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geniph Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-05-03 01:40 PM
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47. It's extraordinarily inconsiderate to bring a gift to the wedding
Edited on Fri Dec-05-03 02:14 PM by geniph
because then someone has to be delegated to watch the pile of loot, and can't enjoy the reception. It also becomes some kind of weird competition thing to see who can amass the largest pile of stuff on the table at the reception. (And I won't even start in on formal receptions where they OPEN THE GIFTS at the reception! Urgh! That's perfectly appropriate at casual weddings, but not a big catered hotel to-do with all the trimmings - it's tacky!)

It's become quite the accepted thing to bring gifts to the reception, but it's still not right. However, people now simply have a table at every reception to pile the stuff on, and look askance at you if you come without a package. It's amazing how many people don't know the etiquette of gifts. Then again, when was the last time you got a thank-you card for any gift you provided? (MY pet peeve!)

Any occasion where guests will be seated at a table or there will be a set number of plates requires an RSVP. Anyone who doesn't RSVP shouldn't be admitted. Anyone who RSVPs and then doesn't show without notification shouldn't be invited again, unless they have a REALLY good excuse. It's incredible rudeness to force a host to guess at the number of portions, favors, whatever, that will be required and then stick them with useless extras that they have to pay for, or worse yet, leave them embarrassingly short.
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  -R.S.V.P. - Find out what it means to me.. SOteric  Dec-04-03 09:17 PM   #0 
  - No, most of them are completely ignorant of such customs.  WannaJumpMyScooter   Dec-04-03 09:19 PM   #1 
  - I suspect you're right, but I'd like to at least take the inventory  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:26 PM   # 
  - on a side note - what does RSVP stand for?  Magic Rat   Dec-04-03 09:20 PM   #2 
  - It's French  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:22 PM   #4 
  - Wouldn't it be easier ...  Drifter   Dec-04-03 10:11 PM   #33 
     - Apparently not.  SOteric   Dec-04-03 11:02 PM   #37 
  - See? Case closed.  WannaJumpMyScooter   Dec-04-03 09:23 PM   #5 
  - it's code  Kennethken   Dec-04-03 09:24 PM   #7 
     - *Crossing Kennethken off invitation list.*  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:25 PM   #8 
        - LOL  Kennethken   Dec-04-03 09:27 PM   #10 
  - My company does parties several times a year ...  greatauntoftriplets   Dec-04-03 09:22 PM   #3 
  - True enough, and ruder still  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:24 PM   #6 
     - And oh does that ever happen!  greatauntoftriplets   Dec-04-03 09:26 PM   #9 
  - You took the words right outta my mouth!  94114_San_Francisco   Dec-04-03 09:35 PM   #11 
  - Yeppers, not the biggest problem facing mankind,  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:37 PM   #12 
  - And another thought...  greatauntoftriplets   Dec-04-03 09:38 PM   #13 
  - OMG!  94114_San_Francisco   Dec-04-03 09:43 PM   #14 
  - Better yet, have a separate party for all who didn't respond....  liberal_veteran   Dec-04-03 09:48 PM   #17 
  - Well...I'm not mean...  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:53 PM   #21 
  - *LOL* Hang on there, Frisco -  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:48 PM   #18 
     - Oh, yes. another pet peeve of mine.  greatauntoftriplets   Dec-04-03 09:50 PM   #19 
     - It's extraordinarily inconsiderate to bring a gift to the wedding  geniph   Dec-05-03 01:40 PM   #47 
     - ooh  Kennethken   Dec-04-03 09:57 PM   #24 
     - How true, how true...  94114_San_Francisco   Dec-04-03 11:09 PM   #38 
  - Yeah, weddings are actually the leading occasion  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:45 PM   #15 
     - Oh Lord, and where I am in Chicago, they are often held in hotels.  greatauntoftriplets   Dec-04-03 09:47 PM   #16 
        - Yep, booze and the open bar I didn't even get into  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:51 PM   #20 
  - It's goddamn annoying is what it is, and I mean that from the bottom  Rabrrrrrr   Dec-04-03 09:55 PM   #22 
  - Sorry Rabrrrrrr  SOteric   Dec-04-03 09:57 PM   #23 
  - Maybe not, but it's a sign of decay  Rabrrrrrr   Dec-04-03 09:59 PM   #25 
     - No, it was better. My parents were big entertaining people  WannaJumpMyScooter   Dec-04-03 11:34 PM   #39 
  - I have a three strikes rule  Ramsey   Dec-04-03 10:06 PM   #29 
     - And that's a darn good rule  Rabrrrrrr   Dec-04-03 10:08 PM   #31 
  - Yet another symptom of the increasing self-centered-ness of the population  GOPisEvil   Dec-04-03 10:00 PM   #26 
  - You are a multi-faceted jewel of perfection, and your mother  SOteric   Dec-04-03 10:17 PM   #35 
     - I dunno...the last time the Japanese got together with the Italians...  GOPisEvil   Dec-05-03 08:07 AM   #40 
  - You name it  Ramsey   Dec-04-03 10:03 PM   #27 
  - Philistines!  GOPisEvil   Dec-04-03 10:04 PM   #28 
  - Hotstuff!!!  Ramsey   Dec-04-03 10:11 PM   #32 
     - Now that is an ego-boost!  GOPisEvil   Dec-04-03 10:14 PM   #34 
  - And the people who come, and then don't bother to send a thank you note  Rabrrrrrr   Dec-04-03 10:07 PM   #30 
  - In my years of entertaining, I have seen the same  nothingshocksmeanymore   Dec-04-03 10:48 PM   #36 
  - It's a particular pet peeve of mine as well.  populistmom   Dec-05-03 08:43 AM   #41 
  - i respond, twice sometimes  buddhamama   Dec-05-03 08:51 AM   #42 
  - It's not that they don't know.  ArkDem   Dec-05-03 09:31 AM   #43 
  - does anyone else read Etiquette Hell?  truthspeaker   Dec-05-03 09:35 AM   #44 
  - sockittomesockittome  ZombyWoof   Dec-05-03 09:37 AM   #45 
  - Back when I was teaching college  Lydia Leftcoast   Dec-05-03 10:04 AM   #46 
  - Yes, that's a very good idea!  Rabrrrrrr   Dec-05-03 01:49 PM   #48 
  - If an invitation says RSVP,  geniph   Dec-05-03 02:09 PM   #49 

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