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SoCalDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-22-03 10:42 AM
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14. Give yourself permission to "let her go"...
Toxic parents do happen (I had TWO of them), and you cannot let it eat you up.. You will feel better if you just "graduate" from her existence.. You will have to accept that she will not take it well, but it's what YOU have to do to feel good about yourself..

Write her a LONG letter.. spill it all out... and then DON'T mail it..

When she contacts you, just accept it as you would from a casual acquaintance..

It's hard at first, but sometimes it's what will save your life :)
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  -Update: My son is still very much alive MissMillie  Nov-22-03 10:10 AM   #0 
  - I wish my parents had been like you  Kamika   Nov-22-03 10:12 AM   #1 
  - Boy does that ring a bell..  SoCalDem   Nov-22-03 10:15 AM   #2 
  - Well, this is how I put it to him  MissMillie   Nov-22-03 10:17 AM   #5 
  - Sounds like an appropriately loving response!  Rabrrrrrr   Nov-22-03 10:16 AM   #3 
  - Good luck to you  JitterbugPerfume   Nov-22-03 10:17 AM   #4 
  - I always say that the Army had it wrong  MissMillie   Nov-22-03 10:18 AM   #6 
  - And unfortunately kids don't come with instruction manuals  texasblueeyes   Nov-22-03 12:43 PM   #34 
  - or he might HATE her.  kgfnally   Nov-22-03 10:44 AM   #16 
     - not a single "D" and a few missed days  MissMillie   Nov-22-03 12:31 PM   #29 
  - From one mom to another  jsaro   Nov-22-03 10:20 AM   #7 
  - Gotcha... I'll tie that in w/ his visit at the doctor  MissMillie   Nov-22-03 10:22 AM   #9 
     - more than family doc might be needed  mopinko   Nov-22-03 10:55 AM   #22 
        - If it's needed, I will  MissMillie   Nov-22-03 12:41 PM   #33 
  - Good for you  LizW   Nov-22-03 10:21 AM   #8 
  - Way to go, mom  Booberdawg   Nov-22-03 10:23 AM   #10 
  - Punishing someone  kgfnally   Nov-22-03 10:47 AM   #18 
     - FWIW  MissMillie   Nov-22-03 12:37 PM   #32 
  - One more thing...  SoCalDem   Nov-22-03 10:29 AM   #11 
  - Isn't it tough,MissMillie?  DemEx_pat   Nov-22-03 10:33 AM   #12 
  - wow  kgfnally   Nov-22-03 10:36 AM   #13 
  - Give yourself permission to "let her go"...  SoCalDem   Nov-22-03 10:42 AM   #14 
  - Oh, I intend  kgfnally   Nov-22-03 10:48 AM   #20 
  - I suspect  MissMillie   Nov-22-03 10:47 AM   #19 
  - He's in high school?  kgfnally   Nov-22-03 10:50 AM   #21 
     - ROTC drill practice at 6:00 a.m.  MissMillie   Nov-22-03 12:33 PM   #31 
  - I agree.  liberalmuse   Nov-22-03 11:30 AM   #27 
  - You've done the right thing.  Character Assassin   Nov-22-03 10:42 AM   #15 
  - We haven't met before but I just had to say-  diamondsoul   Nov-22-03 10:46 AM   #17 
  - Good  jiacinto   Nov-22-03 10:57 AM   #23 
  - I only wish  bandy   Nov-22-03 10:57 AM   #24 
  - Teenagers are fun, aren't they?  liberalmuse   Nov-22-03 11:12 AM   #25 
  - *chuckle*  Booberdawg   Nov-22-03 11:22 AM   #26 
     - Manipulative little sh*ts, aren't they?  liberalmuse   Nov-22-03 11:33 AM   #28 
  - Good for you. Now, just try to keep a sense of humor if and when the  MissMarple   Nov-22-03 12:31 PM   #30 
  - Read all the replies...and  OKNancy   Nov-22-03 12:55 PM   #35 
  - What's wrong with consequences?  Catshrink   Nov-22-03 01:06 PM   #36 
  - You want to let him be responsible,  marzipanni   Nov-22-03 02:01 PM   #37 
     - Good point - maybe the kid needs structure.  Catshrink   Nov-22-03 02:10 PM   #38 
     - Marzipanni, he can keep you young, sweetheart.  MissMarple   Nov-22-03 07:22 PM   #39 

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