Reply #3: I think you have to assess how those relationships are touching the

[demgrrrll]

other areas of your life. If your life is good overall and
you have healthy relationships with others and good support perhaps you have the energy to maintain the relationships with your family at their current level.
Money is an issue and certainly can be a control issue. If you are generally unhappy in many circumstances then it may be to your benefit to keep contact at the minimum necessary to maintain the relationship and nurture other relationships where you feel more understood.
Seems like a simplistic response, I do realize that the issue is quite complex.