Reply #50: Get over having snooped and learned that you're not a God? or...

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Get over the fact that your wife is another mere mortal? Get over learning that maybe you have a little house cleaning of your own to do? Get over feeling that freezing moment of fear that your marriage is in jeopardy and probably has been for a long time and you haven't been aware of it?

Look, there is something she believes this guy has that you haven't. Your job is to think about whether you can offer a partner what she seeks. Can you change some? Can you accept the fact that she has changed some? Have you even looked at the woman as something other than your spouse in the last five years?

These are critical questions to ask yourself and they are not for the faint of heart. Neither is marriage. You thought it would be a fairytale? Wrong.

You snooped and now you're hurt. You had to know and now you do. If you hadn't suspected you weren't the object of her affection, you wouldn't have gone looking in the first place.

You want your marriage? Earn it the old fashioned way, listen to her. The way to a woman's heart is to listen to her as though she were/is the most fascinating person you've ever met. You may have to fake it some till you make it but that is key and it will always be the key to marriage with a...woman.