May-05-06 03:03 PM   #34 
  - Works pretty well on two or three children, as well. nt  Common Sense Party   May-05-06 03:47 PM   #36 
  - This is great! Thanks for posting it!  GoddessOfGuinness   May-05-06 04:22 PM   #37 
     - My pleasure. I think you can get Dr. Lathan's book on Amazon.  Common Sense Party   May-05-06 11:30 PM   #42 
  - When they are teenagers they are even worse...  hunter   May-05-06 03:07 PM   #35 
  - I teach gifted kids  TallahasseeGrannie   May-05-06 05:21 PM   #40 
  - I learned that lesson the hard way with my older boy...  GoddessOfGuinness   May-06-06 12:02 AM   #43 
  - She is not too young for "The List"  hatredisnotavalue   May-05-06 05:33 PM   #41 
  - I would agree with the list.  CC   May-06-06 12:26 AM   #44 

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