Reply #17: thanks for the well-thought-out input

[StellaBlue]

Sorry to hear you are going through a rough time in your life right now, and sorry that your marriage did not match your commitment.

As for me, in my last relationship, which for the first two years or so I thought would be my last one, to me it WAS 'adjusting to make things work' - but my partner couldn't adjust. I don't think he will ever be happy with anyone.

And your third paragraph, about how non-married people think marriage is more than it is, makes me ask even more: what's the point?

I also cannot stand drama. Hence I tend to have long relationships and long periods of singlehood in between. I won't date most men. So that kind of narrows the options to begin with. I also am not into casual sex at all. I think if you do not have totally unrealistic, Julia-Roberts-movie-fed, fairy-tale expectations, it doesn't have to be all that dramatic. Once you're over about 20. You just make the most of love while it's there. You stay positive and give what you can. And, if it passes, you go on more easily if you haven't sublimated your own desires and goals and money into a marital corporation. IMHO.