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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-13-03 09:19 AM
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32. I'm really worried about what you're doing.
I honestly don't know how us moving in together would change our relationship. But it's something I definately want to know - because if there is only one true love out there for someone - I believe that she's mine.

Because if she changes her mind about the living arrangements you could be stuck with a very expensive apartment.

You can be 'friends with benefits' without living together. I also perceive you to be a little to anxious for a relationship and I'm concerned that this one could blow up into your face.

You may be older, wiser and capable of handling this, but she was a 17 year old who was afraid of a commitment and then suddenly met bozo the bouncer who suddenly she decided to commit to a long term relationship. And Bozo the Bouncer sounds like a role model for Losers Incorporated.

I've been down this path before and believe me, I wish I could get back the time I wasted trying to make the relationship work. If she loves you and you love her, moving in together will only complicate matters - not make the relationship move forward. And don't kid yourself that your 'Friends with Benefits' will be any different from anyone else in the world who's been in that kind of relationship. Roommates work in only 2 kinds of situations: Rooming with your Friends or Rooming with your Partner - you try moving in with a combo of the 2 and you will be praying for the lease to end real quickly.

To make this relationship work, keep seperate living conditions and see where the path takes you. If you 2 were meant to live together you'll still feel the same way 6 months from now, but the difference is you'll be more assured of the relationship you have with her and HOPEFULLY she'll be out of the one she has with Karl. Even with Bush in the White House we will not see the end of the world just yet. Don't make a longterm financial plan just because you're still hot for an ex-girlfriend. Think with the brain between your ears, not the one between your legs. That's how most men and women get in trouble when they think with the wrong body parts!!!!
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  -Should I Move Into An Apartment With My Ex-Girlfriend? Magic Rat  Nov-13-03 08:06 AM   #0 
  - Be very careful my friend  Demman   Nov-13-03 08:08 AM   #1 
  - NO  truthspeaker   Nov-13-03 08:11 AM   #2 
  - Wait a second...  GOPisEvil   Nov-13-03 08:11 AM   #3 
  - well...  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 08:18 AM   #8 
     - Just make sure you're thinking clearly.  GOPisEvil   Nov-13-03 08:19 AM   #10 
     - Do you not watch "True Life"?  NicoleM   Nov-13-03 08:45 AM   #20 
        - the difference  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 08:53 AM   #21 
           - I'm really worried about what you're doing.  LynneSin   Nov-13-03 09:19 AM   #32 
           - You can still find out  NicoleM   Nov-13-03 09:20 AM   #33 
  - Magic Rat  La_Serpiente   Nov-13-03 08:11 AM   #4 
  - She needs to deal with her issues and clean up that mess first  LynneSin   Nov-13-03 08:12 AM   #5 
  - no, their relationship is done  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 08:41 AM   #17 
     - She asked you?????!!!!!!!!!!  LynneSin   Nov-13-03 09:41 AM   #42 
        - gee Lynne  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 09:45 AM   #44 
           - I hope so  LynneSin   Nov-13-03 09:59 AM   #49 
              - awww  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 10:21 AM   #51 
  - Sounds like bad news to me  Droopy   Nov-13-03 08:15 AM   #6 
  - Yes do it  Amaya   Nov-13-03 08:16 AM   #7 
  - Yeah, but don't take the plunge based on THINKING she wants him back.  GOPisEvil   Nov-13-03 08:19 AM   #9 
     - Yeah I'll agree with you there..  Amaya   Nov-13-03 08:22 AM   #12 
     - I have to agree with you GOP  LynneSin   Nov-13-03 08:22 AM   #13 
  - Just a suggestion: Deal with one issue at a time.  MercutioATC   Nov-13-03 08:20 AM   #11 
  - sounds like very treacherous ground  ixion   Nov-13-03 08:30 AM   #14 
  - Accident waiting to happen  Loonman   Nov-13-03 08:32 AM   #15 
  -'re not romantic are ya?  Amaya   Nov-13-03 08:39 AM   #16 
  - NO  MissMillie   Nov-13-03 08:43 AM   #18 
  - but how will I know  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 08:56 AM   #22 
     - Didn't you already do that?  Loonman   Nov-13-03 08:59 AM   #24 
     - i think she did  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 09:08 AM   #28 
        - wait a minute  truthspeaker   Nov-13-03 09:33 AM   #38 
     - Yeah, but you don't have to live with her for her to show you.  GOPisEvil   Nov-13-03 09:02 AM   #25 
        - well the apartment thing is non-negotiable  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 09:09 AM   #29 
        - Can I ask why?  GOPisEvil   Nov-13-03 09:29 AM   #35 
        - well the move would be happening in June  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 09:35 AM   #39 
        - Oh, the move's in June...that's an important detail!  GOPisEvil   Nov-13-03 09:43 AM   #43 
           - she's living with Carl until then  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 09:47 AM   #45 
              - *shakes head* this is TOO strange...LOL  GOPisEvil   Nov-13-03 09:51 AM   #47 
        - I have to agree 120% with GOP - she could be using you  LynneSin   Nov-13-03 09:36 AM   #41 
           - I have six months to decide  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 09:48 AM   #46 
        - And you will be left trying to figure out how  Misinformed01   Nov-13-03 09:35 AM   #40 
        - Here here!  MissMillie   Nov-13-03 09:24 AM   #34 
  - Go for it. You only live, and die, once, no?  JanMichael   Nov-13-03 08:45 AM   #19 
  - I say  marley   Nov-13-03 08:59 AM   #23 
  - I wish you luck my friend...  Rowdyboy   Nov-13-03 09:05 AM   #26 
  - To echo another DUer  Loonman   Nov-13-03 09:07 AM   #27 
  - ooooh, i like that  Magic Rat   Nov-13-03 09:10 AM   #30 
  - I would think twice if I were you  Bronco69   Nov-13-03 09:12 AM   #31 
  - I've never thought it was a good idea  SOteric   Nov-13-03 09:29 AM   #36 
  - So, you are going to move in and rescue a  Misinformed01   Nov-13-03 09:31 AM   #37 
  - Advice from my therapist  merry_jane   Nov-13-03 09:56 AM   #48 
  - if you don't do it, you'll forever wonder what would have happened  dfong63   Nov-13-03 10:18 AM   #50 
  - Whoa, slow down there pardner  MadHound   Nov-13-03 11:32 AM   #52 
  - Careful, Brooklyn girls are trouble  sleipnir   Nov-13-03 11:36 AM   #53 

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